The hidden connection between chronic stress and hormonal imbalance.

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0:58 Here's your host, Doctor Eldred Taylor. Hello, this is Wednesday morning, and that means it's time. It's nine am, so it means it's time for the Aceless Blueprint. And I am doctor Taylor, the hormone Doctor and the spiritual MD. And today is a little bit unusual. I you know, I started, Uh is Lalita here? Oh Lolita, thank you. I hadn't heard from you. So she's here. So all right, all right, great, Lalita, you can come on. Ah. You know I hadn't heard from you. I knew you were a professional. I had every confidence in the world that you were going to be here. I just hadn't heard from you. I had a backup. So I am so glad that you are here, because what I've started doing is that at first I was just doing this by myself, but what I wanted to do is to start having guests on who can also add to our broadcast and help our listeners and also hopefully I can do something to help her audience. So Lalida, let me, let me, let me introduce you, and then we can start a conversation. Okay, So mss Garin she is a stress management coach whose personal journey began as an immigrant who overworked herself into a health crisis. Now she ended up in the er with severe unstoppable bleeding when she was in her thirties, which she's probably only about thirty one right now, but anyway, which doctors attributed to stress.

2:24 But she refused to just take a pill and approach and began exploring stress management through breath work, yoga, and boundaries. So Lalita, she's a best selling author. Can you I'm so happy you're here. Can you just tell us something about yourself, tell us about your journey, and we'll talk about all of the things you have to offer, and we'll see how we can compliment each other. So the flora is yours. Well, thank you so much, such an honor to be here this morning. And you know, when they think about my journey to this point, really even look like it's such an impressive journey. Yes, I'm an immigrant. I came from Lithuania, came to us, and I worked very hard because I knew if I really want to achieve the dream, that's what we've been told, that we need to work hard and not take care of ourselves and hammer hammer and then we'll be happy. But I think you don't have to change the country to have an inspirational story.

3:26 But there are so many, especially women, that are going through the same thing that I was going through, because we have to take care of our families, that people will love the businesses there, our goals and not over really, we're continuously overdoing it for somebody else. But I think my journey is no special. I am no special compared to any other woman that is listening in right now and thinking, you know what, I didn't change the countries, but I'm working over time and I need to take care of everyone else. So I think I just took time to really shine a light onto the moments in my life that actually changed the way I see life and how I start living from that moment on.

4:07 Yeah, and you know, I talk about the stress of high performing women, but I think almost all women are high performing, you know, because they are They are their caretakers. You know me and are a little selfish. We care about ourselves, our you know, our needs, our wants. But women they look at the whole picture. And sometimes that's good and then sometimes they can be detrimental. You know what. What do you think about that? There was a the way I think it shows how women and men look at life. I remember there was a story it says the difference between boy Scouts and girl Scouts are that the boy scouts making a plan how they're going to get to that hill, and the girl scouts making a plan what they're going to eat when they get there. You know.

5:00 The other thing I would say is that you know, women, they everything kind of messes you know, I see men when they go to work, they think about work. They don't think about home. When they get home, they think about home. Me and women they think about home when they're at work, and work when they're at home, and it's just all messes up and then they and so it all kind of you know, gets jumbled in together. I think men are better at compartmentalization. And they should because I believe women the masculine energy needs to be as supportive and protective of the feminine energy. And if we will have imagined a hunting where the man needs to kill the beast and bring it home to feed the family, and he's going to look at this deer and start crying because it looks so prettian and there is the one that kill it, I don't think a species will have survived. So I think nature's way of saying, you know, we're just going to make very you know, they're narrow thinking and you have a focus, you know, and then you're going to go for it.

6:02 And I think we just blend in so perfectly because it's just thrue in and yeah, because we're better for each other and we should support each other. And you know that's exactly what I'm talking about is that ageless blueprint. There is an ageless blueprint. Like you're saying, there's feminine energy and masculine energy, and those energies are different, but they compliment each other. And I think one of the problems is we try to make we try to make the other person have that same energy. I say, men, we want women to act like men, and women want men to act like women. They but they can't. We got to understand that there's different physiology and there's different energies.

6:42 And you know, I'm from this medical background. I'm so glad you're introducing energies and so because I believe in those two. Now I didn't that's not what we teach in medical school, but life has taught me about these different energies. So talk a little bit more about that, because it sounds better coming from you than from me. But I'll just just compliment what you're saying. I heard someone explain very well, what is the balance between the feminine and excuse between the feminine and masculine energy. It's like an ocean. The feminine energy is like a water it can change sheep, but the masculine energy is like the bottom of the ocean. So both of those parts create a beautiful ecosystem. That's where the life is. Right.

7:33 But if you will take away the water from the ocean, what it becomes a desert. And when we look at the masculine energy, it loses the purpose. So it needs to have a purpose in order to live and thrive. And I see a lot of research then the men who retire, they just start getting sick and die out faster than those that keep on working because they have the purpose. And now if we look at the feminine energy is the water. That means if you will take the bottom off right, there is no more of the bottom of the ocean. The water will change shape, so it can evaporate, can become snow. But also at the same time, even if there is a bottom, it can be very calmsy, but then also can be a hurricane.

8:22 So the woman every day you don't know what you're going to get right because there is so much going on. And when you look at the water, water is all the source of the life and the energy, the creative energy. And we can see it here what went wrong in our society these days because when you look at the research, the number one killer of women is not cancer. Everybody thinks it's cancer, it's not. It's a heart disease. And the heart disease comes why because of inflammation. Inflammation really caused by stress. And if we look at them, let's say compare families one hundred and fifty years ago to now.

9:03 What happened is the women rights and women want to say we are the same like man, you need to treat this with respect, and I totally agree, we need to be all treated equally. But what happened. I believe in order for the women to show their work, they not became women, they became men in our world. One we look at this now like a professional dressed woman, what's she looks like a man wearing pants? She she's going this ra ra And that's what really slowly also killing and impacting the hormones and everything else for women.

9:43 Because when you look at the men need stress too. They need to stosstrun to calm their stress, to regulate their stress. That's where men thrive and the project focused environment, you know, and they love how you said that. Men just have you know, they go to work and these are super occupied with this. That's how the nature intended, but men tried in that kind of environment where they have to constantly solve problems, they have to move forward. There is a competition. This is a good thing for men. And so when I have a coaching clients that come to me and they say, oh, I don't know what to do. When doctor said they need to handle the stress. For the men, I say, just go hunting, go video place you go. Men go be a main key. There are the stoster on things. But for the women is the opposite, is that we need to feel mellow and include it and have a physical touch and and so it's we should not have the stosterrun. And so now women one week, when women feline energy goes into such a disaster and driven environment, we get sick. And if we do not manage that balance out and and bring oxytocin and you know that the bonding chemicals and all that, then we get sick. And then also what also a huge thing that changed over years and let's say, you know, fifty or one hundred years ago, we'd had multiple generations living in the same household. You know what they say, it takes a village to grow a child. That means

11:16 there are so many women around that moment that there will be no child that will be not attended because somebody will see him crying means he was helping to regulate the child's health mental health as well. And the women can share chores, they can communicate with other women. It's the community. Women need the community. And now we got to the point where we have only one family in the household, and this is what starts happening of the women expect that the men will support them in the way only the women can and the men when the women stop complaining about how they're tired after work because I already worked all day and now have to deal with you, and then it's a huge relationship problem.

12:01 Exactly. You know what you are. So let me tell you. I agree with everything you say said and I think what we talked about before. What I try to provide is the physical objective evidence. I believe one hundred This is what I say all the time. I wrote a book called The Me and my wife wrote a book called The Stress Connection. The stress is the connection to everything. Stress is why. Stress is why you had that initial bleeding episode when you were thirty. What did stress do is said, hey, look this is not a safe environment. We don't need to ovulate and have a baby. So it's stopped ovulation. When you stopped ovulation, you stopped making your hardmone car progesterone. That progesterone calms down the uterus so that you don't have heavy bleeding. It calms down the brain so you don't have emotional outbursts. So what I say is that the physiology also affects the psychology.

12:55 Are the personality or whatever. So what I try to show these high performing women are any woman, is show hey, look this is what your cortisol circadian rhythm looks like. It's totally out of order, as low in the morning as high at night. That's why you're tired during the day and you can't sleep at night. I always say it's hard to manage something that you cannot measure. So I try to measure harmones through saliva testing and cortisol and then the other thing it's called heart rate variability is another way to see that balance of sympathetic and parasympathetic. So that's where I come from. I say, hey, I try to fix the hardware, so it makes you fixing the software easier because I believe that if your cortisol rhythm is out of balance, and if your esogen progesterone is out of balance, it's very hard to do that kind of work. And that kind of work usually happens in the forties and fifties when women are in perimenopauls and menopause, when they're going through this stressful transition in their physiology and in their environment. Like you're saying, you got kids that are growing up, you got parents that are that are coming to live with you because they're sick, and so all of this is that stress component that I believe is the and when you're talking about heart disease and inflammation that comes from stress, so everything. So that's why your stress management is so important. And I think we talked before is that a lot of times that the most difficult patients are those patients dealing with stress during that transition of physiologic stress. So what do

14:28 you think about what do you think about that? I agree all that you said. And you know, when I started my own stress management journey, I did a lot of what they call now stress management, bandages, meditation, you go diaries on all of this, But only when I started digging deeper into why I'm so stressed out. I didn't even expected that my childhood experience, all my childhood traumas that I learned how to live in, the patterns how to manage stress and how to live in general were made in my childhood. I had no idea that that is impacting my adult life. And you know, I grew up with a father who used to be an alcoholic, and he's okay now for twenty years. But when I was growing up, I did not have a stable environment. I basically my default line was to be anxious and stressed out and hyper vigilant all the time.

15:30 And so when I change countries and I become an adult, and I added more stress into my body, and then he just couldn't take it anymore. And now when we look at stress and I start coaching someone who comes to me for help, I always ask them, how is your how are your parents managing stress? Where did you learn how to manage stress? And we will continue doing the same thing over and over that we've been taught, knowing thinking that that's the way it is, because we don't know anything other. And so somebody who I'm sure we can find you even similarities with the clients that we work or you work, is that could be the same person age, could be even looks like the same diet and the same the way they live, and it looks like the successful and everything is great from the outside.

16:26 But those who came from the environment that they are very harden themselves. And when you look at the high achievers, that's me. They think they're not good enough. That's what they keep on. Need to push themselves to the point of exhaustion. And that's what I think the mental part that we also need to address when we manage any stress in the body. Yeah, and so now here's what I will This is what I found is a missing link, you know, being an OBG I n is that I really didn't have a good way to measure hormones and measure stress. Okay, I just didn't bir control pills. We give ANTID presidents. That's still what's happening now. Until I discovered saliva testing twenty five twenty five years ago, we wrote the book called all Your Hartmones Making You Sick? And now I can actually see that the person's progesterone this low and if you had had a saliva test back when you were in the thirties, they would have seen, oh wow, she's bleeding because her progesterone is low, and progesterone is what slows down the growth of estrogen. But you can't see that in blood. And we can talk about that because blood is water soluble and hormones are fat soluble.

17:31 So if you look into saliba, you can see those imbalances. You can see that the cortisol curve is disrupted and a lot of times, and I've found this, if I show a patient, this is what's going on in your physiology. Is not a sign of weakness. It's not a sign of anything like that. If we fix this and then you go back and start doing your coaching, because I've had interviews with other people, they say it helps to make the coaching stick because they're not going through all of these physio logical you know, ups and downs. Now, and here's the other thing. When your cort isol is low, that means you have low energy, and it takes energy to do these practices. It takes energy to calm your brain down. And so when you don't have that energy and you have the turbulence of unbalanced hormones, it can cause it. It can make it look like where your information isn't sticking or isn't working. But it's really is that the patient just can't absorb it because she's in such a disregulated state. What do you think about that?

18:33 That's how I look at it. I'm all for the coaching and stuff because even for me when I was and just one other thing, you were talking about how men when they don't have a purpose, they just fade away, and that's what happened to me at sixty four. I'm like, what am I going to do? Am I going to fade away and die? Or am I going to find a new purpose? And that's what this is. You know, I've never done this before until a year and a half ago, because hey, I guess I recognize masculine energy and I needed to do this. So anyway, so where we started from is do you think that a little bit of objective evidence? Because also you can redo those tests and say, hey, look look how far you've come the cords, our curve is better now, your hormones are in balance, are you sleeping better? How are things? So I've always I always try to have guests on where what I could do could enhance your clients, and whatever you do could also be the second layer of my clients, you know. So that's how that's how I look at this, and I think that's how we talked about it when we talked about doing this. So let's just talk about how those two things, objective evidence and subjective evidence could actually enhance a person's outcome. All right.

19:48 I agree that the more measuring we can do, the more then we can understand what is really going on. But I think, like everything else in life, it is very holistic. That has to do with mind, body and soul. So you can measure the body and what is happening. But where I come in, I that's why can I support someone who is in that mental state you know wheighs your mind and you definitely like, I love how you said that. You know, I can coach somebody as much as you know want to do to the point of the no return. But if the body says I cannot do it, I cannot support this. This is it's like running like a car with only one wheel, you know.

20:34 So let's see if the mind and body and soul is a tricycle, you know, you definitely have one more wheel, and I think, you know what comes to medicine, So many times they treat only the body but don't care of the mind. And then when you look at the therapy and coaching and things like that, then they're really looking at the mind but not really paying attention to the body. Right. And so when I think we need to start looking at the things very holistically, that has to do with all of those things specifically, especially when we read, we look at the mind state, you know. And I when I got sick, I was not depressed. I was very driven. I was goal oriented. And when I told my friends, I'm like, well, you know, this is what happened. Many opinions I got it was just stick a pill, and I'm like, well, I'm not gonna just stick a pill.

21:24 And just I'm like, I'm not depressed. I mean, what pills do you want to give me? Apart from you know what, the doctors wanted to give me some other pills for the body when they realized it has to do a lot with my mind and what do I think, and what my energy goes, what are my patterns and how I push myself And basically I was bullying myself into success. That's what they teach my stop bullying yourself. Yeah, and so you know the thing is, I mean, even with this, uh you know, I want this to be successful. So I'm like bullying, I'm like, is she going to show I was like, you know what I said, I said, if she doesn't show up, I'm not gonna worry about it. I'll have a little backup. I'll talk about what I want to talk about. So that's kind of me I've been. You know, it's learning that, hey, look you can't you can't make reality do it. You have to just live through it. You know. It's almost it's popularly now that letting go kind of things that you can't. You can't force an outcome. You just got to keep doing what you're doing. So so talk about that how you coach your clients, because because you know, I call myself the hermone doctor and the spiritual MD.

22:32 And then what you trying? What I say is said, yeah, you got to get your heartmones right, then you get your mind right, and only then can you be can your man be quiet enough to connect with your spirit? And that's how I kind of look at clamming that ladder, What is that kind of how you look at it. Yes, So when someone comes to me for a stress management coaching, usually they already been to a doctor and the doctor said, you need to start taking care of yourself. You know. When they started my career as a coach, I would go a lot to networking events and you know, this is how they say you need to bring you know, and I started like twelve years ago now, and I will meet a lot of people in those events. So the moment I will tell them that I'm a trest management coach, I will always hear, oh my gosh, everybody needs you. And then I will see, well, wonderful, would you like to schedule an appointment with me? And this is where what the back pedaling starts, and oh, I am so busy. I don't think I can do this.

23:32 This is great, but yeah, I'll let you know. So and those who actually came through, it's because they already have a problem, because they already in pain, and they think the real change can happen two ways, or you have to be so in pain, or you have to be so inspired. So you see your change when you were retired and you're like, you know what, No, I don't want to sit at home. It happened not from pain. You were not in pain. You were inspired to do something. You wanted to shine your light. You wanted you know, I want to share this with well, I want to change the world. Of course there was some pain because you were baby thinking that you know, well, now what I'm going to do. But someone who comes to me and they say like the body like in my case, no that the body said, okay, I can I do this anymore? Mine came from pain. So when somebody comes to me already for the stress management coaching, that means they already been through the stage where most of the time there was already pain. And I was asking myself, like, why is this happening? That everybody knows that stress is bad for us, but not many wants to tackle this.

24:41 And I finally realized the reason was when you meet someone and you know, maybe you haven't seen it for a few months or even years, or even co workers after the weekend, we always say okay, so how are you? You know? What's new? You barely hear somebody saying, you know what. This morning, I woke up and I had this beautiful cup of coffee. I was looking in the birsture. Nobody says that in our society is the hustle, the bustle and kill yourself trying. It's always, oh my gosh, I'm so busy. I'm running this company, and my parents came for visit, and my three children now starting in college, I have some So I realized what comes to stress management and anything that has to do with our mental state.

25:26 We are wearing the badge of honor of who is more stressed, and I realized it's really coming from That was the reason. And when I listened to a few videos when I was just introduced to I just actually found it on YouTube. I don't even know how, but doctor gob Or Marty that he was talking a lot about, you know, childhood experience and how they define who we are as human as adults. So basically he said, those who are the overachievers always hustling and bustling, which is that's what our society tells us to do. Those children who grow up in the environment that were not loved and appreciated for who they were without doing nothing, just as a beautiful child, you know, they if they feel like they have to produce, they have to be useful, or they will be excluded from the group. And you know, when you think about it, hours we're human, we are tried people. We need to be in the group. We cannot be alone. And I mean, look at the pandemic.

26:32 There were so many changes in the humanity because we were so isolated. And even now we have the most people on the planet, but even in cities, people live with the people in the house and they feel isolated and lonely because we are being excluded from the group. And we become people polices from day one because we know if I'm not going to please the adults, me as a child not going to survive. So we carry this mentality into our adult life and then it becomes the society norm of you have to continuously produce, you constantly need to run after that horizon. And then on top of it, oh, how dare you to take care of yourself?

27:16 Yeah? Yeah, and so I'm sorry, go ahead. Yeah. It's like a car. When we have a car, we understand that we need to put the aasen and we need to change oil, and we need to maintain in order to perform well. But when comes to the human body, mind, and soul, we just want to push you to the point of exhaustion without taking care of it. And I think it's time to start taking care of it. Yeah, And here's what I found because I see those women who are like that, and most of them are in pain. And then what I can do is if I show them their quotas occurs, I show them their imbalances. Now they understand and then they become inspired. See I think it's talking about Okay, I see the problem. I see that there is a solution because I call it harmone confusion. The problem is those patients they go to the doctor, they get a blood test, and they're told that they're normal, that their blood tests are normal. That's the problem. I tell people, you don't have ten or fifteen problems that you're talking about. You have two problems.

28:18 You're trying to find the answer in the blood and you're not going to see it there. That's the wrong test. You have to look in the saliva. And then the other thing is most women and society and the media are focused on estrogen and testosterone. Now people are getting these two pellets and it's causing problems. And I see it every day. And the real issue is progesterone and cortisol, stress and the lack of ovulation causing you not to have enough progesterone. But the only way you see that is through saliva. And I've just seen that. Once I show a person this is what you're doing to yourself, then they become inspired. So you have the pain, I understand whether pain is coming from. Now, I'm inspired to change it. So that's where I think we could push some of those people to you. Are those people who have that I can, I can I can teach you because once my patients see the saliva test, they understand it.

29:13 I could teach you how you could add that into your practice. So those are some things that you know. I was excited about is that there are some things that I could And that's what I try to do is to try and help someone else's business to be better at doing what they may that may help them be better at helping their clients. So it's break time. We've been we've done this for thirty minutes. We have a little break, and then we have another fifteen twenty minutes and Rebel, do we have any questions? And I want you to talk about your books. Okay, I want you to talk to your best selling book, and so that would be on my second half. Do we have any questions, Rebel, Do you have any questions? That's our producer.

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31:27 All right, we're back with Ms Garin and she has just really enlightened us in on what she does and how stress affects women, high performing women, and all the things that she's gone through. And we've tried to come up with some synergy that, you know, so that everyone can benefit as much as they can from help from her and from me. I'm learning things all the time. You know. One thing I want to talk about is I want to talk about your books. But I've been study something called evolutionary stress. How we are living in an environment that we were not designed for and that evolution has not caught up with, and so that people don't understand that just daily life is a constant stressor because your body is like, what is going on here? Why are you staying inside so much? Why aren't you outside with nature?

32:20 Why aren't you letting the sunshine tell me when I should wake up, and why don't you let the birds singing help calm my mind. So it's all of this evolutionary stress that people don't realize and that, like you're saying, push push push, that's not what we were designed to do. What So let's just talk about that for a minute, and then we're going to go to your books or whatever else you want to want to talk about. All right, definitely agree with you that in today's world, it's more stressed than it used to. You know, the first thing that I recommend my clients is to stop watching the news. Yes, yes, I tell everybody. I never watched it. I was like, hey, if if it's something important, somebody will tell me. But otherwise I don't want to hear it. Yeah, so go ahead, and I'm sorry.

33:06 And the problem with that is that we constantly bombarded with the negative news. It's like very very fear based. And when you let's see, we compare one hundred years ago when we had no TV and no phone, no internet. We did not know really what was happening on another side of the world. It was just our little village. That's mean our mental preparedness was able to handle whatever will come at us. But now when we look at the rest of the world, it looks like, oh my gosh, we're living in the worst time. But when you look at the history, I don't think there was a day in our lives that there was no war. At some point, there were always somewhere droughts, there were always somewhere floods there.

33:51 It's like there's this always thing that's going on. And I saw this research that this is not the time of the most people killed each other or die. That was like during the one hundred times on the you know, many many thousand years ago, when they were really coming and killing the whole village. But now we have on the news, you know, somebody got the car stolen, somebody got shot in the nightclub something, and that we immediately jump into extreme of oh my gosh, my life is in danger. My children I in danger. And the sad part is that the media is really getting all our fear more up because it is easier to When you have people who are in fear, it's like it becomes a herd. You know, we are the tribe people. We are like the herd. So if you start shaking, you know, one person, then everybody picks up. We're becoming this very stress environment that is now influencing our health. And that's the one part is that we're being bombarded from all of this thing that we're not equipped to process it.

35:04 But also we come from the environment that we already touched on that how dare you to take care of yourself? So if you know this moment what I just said, that you turn off the news and there's always a history somebody's dying, you cannot have everyone. I bet a lot of people got triggered by that because immediately said, oh, how dare you? You have no heart? And and what do you mean? I need to take care of myself because we've been thought that you have to sacrifice, especially women through generations years we've been taught that we are the mothers, are caregivers that are in all of that that we need to do. But also we forgot the part that we need to take care of ourselves because if we don't take care of ourselves, we cannot take care of anyone else. It's like again expecting the car keep running without any gas in it. It makes no sense for the car. But somehow we forget that we humans also need to take care of ourselves and the same forment too. We all need to start taking care of ourselves. And on top of that, there's so much of competition. Again comes from the place of scarcity. Off, we don't have enough, but when you look at today's environment, we have too much. Yes, yeah, shoes, can you buy that one sale? I came from Lithuania and I was born in Soviet Union, and I was a teenager where independence happened. So it was beautiful to be in that

36:35 part of the history and say with my own eyes, but I remember there were plenty of winters when I will have only one pair of shoes. Yeah, and that's what I survived. And you know, I when I participate in a lot of podcasts, probably an hour two hundred and sometimes we'll get this question. It will say, so, okay, well, you came from you know, used to be Soviet Union, from Lithuania, and now it came to a Maryrior. So you you're so happy now? And how do you compare stress in different countries? And you cannot compare stress to different countries because it's not about the country. It is about the environment that somebody is in, meaning the support that they get. You can look at the family. Even in the same hour country. Here you can look at someone who doesn't have much, but they have loving family, They help each other, they're in a loving relationship where the feminine and the masculine and the balance, and they can have not that much, but they in a happier and healthier state than those who, let's say millionaires and have a corporations running and looks from outside that they're very successful and they should be happy because our quality of life being measured by how much money you have, not how good your relationships are, not how much you love in appreciate yourself. And you know what really sad is that you know, when I have clients, that's the

38:06 number one thing they tell me. And by the way, I'm going to give you now an advice that they give to my clients the moment I see them. So those who listening in, use your phone for something good this time, and then set an alarm to go off on a like let's say every hour. That's the best, and then whatever is on it gives you a signal that you need to stop doing whatever you're doing. Of course, if it's safe, don't do this while you're driving. And you know, while operating heavy machinery all that. When you're safe, you stop what are you doing? And you give taking one minute for yourself, You close your eyes, drink some water.

38:48 If you stand all day, maybe this is the time for you to sit down. If you're sitting all the time, how about you're going to stand up? How about you you absolutely nothing for one minut in it? Now? Who's listening in? You need to pay attention how that made you feel? Did you feel what is she talking about? This is ridiculous? Or one minute it's not gonna change my life, or I wish one minute will change my life. This is all the excuses that we tell ourselves. This is bullying ourselves into to be something that we're not. This is pulling ourselves into how dare you to put the gas in my car?

39:33 Yeah? And this is what we need to start paying attention to because the moment when we don't give self care, we are dishonoring our own needs. And so when somebody comes in and I give them and say, okay, how about we will start with something small. Give yourself breaks even two three breaks during the day, and I look at them and I see the reaction. We're the struggling with and majority of them they say, are you kidding me? I don't have time for this because I have to take care of my trick kids, my aging parents, my five business businesses, and there's no way. And I tell them, okay, so who is going to take care of those kids, the parents and the businesses when you will be in the hospital.

40:18 Exactly. Yeah, So when we start, you know, and this is nothing I'm saying, nothing new here. You know, it's like you cannot pour out of empty pitch. So you need to feel yourself in order, you know, to give everybody else. But also I think we forget, especially the parents who I still have children in their house. Is that you know, the question is, okay, if you don't know how to handle stress, and this is what I asked my clients and say, okay, how do you handle stress? How do you manage it? They're like, I don't know. Have a glass of wine by the end of the day. That's my stress management, right, And they say, okay, how were your parents handling stress? What stress was prominent in your childhood?

40:59 Was your moment was telling you how to emotionally regulate what she had the routine, how she can you know, lower her stress. Was she teaching you something I've never heard of? Oh my gosh, my mother was great with stress. And this is where we grew up in the adult. No, because of the same pushing that you need to continue going and going going. And then they said, okay, so you learned how to manage your stress from the environment that you grew up how they were managing stress. And then if you have kids, you are showing your kids by example how they will manage the stress. And you know, I don't know if you, I'm sure you do. You know they say the first six Well, this is not They say, this is scientifically proven that the first six to seven years of a child's life they're in a data state. They're hypnotized. So you're being programmed before you ever remember it. You just remember what you remember past age six or seven, But you were really programmed before that. You saw things and you couldn't filter it and say this is good or bad. You just mimicked it. And that's the subconscious man that you're trying to break through. Is that hypnotizing that happened and you don't remember being hypnotized? Okay, you just it's that that's what you had to break through. Uh, And that's what I'm understanding. You had to break through and you knew that that's where the problem was. It wasn't your present situation of coming to America. It was really that initial situation of how you grew up. And you just

42:31 remember the alcoholic part. You don't remember the six seven years before your memory kicked in. So that's that's something that's very important. And whenever something I always ask people, when was the last time you felt normal? And sometimes I'll say that before the divorce or whatever. But if they ever say I've always been like this, I asked them, Okay, tell me about your childhood, because I know that's because you don't remember ever being normal, because you came out of that hypnotized state program to be abnormal, program to be stressed, and so you have this underlying stress that you don't know where it comes from, but it came from there. So is that how you look at it? But that's that's how I understand it. Yes, yes, absolutely. And when I was growing up, what I learned is that I always have to be hyper vigilant.

43:20 I don't know what's going to happen every day. I remember I was afraid going from after school going home because I did not know when my dad will come back, in what state he would be. And the child needs to develop a safe environment in order to function well as an adult. And I did not have that safe environment. And you know, you know, for those who listening in they say, oh, yeah, you know what, I had a happy childhood. I don't really care. I can stop listening to this you know podcast right now. But we all have childhood traumas the moment we're being born and brought into this life, we already it starts with a huge trauma because when you look all ways and mental and mind and body and soul, we've been you know, we belong to some another body, some comfortable and fed and warm and safe. And then suddenly we are seeing the light and the human speaking and I'm old, and then it's spanking, and now I'm crying. Please tell me if there's a person on this planet that grew up without childhold trauma.

44:31 So I'm an OBE. I mean I'm really trainings of OBE. So hey, I witness firsthand. It is a traumatic experience for a patient. I mean there's screaming and hollering, there's all kinds of things coming at you when I'm sitting down there waiting for that baby. So you're right, it is traumatic. I didn't really think of it like that. Yeah, that going down the berthing down. Think how your head is being squeezed and then sometimes they put four steps on you and squeeze your head some more. Ah, it's you're you're You're exactly right. You come in with trauma. And then there's a lot of mental and you know, all the emotions that the mother feels to the whole, you know, pregnancy, that's also what the child feels. That's why we need to have regulated adults, because the child doesn't know how to regulate emotions, you know, the moment something happens, the child always looking at the parents like is my mom calm? If she's calm, I'll be calm.

45:26 But if they're not come, I'm not calm. And when you know, I remember when I discovered that my child was alcohod was really very traumatic, and I first I thought, I became very angry at my parents, and they became angry at my dad that he was drinking, and I thought, well, first of all, it was so disappointing because they thought, Okay, I'm so damaged that there's no way out for me. And then I was angry that how they are they not to take care of an only child they had. But then I think a lot of forgiveness, and then that it came through because I realized that my parents grew, you know, very similar environments and that's really going from generation to generation. And when you look at it now, who's listening in, think about your family history and let's just think about you know, the United States of America will be two hundred and fifty years old as a very young country, and you know, everyone has a lineage that you know came from somewhere else, came from immigrant and this information in your blood and yourselves that life is hard and life is struggling. We are already very stressed based we already come with this setting that everything is we have to become. We cannot be comfortable. And then with the herd, with the tribe, and so when we see somebody else offering, we want to help them as well.

46:55 And then we like you know, a school of fish, that we are so depend on each other. So even if somebody says, you know what, that doesn't really touch me. Well, it does because when you go to work, or you go you see a cashier at the grocery store and then she snaps at you because probably there's a lot of stress going on, and we need to remember that we have to have empathy towards each other, but also we need to have the self care towards ourselves, and we need to honor our needs when we feel tired. And this is time for you to sit down. It's the time to just do our little things that honor our own needs because when we grew up in the environment that we felt abandoned, is the worst thing that you can do is to abandon yourself. And you know, somebody right now can say I was never abandoned by my parents. I lived in a happy family. Let's just look us our and you deal with babies. So the moment we are born, we separated from the mother and we put in another room with all other babies. That's a serious trauma right there. Fear of abandonment number one.

48:06 Then look, you know in this country, how how many months as the mother gets to visit with her baby. Three months later, you see that woman already hustling and bustling back at work because she needs to provide for them. Leada Melita, I would love to keep talking to you, but I know my producer is gonna cut us off a little bit, so no, but hey, we rebel, what can we do? Do we have any questions? Real quickly? But hey, look, thank you so much. This is so you are just you are just really putting a different face on what I do. And like I said, I look at it more objectively. But I know all of this is important and I encourage all of this, but sometimes you have to get that baseline working. So Rebel, I know where it's time to end. Right.

49:00 A lot of people asking how far back can you actually how can you access in the past, and a lot of people saying that you need to have Miss Lily's back because. Yes, I got you. Okay, Hey, so hey we got a so you've got another invitation because I could have continued to listen to you. And I really think, like I said, this, this is two sides of the same coin. And that's what I want people to see that there is a there's a physiologic component, and then there's also like a like I say, a body component, and there's a man component, and you have to get those two I think in order to get to the spiritual component. So that's what we're moving our way up to. And we started talking about energies and all that stuff, and that's that's a ladder you have to climb. So one last little twenty seconds and we're going to have her contact information, all that stuff you know in the description.

49:57 So you got twenty seconds. We don't need to discover how I remember the question. We need to think about where we're coming from. No, you don't need to go start digging anything in the past. Pay attention to where your stressor's coming now, pay attention to what triggers you. Now get help from our doctor Taylor here, and start regulating yourself and seeking help and allowing yourself to be the best you and give yourself so you can give to other people. I'm gonna say this one thing. Let's talk about the present moment, because they say, if you're anxious, you're thinking about the future. If you're depressed, you're thinking about the past. So think about this one moment and your anxiety and depression goes away. All right, So we're gonna end with that.

50:38 Thank you again, Stay on and we'll talk a little bit afterwards. Okay, all right, thank. You everyone, thanks for joining doctor Taylor today. If you missed any part of this show, just check out the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts. Angel's Blueprint is every Wednesday at nine am Eastern Time on W FOURC Radio at W FOURC dot com. Together, we discovered ancient secrets to better health through science and spirituality made for modern times. Until then, feel free to check out Angeless Blueprint podcast dot com and Taylor Mvformulations dot com for more information