May 13, 2026

The hidden connection between chronic stress and hormonal imbalance.

The hidden connection between chronic stress and hormonal imbalance.
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Season 2

Dr. Eldred Taylor welcomes stress management coach and bestselling author Lolita Garin for a powerful conversation on stress, hormones, trauma, and healing. Lolita shares her journey from immigrant burnout and health crisis to helping high-performing women regulate stress through boundaries, self-care, and emotional awareness. Together they explore cortisol, progesterone, childhood programming, feminine and masculine energy, and why true healing requires balancing mind, body, and spirit.

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Here's your host, Doctor Eldred Taylor.

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Hello, this is Wednesday morning, and that means it's time.

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It's nine am, so it means it's time for the

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Aceless Blueprint. And I am doctor Taylor, the hormone Doctor

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and the spiritual MD. And today is a little bit unusual.

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I you know, I started, Uh is Lalita here? Oh Lolita,

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thank you. I hadn't heard from you. So she's here.

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So all right, all right, great, Lalita, you can come on. Ah.

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You know I hadn't heard from you. I knew you

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were a professional. I had every confidence in the world

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that you were going to be here. I just hadn't

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heard from you. I had a backup. So I am

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so glad that you are here, because what I've started

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doing is that at first I was just doing this

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by myself, but what I wanted to do is to

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start having guests on who can also add to our

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broadcast and help our listeners and also hopefully I can

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do something to help her audience. So Lalida, let me,

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let me, let me introduce you, and then we can

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start a conversation. Okay, So mss Garin she is a

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stress management coach whose personal journey began as an immigrant

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who overworked herself into a health crisis. Now she ended

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up in the er with severe unstoppable bleeding when she

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was in her thirties, which she's probably only about thirty

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one right now, but anyway, which doctors attributed to stress.

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But she refused to just take a pill and approach

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and began exploring stress management through breath work, yoga, and boundaries.

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So Lalita, she's a best selling author. Can you I'm

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so happy you're here. Can you just tell us something

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about yourself, tell us about your journey, and we'll talk

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about all of the things you have to offer, and

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we'll see how we can compliment each other. So the

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flora is yours.

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Well, thank you so much, such an honor to be

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here this morning. And you know, when they think about

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my journey to this point, really even look like it's

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such an impressive journey. Yes, I'm an immigrant. I came

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from Lithuania, came to us, and I worked very hard

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because I knew if I really want to achieve the dream,

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that's what we've been told, that we need to work

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hard and not take care of ourselves and hammer hammer

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and then we'll be happy. But I think you don't

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have to change the country to have an inspirational story.

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But there are so many, especially women, that are going

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through the same thing that I was going through, because

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we have to take care of our families, that people

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will love the businesses there, our goals and not over really,

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we're continuously overdoing it for somebody else. But I think

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my journey is no special. I am no special compared

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to any other woman that is listening in right now

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and thinking, you know what, I didn't change the countries,

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but I'm working over time and I need to take

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care of everyone else. So I think I just took

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time to really shine a light onto the moments in

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my life that actually changed the way I see life

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and how I start living from that moment on.

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Yeah, and you know, I talk about the stress of

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high performing women, but I think almost all women are

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high performing, you know, because they are They are their caretakers.

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You know me and are a little selfish. We care

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about ourselves, our you know, our needs, our wants. But

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women they look at the whole picture. And sometimes that's

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good and then sometimes they can be detrimental.

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You know what.

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What do you think about that?

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There was a the way I think it shows how

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women and men look at life. I remember there was

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a story it says the difference between boy Scouts and

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girl Scouts are that the boy scouts making a plan

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how they're going to get to that hill, and the

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girl scouts making a plan what they're going to eat

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when they get there. You know.

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The other thing I would say is that you know, women,

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they everything kind of messes you know, I see men

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when they go to work, they think about work. They

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don't think about home. When they get home, they think

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about home. Me and women they think about home when

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they're at work, and work when they're at home, and

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it's just all messes up and then they and so

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it all kind of you know, gets jumbled in together.

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I think men are better at compartmentalization.

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And they should because I believe women the masculine energy

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needs to be as supportive and protective of the feminine energy.

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And if we will have imagined a hunting where the

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man needs to kill the beast and bring it home

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to feed the family, and he's going to look at

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this deer and start crying because it looks so prettian

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and there is the one that kill it, I don't

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think a species will have survived. So I think nature's

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way of saying, you know, we're just going to make

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very you know, they're narrow thinking and you have a focus,

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you know, and then you're going to go for it.

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And I think we just blend in so perfectly because

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it's just thrue in and yeah, because we're better for

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each other and we should support each other.

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And you know that's exactly what I'm talking about is

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that ageless blueprint. There is an ageless blueprint. Like you're saying,

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there's feminine energy and masculine energy, and those energies are different,

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but they compliment each other. And I think one of

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the problems is we try to make we try to

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make the other person have that same energy. I say, men,

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we want women to act like men, and women want

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men to act like women. They but they can't. We

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got to understand that there's different physiology and there's different energies.

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And you know, I'm from this medical background. I'm so

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glad you're introducing energies and so because I believe in

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those two. Now I didn't that's not what we teach

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in medical school, but life has taught me about these

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different energies. So talk a little bit more about that,

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because it sounds better coming from you than from me.

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But I'll just just compliment what you're saying.

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I heard someone explain very well, what is the balance

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between the feminine and excuse between the feminine and masculine energy.

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It's like an ocean. The feminine energy is like a

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water it can change sheep, but the masculine energy is

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like the bottom of the ocean. So both of those

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parts create a beautiful ecosystem. That's where the life is. Right.

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But if you will take away the water from the ocean,

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what it becomes a desert. And when we look at

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the masculine energy, it loses the purpose. So it needs

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to have a purpose in order to live and thrive.

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And I see a lot of research then the men

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who retire, they just start getting sick and die out

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faster than those that keep on working because they have

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the purpose. And now if we look at the feminine

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energy is the water. That means if you will take

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the bottom off right, there is no more of the

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bottom of the ocean. The water will change shape, so

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it can evaporate, can become snow. But also at the

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same time, even if there is a bottom, it can

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be very calmsy, but then also can be a hurricane.

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So the woman every day you don't know what you're

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going to get right because there is so much going on.

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And when you look at the water, water is all

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the source of the life and the energy, the creative energy.

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And we can see it here what went wrong in

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our society these days because when you look at the research,

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the number one killer of women is not cancer. Everybody

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thinks it's cancer, it's not. It's a heart disease. And

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the heart disease comes why because of inflammation. Inflammation really

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caused by stress. And if we look at them, let's

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say compare families one hundred and fifty years ago to now.

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What happened is the women rights and women want to

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say we are the same like man, you need to

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treat this with respect, and I totally agree, we need

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to be all treated equally. But what happened. I believe

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in order for the women to show their work, they

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not became women, they became men in our world. One

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we look at this now like a professional dressed woman,

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what's she looks like a man wearing pants? She she's

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going this ra ra And that's what really slowly also

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killing and impacting the hormones and everything else for women.

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Because when you look at the men need stress too.

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They need to stosstrun to calm their stress, to regulate

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their stress. That's where men thrive and the project focused environment,

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you know, and they love how you said that. Men

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just have you know, they go to work and these

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are super occupied with this. That's how the nature intended,

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but men tried in that kind of environment where they

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have to constantly solve problems, they have to move forward.

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There is a competition. This is a good thing for men.

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And so when I have a coaching clients that come

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to me and they say, oh, I don't know what

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to do. When doctor said they need to handle the stress.

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For the men, I say, just go hunting, go video

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place you go. Men go be a main key. There

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are the stoster on things. But for the women is

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the opposite, is that we need to feel mellow and

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include it and have a physical touch and and so

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it's we should not have the stosterrun. And so now

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women one week, when women feline energy goes into such

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a disaster and driven environment, we get sick. And if

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we do not manage that balance out and and bring

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oxytocin and you know that the bonding chemicals and all that,

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then we get sick. And then also what also a

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huge thing that changed over years and let's say, you know,

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fifty or one hundred years ago, we'd had multiple generations

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living in the same household. You know what they say,

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it takes a village to grow a child. That means

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there are so many women around that moment that there

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will be no child that will be not attended because

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somebody will see him crying means he was helping to

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regulate the child's health mental health as well. And the

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women can share chores, they can communicate with other women.

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It's the community. Women need the community. And now we

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got to the point where we have only one family

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in the household, and this is what starts happening of

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the women expect that the men will support them in

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the way only the women can and the men when

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the women stop complaining about how they're tired after work

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because I already worked all day and now have to

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deal with you, and then it's a huge relationship problem.

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Exactly. You know what you are. So let me tell you.

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I agree with everything you say said and I think

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what we talked about before. What I try to provide

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is the physical objective evidence. I believe one hundred This

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is what I say all the time. I wrote a

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book called The Me and my wife wrote a book

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called The Stress Connection. The stress is the connection to everything.

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Stress is why. Stress is why you had that initial

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bleeding episode when you were thirty. What did stress do

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is said, hey, look this is not a safe environment.

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We don't need to ovulate and have a baby. So

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it's stopped ovulation. When you stopped ovulation, you stopped making

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your hardmone car progesterone. That progesterone calms down the uterus

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so that you don't have heavy bleeding. It calms down

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the brain so you don't have emotional outbursts. So what

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I say is that the physiology also affects the psychology.

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Are the personality or whatever. So what I try to

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show these high performing women are any woman, is show hey,

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look this is what your cortisol circadian rhythm looks like.

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day and you can't sleep at night. I always say

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it's hard to manage something that you cannot measure. So

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try to fix the hardware, so it makes you fixing

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the software easier because I believe that if your cortisol

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is out of balance, it's very hard to do that

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kind of work. And that kind of work usually happens

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in the forties and fifties when women are in perimenopauls

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and menopause, when they're going through this stressful transition in

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their physiology and in their environment. Like you're saying, you

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got kids that are growing up, you got parents that

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are that are coming to live with you because they're sick,

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and so all of this is that stress component that

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disease and inflammation that comes from stress, so everything. So

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that's why your stress management is so important. And I

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think we talked before is that a lot of times

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that the most difficult patients are those patients dealing with

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stress during that transition of physiologic stress. So what do

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you think about what do you think about that?

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I agree all that you said. And you know, when

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lot of what they call now stress management, bandages, meditation,

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you go diaries on all of this, But only when

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I started digging deeper into why I'm so stressed out.

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I didn't even expected that my childhood experience, all my

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childhood traumas that I learned how to live in, the

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patterns how to manage stress and how to live in

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general were made in my childhood. I had no idea

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that that is impacting my adult life. And you know,

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an alcoholic, and he's okay now for twenty years. But

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when I was growing up, I did not have a

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stable environment. I basically my default line was to be

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and I added more stress into my body, and then

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he just couldn't take it anymore. And now when we

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look at stress and I start coaching someone who comes

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to me for help, I always ask them, how is

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your how are your parents managing stress? Where did you

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learn how to manage stress? And we will continue doing

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the same thing over and over that we've been taught,

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knowing thinking that that's the way it is, because we

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don't know anything other. And so somebody who I'm sure

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we can find you even similarities with the clients that

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we work or you work, is that could be the

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same person age, could be even looks like the same

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diet and the same the way they live, and it

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looks like the successful and everything is great from the outside.

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very harden themselves. And when you look at the high achievers,

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that's me. They think they're not good enough. That's what

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they keep on. Need to push themselves to the point

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of exhaustion. And that's what I think the mental part

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that we also need to address when we manage any

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what I found is a missing link, you know, being

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an OBG I n is that I really didn't have

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a good way to measure hormones and measure stress. Okay,

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I just didn't bir control pills. We give ANTID presidents.

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That's still what's happening now. Until I discovered saliva testing

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twenty five twenty five years ago, we wrote the book

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called all Your Hartmones Making You Sick? And now I

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can actually see that the person's progesterone this low and

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if you had had a saliva test back when you

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were in the thirties, they would have seen, oh wow,

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she's bleeding because her progesterone is low, and progesterone is

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what slows down the growth of estrogen. But you can't

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see that in blood. And we can talk about that

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because blood is water soluble and hormones are fat soluble.

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So if you look into saliba, you can see those imbalances.

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You can see that the cortisol curve is disrupted and

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a lot of times, and I've found this, if I

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show a patient, this is what's going on in your physiology.

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Is not a sign of weakness. It's not a sign

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of anything like that. If we fix this and then

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you go back and start doing your coaching, because I've

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had interviews with other people, they say it helps to

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make the coaching stick because they're not going through all

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of these physio logical you know, ups and downs. Now,

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and here's the other thing. When your cort isol is low,

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that means you have low energy, and it takes energy

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to do these practices. It takes energy to calm your

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brain down. And so when you don't have that energy

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and you have the turbulence of unbalanced hormones, it can

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cause it. It can make it look like where your

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information isn't sticking or isn't working. But it's really is

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that the patient just can't absorb it because she's in

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such a disregulated state. What do you think about that?

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That's how I look at it. I'm all for the

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coaching and stuff because even for me when I was

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and just one other thing, you were talking about how

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men when they don't have a purpose, they just fade away,

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and that's what happened to me at sixty four. I'm like,

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what am I going to do? Am I going to

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fade away and die? Or am I going to find

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a new purpose? And that's what this is. You know,

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I've never done this before until a year and a

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half ago, because hey, I guess I recognize masculine energy

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and I needed to do this. So anyway, so where

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we started from is do you think that a little

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bit of objective evidence? Because also you can redo those

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tests and say, hey, look look how far you've come

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the cords, our curve is better now, your hormones are

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in balance, are you sleeping better? How are things? So

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I've always I always try to have guests on where

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what I could do could enhance your clients, and whatever

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you do could also be the second layer of my clients,

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you know. So that's how that's how I look at this,

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and I think that's how we talked about it when

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we talked about doing this. So let's just talk about

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how those two things, objective evidence and subjective evidence could

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actually enhance a person's outcome. All right.

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I agree that the more measuring we can do, the

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more then we can understand what is really going on.

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But I think, like everything else in life, it is

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very holistic. That has to do with mind, body and soul.

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So you can measure the body and what is happening.

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But where I come in, I that's why can I

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support someone who is in that mental state you know

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wheighs your mind and you definitely like, I love how

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you said that. You know, I can coach somebody as

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much as you know want to do to the point

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of the no return. But if the body says I

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cannot do it, I cannot support this. This is it's

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like running like a car with only one wheel, you know.

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So let's see if the mind and body and soul

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is a tricycle, you know, you definitely have one more wheel,

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and I think, you know what comes to medicine, So

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many times they treat only the body but don't care

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of the mind. And then when you look at the

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therapy and coaching and things like that, then they're really

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looking at the mind but not really paying attention to

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the body.

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And so when I think we need to start looking

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at the things very holistically, that has to do with

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all of those things specifically, especially when we read, we

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look at the mind state, you know. And I when

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I got sick, I was not depressed. I was very driven.

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I was goal oriented. And when I told my friends,

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I'm like, well, you know, this is what happened. Many

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opinions I got it was just stick a pill, and

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I'm like, well, I'm not gonna just stick a pill.

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And just I'm like, I'm not depressed. I mean, what

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pills do you want to give me? Apart from you

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know what, the doctors wanted to give me some other

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pills for the body when they realized it has to

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do a lot with my mind and what do I think,

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and what my energy goes, what are my patterns and

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how I push myself And basically I was bullying myself

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into success. That's what they teach my stop bullying yourself.

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even with this, uh you know, I want this to

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be successful. So I'm like bullying, I'm like, is she

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going to show I was like, you know what I said,

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I said, if she doesn't show up, I'm not gonna

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worry about it. I'll have a little backup. I'll talk

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about what I want to talk about. So that's kind

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of me I've been. You know, it's learning that, hey,

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look you can't you can't make reality do it. You

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have to just live through it. You know. It's almost

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it's popularly now that letting go kind of things that

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you can't. You can't force an outcome. You just got

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to keep doing what you're doing. So so talk about

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that how you coach your clients, because because you know,

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I call myself the hermone doctor and the spiritual MD.

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And then what you trying? What I say is said, yeah,

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you got to get your heartmones right, then you get

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your mind right, and only then can you be can

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your man be quiet enough to connect with your spirit?

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And that's how I kind of look at clamming that ladder,

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What is that kind of how you look at it.

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Yes, So when someone comes to me for a stress

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management coaching, usually they already been to a doctor and

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the doctor said, you need to start taking care of yourself.

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You know. When they started my career as a coach,

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I would go a lot to networking events and you know,

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this is how they say you need to bring you know,

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and I started like twelve years ago now, and I

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will meet a lot of people in those events. So

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the moment I will tell them that I'm a trest

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management coach, I will always hear, oh my gosh, everybody

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needs you. And then I will see, well, wonderful, would

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you like to schedule an appointment with me? And this

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is where what the back pedaling starts, and oh, I

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am so busy. I don't think I can do this.

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This is great, but yeah, I'll let you know. So

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and those who actually came through, it's because they already

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have a problem, because they already in pain, and they

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think the real change can happen two ways, or you

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have to be so in pain, or you have to

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be so inspired. So you see your change when you

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were retired and you're like, you know what, No, I

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don't want to sit at home. It happened not from pain.

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You were not in pain. You were inspired to do something.

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You wanted to shine your light. You wanted you know,

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I want to share this with well, I want to

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change the world. Of course there was some pain because

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you were baby thinking that you know, well, now what

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I'm going to do. But someone who comes to me

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and they say like the body like in my case,

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no that the body said, okay, I can I do

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this anymore? Mine came from pain. So when somebody comes

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to me already for the stress management coaching, that means

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they already been through the stage where most of the

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time there was already pain. And I was asking myself, like,

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why is this happening? That everybody knows that stress is

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bad for us, but not many wants to tackle this.

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And I finally realized the reason was when you meet

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someone and you know, maybe you haven't seen it for

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a few months or even years, or even co workers

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after the weekend, we always say okay, so how are you?

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You know? What's new? You barely hear somebody saying, you

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know what. This morning, I woke up and I had

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this beautiful cup of coffee. I was looking in the birsture.

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Nobody says that in our society is the hustle, the

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bustle and kill yourself trying. It's always, oh my gosh,

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I'm so busy. I'm running this company, and my parents

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came for visit, and my three children now starting in college,

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I have some So I realized what comes to stress

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management and anything that has to do with our mental state.

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We are wearing the badge of honor of who is

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more stressed, and I realized it's really coming from That

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was the reason. And when I listened to a few

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videos when I was just introduced to I just actually

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found it on YouTube. I don't even know how, but

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doctor gob Or Marty that he was talking a lot about,

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you know, childhood experience and how they define who we

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are as human as adults. So basically he said, those

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who are the overachievers always hustling and bustling, which is

464
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that's what our society tells us to do. Those children

465
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who grow up in the environment that were not loved

466
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and appreciated for who they were without doing nothing, just

467
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as a beautiful child, you know, they if they feel

468
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like they have to produce, they have to be useful,

469
00:26:20.920 --> 00:26:23.599
or they will be excluded from the group. And you know,

470
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when you think about it, hours we're human, we are

471
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tried people. We need to be in the group. We

472
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cannot be alone. And I mean, look at the pandemic.

473
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There were so many changes in the humanity because we

474
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were so isolated. And even now we have the most

475
00:26:40.559 --> 00:26:44.400
people on the planet, but even in cities, people live

476
00:26:44.440 --> 00:26:47.240
with the people in the house and they feel isolated

477
00:26:47.720 --> 00:26:52.039
and lonely because we are being excluded from the group.

478
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And we become people polices from day one because we

479
00:26:55.559 --> 00:26:57.640
know if I'm not going to please the adults, me

480
00:26:57.720 --> 00:27:01.119
as a child not going to survive. So we carry

481
00:27:01.200 --> 00:27:05.039
this mentality into our adult life and then it becomes

482
00:27:05.079 --> 00:27:08.799
the society norm of you have to continuously produce, you

483
00:27:08.920 --> 00:27:12.400
constantly need to run after that horizon. And then on

484
00:27:12.480 --> 00:27:15.279
top of it, oh, how dare you to take care

485
00:27:15.279 --> 00:27:15.920
of yourself?

486
00:27:16.359 --> 00:27:19.920
Yeah? Yeah, and so I'm sorry, go ahead. Yeah.

487
00:27:20.319 --> 00:27:22.640
It's like a car. When we have a car, we

488
00:27:22.839 --> 00:27:25.000
understand that we need to put the aasen and we

489
00:27:25.039 --> 00:27:27.599
need to change oil, and we need to maintain in

490
00:27:27.720 --> 00:27:32.160
order to perform well. But when comes to the human body, mind,

491
00:27:32.200 --> 00:27:34.480
and soul, we just want to push you to the

492
00:27:34.519 --> 00:27:36.839
point of exhaustion without taking care of it. And I

493
00:27:36.839 --> 00:27:38.559
think it's time to start taking care of it.

494
00:27:38.880 --> 00:27:41.880
Yeah, And here's what I found because I see those

495
00:27:41.920 --> 00:27:44.559
women who are like that, and most of them are

496
00:27:44.559 --> 00:27:47.519
in pain. And then what I can do is if

497
00:27:47.559 --> 00:27:51.920
I show them their quotas occurs, I show them their imbalances.

498
00:27:52.319 --> 00:27:56.480
Now they understand and then they become inspired. See I

499
00:27:56.519 --> 00:27:59.480
think it's talking about Okay, I see the problem. I

500
00:27:59.519 --> 00:28:02.440
see that there is a solution because I call it

501
00:28:02.519 --> 00:28:06.200
harmone confusion. The problem is those patients they go to

502
00:28:06.240 --> 00:28:08.240
the doctor, they get a blood test, and they're told

503
00:28:08.279 --> 00:28:11.680
that they're normal, that their blood tests are normal. That's

504
00:28:11.759 --> 00:28:14.519
the problem. I tell people, you don't have ten or

505
00:28:14.519 --> 00:28:17.319
fifteen problems that you're talking about. You have two problems.

506
00:28:18.200 --> 00:28:20.279
You're trying to find the answer in the blood and

507
00:28:20.319 --> 00:28:22.440
you're not going to see it there. That's the wrong test.

508
00:28:22.559 --> 00:28:24.640
You have to look in the saliva. And then the

509
00:28:24.680 --> 00:28:29.279
other thing is most women and society and the media

510
00:28:29.480 --> 00:28:32.839
are focused on estrogen and testosterone. Now people are getting

511
00:28:32.920 --> 00:28:35.960
these two pellets and it's causing problems. And I see

512
00:28:35.960 --> 00:28:39.920
it every day. And the real issue is progesterone and cortisol,

513
00:28:40.160 --> 00:28:44.000
stress and the lack of ovulation causing you not to

514
00:28:44.039 --> 00:28:47.240
have enough progesterone. But the only way you see that

515
00:28:47.440 --> 00:28:49.799
is through saliva. And I've just seen that. Once I

516
00:28:49.880 --> 00:28:52.319
show a person this is what you're doing to yourself,

517
00:28:52.640 --> 00:28:55.839
then they become inspired. So you have the pain, I

518
00:28:56.000 --> 00:28:59.000
understand whether pain is coming from. Now, I'm inspired to

519
00:28:59.119 --> 00:29:02.640
change it. So that's where I think we could push

520
00:29:02.680 --> 00:29:06.160
some of those people to you. Are those people who

521
00:29:06.240 --> 00:29:09.119
have that I can, I can I can teach you

522
00:29:09.920 --> 00:29:13.480
because once my patients see the saliva test, they understand it.

523
00:29:13.519 --> 00:29:15.880
I could teach you how you could add that into

524
00:29:15.920 --> 00:29:18.599
your practice. So those are some things that you know.

525
00:29:18.720 --> 00:29:22.319
I was excited about is that there are some things

526
00:29:22.319 --> 00:29:24.039
that I could And that's what I try to do

527
00:29:24.160 --> 00:29:28.400
is to try and help someone else's business to be

528
00:29:28.400 --> 00:29:31.359
better at doing what they may that may help them

529
00:29:31.400 --> 00:29:34.759
be better at helping their clients. So it's break time.

530
00:29:35.000 --> 00:29:37.079
We've been we've done this for thirty minutes. We have

531
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a little break, and then we have another fifteen twenty

532
00:29:40.680 --> 00:29:44.319
minutes and Rebel, do we have any questions? And I

533
00:29:44.359 --> 00:29:46.359
want you to talk about your books. Okay, I want

534
00:29:46.359 --> 00:29:48.279
you to talk to your best selling book, and so

535
00:29:48.319 --> 00:29:50.240
that would be on my second half. Do we have

536
00:29:50.759 --> 00:29:54.240
any questions, Rebel, Do you have any questions? That's our producer.

537
00:29:54.599 --> 00:29:57.480
You guys have been answering things as we go. Right

538
00:29:57.480 --> 00:30:00.799
when the question comes, y'all actually give the answer. Everything

539
00:30:00.880 --> 00:30:05.640
is running smoothly and everybody's loving the content.

540
00:30:06.160 --> 00:30:09.279
All right, good, That's why I was hoping you were

541
00:30:09.319 --> 00:30:12.000
going to show up. So I'm so glad you did. So, Hey,

542
00:30:12.079 --> 00:30:14.880
let's go to break and then we'll talk more after that.

543
00:30:14.960 --> 00:30:18.960
Okay, we are going to a quick break, so stay

544
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556
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557
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more insights and research on the ancient secret to better

558
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health and a better life in modern times. Here's your host,

559
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Doctor Eldred Taylor.

560
00:31:27.759 --> 00:31:31.079
All right, we're back with Ms Garin and she has

561
00:31:32.160 --> 00:31:36.119
just really enlightened us in on what she does and

562
00:31:36.519 --> 00:31:40.119
how stress affects women, high performing women, and all the

563
00:31:40.160 --> 00:31:42.960
things that she's gone through. And we've tried to come

564
00:31:43.039 --> 00:31:47.119
up with some synergy that, you know, so that everyone

565
00:31:47.200 --> 00:31:51.400
can benefit as much as they can from help from

566
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her and from me. I'm learning things all the time.

567
00:31:54.359 --> 00:31:54.559
You know.

568
00:31:55.599 --> 00:31:57.640
One thing I want to talk about is I want

569
00:31:57.680 --> 00:32:00.400
to talk about your books. But I've been study something

570
00:32:00.440 --> 00:32:04.079
called evolutionary stress. How we are living in an environment

571
00:32:04.240 --> 00:32:07.440
that we were not designed for and that evolution has

572
00:32:07.480 --> 00:32:10.359
not caught up with, and so that people don't understand

573
00:32:10.400 --> 00:32:14.480
that just daily life is a constant stressor because your

574
00:32:14.519 --> 00:32:16.960
body is like, what is going on here? Why are

575
00:32:17.000 --> 00:32:20.119
you staying inside so much? Why aren't you outside with nature?

576
00:32:20.119 --> 00:32:22.480
Why aren't you letting the sunshine tell me when I

577
00:32:22.519 --> 00:32:24.839
should wake up, and why don't you let the birds

578
00:32:24.839 --> 00:32:27.519
singing help calm my mind. So it's all of this

579
00:32:27.720 --> 00:32:31.960
evolutionary stress that people don't realize and that, like you're saying,

580
00:32:31.960 --> 00:32:34.720
push push push, that's not what we were designed to do.

581
00:32:34.759 --> 00:32:37.359
What So let's just talk about that for a minute,

582
00:32:37.440 --> 00:32:39.559
and then we're going to go to your books or

583
00:32:39.559 --> 00:32:41.880
whatever else you want to want to talk about.

584
00:32:41.880 --> 00:32:47.240
All right, definitely agree with you that in today's world,

585
00:32:47.440 --> 00:32:51.599
it's more stressed than it used to. You know, the

586
00:32:51.680 --> 00:32:54.799
first thing that I recommend my clients is to stop

587
00:32:54.880 --> 00:32:55.759
watching the news.

588
00:32:56.359 --> 00:32:59.640
Yes, yes, I tell everybody. I never watched it. I

589
00:32:59.720 --> 00:33:02.640
was like, hey, if if it's something important, somebody will

590
00:33:02.680 --> 00:33:05.079
tell me. But otherwise I don't want to hear it. Yeah,

591
00:33:05.079 --> 00:33:06.480
so go ahead, and I'm sorry.

592
00:33:06.559 --> 00:33:11.400
And the problem with that is that we constantly bombarded

593
00:33:11.440 --> 00:33:15.200
with the negative news. It's like very very fear based.

594
00:33:15.720 --> 00:33:18.359
And when you let's see, we compare one hundred years

595
00:33:18.359 --> 00:33:20.920
ago when we had no TV and no phone, no internet.

596
00:33:21.319 --> 00:33:23.680
We did not know really what was happening on another

597
00:33:23.759 --> 00:33:27.079
side of the world. It was just our little village.

598
00:33:27.319 --> 00:33:32.680
That's mean our mental preparedness was able to handle whatever

599
00:33:32.759 --> 00:33:36.039
will come at us. But now when we look at

600
00:33:36.039 --> 00:33:39.680
the rest of the world, it looks like, oh my gosh,

601
00:33:39.680 --> 00:33:42.079
we're living in the worst time. But when you look

602
00:33:42.119 --> 00:33:44.440
at the history, I don't think there was a day

603
00:33:44.480 --> 00:33:47.720
in our lives that there was no war. At some point,

604
00:33:47.920 --> 00:33:51.759
there were always somewhere droughts, there were always somewhere floods there.

605
00:33:51.960 --> 00:33:54.759
It's like there's this always thing that's going on. And

606
00:33:54.799 --> 00:33:59.000
I saw this research that this is not the time

607
00:33:59.039 --> 00:34:03.039
of the most people killed each other or die. That

608
00:34:03.240 --> 00:34:06.559
was like during the one hundred times on the you know,

609
00:34:07.000 --> 00:34:10.000
many many thousand years ago, when they were really coming

610
00:34:10.000 --> 00:34:12.800
and killing the whole village. But now we have on

611
00:34:12.880 --> 00:34:16.519
the news, you know, somebody got the car stolen, somebody

612
00:34:16.559 --> 00:34:20.159
got shot in the nightclub something, and that we immediately

613
00:34:20.320 --> 00:34:24.119
jump into extreme of oh my gosh, my life is

614
00:34:24.159 --> 00:34:28.119
in danger. My children I in danger. And the sad

615
00:34:28.199 --> 00:34:32.239
part is that the media is really getting all our

616
00:34:32.400 --> 00:34:36.960
fear more up because it is easier to When you

617
00:34:37.079 --> 00:34:40.519
have people who are in fear, it's like it becomes

618
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a herd. You know, we are the tribe people. We

619
00:34:42.639 --> 00:34:46.079
are like the herd. So if you start shaking, you know,

620
00:34:46.119 --> 00:34:49.639
one person, then everybody picks up. We're becoming this very

621
00:34:49.639 --> 00:34:56.280
stress environment that is now influencing our health. And that's

622
00:34:56.360 --> 00:34:58.920
the one part is that we're being bombarded from all

623
00:34:58.960 --> 00:35:03.599
of this thing that we're not equipped to process it.

624
00:35:04.159 --> 00:35:06.599
But also we come from the environment that we already

625
00:35:06.639 --> 00:35:09.599
touched on that how dare you to take care of yourself?

626
00:35:10.079 --> 00:35:12.519
So if you know this moment what I just said,

627
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that you turn off the news and there's always a

628
00:35:16.679 --> 00:35:20.199
history somebody's dying, you cannot have everyone. I bet a

629
00:35:20.239 --> 00:35:23.920
lot of people got triggered by that because immediately said, oh,

630
00:35:23.960 --> 00:35:27.440
how dare you? You have no heart? And and what

631
00:35:27.480 --> 00:35:29.239
do you mean? I need to take care of myself

632
00:35:29.960 --> 00:35:34.880
because we've been thought that you have to sacrifice, especially

633
00:35:35.039 --> 00:35:39.960
women through generations years we've been taught that we are

634
00:35:40.000 --> 00:35:42.960
the mothers, are caregivers that are in all of that

635
00:35:42.960 --> 00:35:46.840
that we need to do. But also we forgot the

636
00:35:46.840 --> 00:35:50.639
part that we need to take care of ourselves because

637
00:35:50.679 --> 00:35:52.840
if we don't take care of ourselves, we cannot take

638
00:35:52.840 --> 00:35:56.920
care of anyone else. It's like again expecting the car

639
00:35:57.000 --> 00:35:59.480
keep running without any gas in it. It makes no

640
00:35:59.519 --> 00:36:01.519
sense for the car. But somehow we forget that we

641
00:36:01.679 --> 00:36:04.199
humans also need to take care of ourselves and the

642
00:36:04.239 --> 00:36:07.519
same forment too. We all need to start taking care

643
00:36:07.519 --> 00:36:11.239
of ourselves. And on top of that, there's so much

644
00:36:11.239 --> 00:36:15.039
of competition. Again comes from the place of scarcity. Off,

645
00:36:15.039 --> 00:36:18.360
we don't have enough, but when you look at today's environment,

646
00:36:18.400 --> 00:36:23.840
we have too much. Yes, yeah, shoes, can you buy

647
00:36:23.840 --> 00:36:28.119
that one sale? I came from Lithuania and I was

648
00:36:28.159 --> 00:36:31.800
born in Soviet Union, and I was a teenager where

649
00:36:31.800 --> 00:36:35.119
independence happened. So it was beautiful to be in that

650
00:36:35.239 --> 00:36:37.400
part of the history and say with my own eyes,

651
00:36:37.760 --> 00:36:40.679
but I remember there were plenty of winters when I

652
00:36:40.719 --> 00:36:44.840
will have only one pair of shoes. Yeah, and that's

653
00:36:44.880 --> 00:36:49.000
what I survived. And you know, I when I participate

654
00:36:49.039 --> 00:36:51.480
in a lot of podcasts, probably an hour two hundred

655
00:36:51.880 --> 00:36:56.320
and sometimes we'll get this question. It will say, so, okay, well,

656
00:36:56.360 --> 00:36:58.440
you came from you know, used to be Soviet Union,

657
00:36:58.480 --> 00:37:00.559
from Lithuania, and now it came to a Maryrior. So

658
00:37:00.760 --> 00:37:03.239
you you're so happy now? And how do you compare

659
00:37:03.679 --> 00:37:07.599
stress in different countries? And you cannot compare stress to

660
00:37:07.639 --> 00:37:10.920
different countries because it's not about the country. It is

661
00:37:11.000 --> 00:37:15.960
about the environment that somebody is in, meaning the support

662
00:37:16.039 --> 00:37:18.760
that they get. You can look at the family. Even

663
00:37:18.800 --> 00:37:21.280
in the same hour country. Here you can look at

664
00:37:21.360 --> 00:37:25.559
someone who doesn't have much, but they have loving family,

665
00:37:25.719 --> 00:37:30.280
They help each other, they're in a loving relationship where

666
00:37:30.119 --> 00:37:34.519
the feminine and the masculine and the balance, and they

667
00:37:34.559 --> 00:37:37.519
can have not that much, but they in a happier

668
00:37:37.639 --> 00:37:42.039
and healthier state than those who, let's say millionaires and

669
00:37:42.440 --> 00:37:45.880
have a corporations running and looks from outside that they're

670
00:37:45.960 --> 00:37:50.039
very successful and they should be happy because our quality

671
00:37:50.079 --> 00:37:54.760
of life being measured by how much money you have,

672
00:37:55.320 --> 00:37:59.079
not how good your relationships are, not how much you

673
00:37:59.480 --> 00:38:03.280
love in appreciate yourself. And you know what really sad

674
00:38:03.519 --> 00:38:06.000
is that you know, when I have clients, that's the

675
00:38:06.079 --> 00:38:07.920
number one thing they tell me. And by the way,

676
00:38:07.920 --> 00:38:10.519
I'm going to give you now an advice that they

677
00:38:10.599 --> 00:38:13.400
give to my clients the moment I see them. So

678
00:38:13.679 --> 00:38:17.360
those who listening in, use your phone for something good

679
00:38:17.679 --> 00:38:22.760
this time, and then set an alarm to go off

680
00:38:22.960 --> 00:38:26.280
on a like let's say every hour. That's the best,

681
00:38:26.719 --> 00:38:30.320
and then whatever is on it gives you a signal

682
00:38:30.400 --> 00:38:32.719
that you need to stop doing whatever you're doing. Of course,

683
00:38:32.800 --> 00:38:35.079
if it's safe, don't do this while you're driving. And

684
00:38:35.280 --> 00:38:39.920
you know, while operating heavy machinery all that. When you're safe,

685
00:38:40.360 --> 00:38:43.800
you stop what are you doing? And you give taking

686
00:38:44.079 --> 00:38:48.360
one minute for yourself, You close your eyes, drink some water.

687
00:38:48.800 --> 00:38:51.400
If you stand all day, maybe this is the time

688
00:38:51.400 --> 00:38:53.960
for you to sit down. If you're sitting all the time,

689
00:38:54.119 --> 00:38:56.760
how about you're going to stand up? How about you

690
00:38:56.800 --> 00:39:03.440
you absolutely nothing for one minut in it? Now? Who's

691
00:39:03.480 --> 00:39:07.000
listening in? You need to pay attention how that made

692
00:39:07.000 --> 00:39:11.519
you feel? Did you feel what is she talking about?

693
00:39:11.519 --> 00:39:15.920
This is ridiculous? Or one minute it's not gonna change

694
00:39:15.920 --> 00:39:19.280
my life, or I wish one minute will change my life.

695
00:39:19.559 --> 00:39:22.920
This is all the excuses that we tell ourselves. This

696
00:39:23.119 --> 00:39:27.440
is bullying ourselves into to be something that we're not.

697
00:39:28.159 --> 00:39:31.559
This is pulling ourselves into how dare you to put

698
00:39:31.559 --> 00:39:32.480
the gas in my car?

699
00:39:33.119 --> 00:39:33.320
Yeah?

700
00:39:35.199 --> 00:39:37.119
And this is what we need to start paying attention

701
00:39:37.159 --> 00:39:40.519
to because the moment when we don't give self care,

702
00:39:41.239 --> 00:39:46.760
we are dishonoring our own needs. And so when somebody

703
00:39:46.840 --> 00:39:48.719
comes in and I give them and say, okay, how

704
00:39:48.760 --> 00:39:51.639
about we will start with something small. Give yourself breaks

705
00:39:51.679 --> 00:39:54.679
even two three breaks during the day, and I look

706
00:39:54.719 --> 00:39:57.599
at them and I see the reaction. We're the struggling

707
00:39:57.599 --> 00:40:00.639
with and majority of them they say, are you kidding me?

708
00:40:00.760 --> 00:40:05.239
I don't have time for this because I have to

709
00:40:05.280 --> 00:40:07.639
take care of my trick kids, my aging parents, my

710
00:40:07.679 --> 00:40:12.000
five business businesses, and there's no way. And I tell them, okay,

711
00:40:12.400 --> 00:40:15.280
so who is going to take care of those kids,

712
00:40:15.280 --> 00:40:17.719
the parents and the businesses when you will be in

713
00:40:17.719 --> 00:40:18.400
the hospital.

714
00:40:18.920 --> 00:40:19.480
Exactly.

715
00:40:20.000 --> 00:40:22.719
Yeah, So when we start, you know, and this is

716
00:40:22.800 --> 00:40:25.519
nothing I'm saying, nothing new here. You know, it's like

717
00:40:25.800 --> 00:40:28.679
you cannot pour out of empty pitch. So you need

718
00:40:28.719 --> 00:40:32.119
to feel yourself in order, you know, to give everybody else.

719
00:40:32.599 --> 00:40:36.480
But also I think we forget, especially the parents who

720
00:40:36.519 --> 00:40:39.800
I still have children in their house. Is that you know,

721
00:40:39.880 --> 00:40:42.159
the question is, okay, if you don't know how to

722
00:40:42.239 --> 00:40:44.079
handle stress, and this is what I asked my clients

723
00:40:44.079 --> 00:40:46.239
and say, okay, how do you handle stress? How do

724
00:40:46.280 --> 00:40:48.119
you manage it? They're like, I don't know. Have a

725
00:40:48.119 --> 00:40:50.159
glass of wine by the end of the day. That's

726
00:40:50.239 --> 00:40:53.559
my stress management, right, And they say, okay, how were

727
00:40:53.599 --> 00:40:58.599
your parents handling stress? What stress was prominent in your childhood?

728
00:40:59.199 --> 00:41:02.880
Was your moment was telling you how to emotionally regulate

729
00:41:03.280 --> 00:41:06.199
what she had the routine, how she can you know,

730
00:41:06.400 --> 00:41:09.880
lower her stress. Was she teaching you something I've never

731
00:41:09.960 --> 00:41:13.119
heard of? Oh my gosh, my mother was great with stress.

732
00:41:13.159 --> 00:41:15.960
And this is where we grew up in the adult. No,

733
00:41:16.159 --> 00:41:19.199
because of the same pushing that you need to continue

734
00:41:19.280 --> 00:41:21.639
going and going going. And then they said, okay, so

735
00:41:21.800 --> 00:41:25.920
you learned how to manage your stress from the environment

736
00:41:26.559 --> 00:41:29.480
that you grew up how they were managing stress. And

737
00:41:29.559 --> 00:41:33.880
then if you have kids, you are showing your kids

738
00:41:34.039 --> 00:41:37.039
by example how they will manage the stress.

739
00:41:37.400 --> 00:41:40.519
And you know, I don't know if you, I'm sure

740
00:41:40.559 --> 00:41:43.199
you do. You know they say the first six Well,

741
00:41:43.239 --> 00:41:45.920
this is not They say, this is scientifically proven that

742
00:41:46.000 --> 00:41:48.480
the first six to seven years of a child's life

743
00:41:48.480 --> 00:41:51.960
they're in a data state. They're hypnotized. So you're being

744
00:41:52.000 --> 00:41:54.480
programmed before you ever remember it. You just remember what

745
00:41:54.599 --> 00:41:57.840
you remember past age six or seven, But you were

746
00:41:57.880 --> 00:42:01.760
really programmed before that. You saw things and you couldn't

747
00:42:01.800 --> 00:42:04.239
filter it and say this is good or bad. You

748
00:42:04.320 --> 00:42:08.000
just mimicked it. And that's the subconscious man that you're

749
00:42:08.039 --> 00:42:12.400
trying to break through. Is that hypnotizing that happened and

750
00:42:12.440 --> 00:42:15.960
you don't remember being hypnotized? Okay, you just it's that

751
00:42:16.519 --> 00:42:19.360
that's what you had to break through. Uh, And that's

752
00:42:19.360 --> 00:42:21.280
what I'm understanding. You had to break through and you

753
00:42:21.400 --> 00:42:24.440
knew that that's where the problem was. It wasn't your

754
00:42:24.480 --> 00:42:27.800
present situation of coming to America. It was really that

755
00:42:27.880 --> 00:42:31.199
initial situation of how you grew up. And you just

756
00:42:31.280 --> 00:42:34.239
remember the alcoholic part. You don't remember the six seven

757
00:42:34.280 --> 00:42:38.159
years before your memory kicked in. So that's that's something

758
00:42:38.199 --> 00:42:41.039
that's very important. And whenever something I always ask people,

759
00:42:41.079 --> 00:42:43.159
when was the last time you felt normal? And sometimes

760
00:42:43.199 --> 00:42:46.039
I'll say that before the divorce or whatever. But if

761
00:42:46.039 --> 00:42:48.760
they ever say I've always been like this, I asked them, Okay,

762
00:42:48.760 --> 00:42:51.760
tell me about your childhood, because I know that's because

763
00:42:51.760 --> 00:42:55.800
you don't remember ever being normal, because you came out

764
00:42:55.840 --> 00:42:59.880
of that hypnotized state program to be abnormal, program to

765
00:43:00.039 --> 00:43:03.519
be stressed, and so you have this underlying stress that

766
00:43:03.599 --> 00:43:05.440
you don't know where it comes from, but it came

767
00:43:05.480 --> 00:43:08.079
from there. So is that how you look at it?

768
00:43:08.440 --> 00:43:10.360
But that's that's how I understand it.

769
00:43:10.719 --> 00:43:16.760
Yes, yes, absolutely. And when I was growing up, what

770
00:43:16.800 --> 00:43:19.760
I learned is that I always have to be hyper vigilant.

771
00:43:20.119 --> 00:43:22.960
I don't know what's going to happen every day. I

772
00:43:23.000 --> 00:43:27.119
remember I was afraid going from after school going home

773
00:43:27.440 --> 00:43:30.079
because I did not know when my dad will come back,

774
00:43:30.079 --> 00:43:33.639
in what state he would be. And the child needs

775
00:43:33.639 --> 00:43:38.599
to develop a safe environment in order to function well

776
00:43:38.639 --> 00:43:42.239
as an adult. And I did not have that safe environment.

777
00:43:42.679 --> 00:43:45.880
And you know, you know, for those who listening in

778
00:43:45.960 --> 00:43:47.880
they say, oh, yeah, you know what, I had a

779
00:43:47.920 --> 00:43:51.840
happy childhood. I don't really care. I can stop listening

780
00:43:51.840 --> 00:43:54.960
to this you know podcast right now. But we all

781
00:43:55.000 --> 00:43:59.239
have childhood traumas the moment we're being born and brought

782
00:43:59.280 --> 00:44:02.519
into this life, we already it starts with a huge

783
00:44:02.599 --> 00:44:06.760
trauma because when you look all ways and mental and

784
00:44:07.559 --> 00:44:10.400
mind and body and soul, we've been you know, we

785
00:44:10.519 --> 00:44:16.039
belong to some another body, some comfortable and fed and

786
00:44:16.079 --> 00:44:19.639
warm and safe. And then suddenly we are seeing the

787
00:44:19.719 --> 00:44:22.840
light and the human speaking and I'm old, and then

788
00:44:22.880 --> 00:44:27.159
it's spanking, and now I'm crying. Please tell me if

789
00:44:27.159 --> 00:44:29.800
there's a person on this planet that grew up without

790
00:44:29.920 --> 00:44:30.719
childhold trauma.

791
00:44:31.119 --> 00:44:33.679
So I'm an OBE. I mean I'm really trainings of OBE.

792
00:44:33.880 --> 00:44:38.480
So hey, I witness firsthand. It is a traumatic experience

793
00:44:38.960 --> 00:44:41.519
for a patient. I mean there's screaming and hollering, there's

794
00:44:41.519 --> 00:44:43.679
all kinds of things coming at you when I'm sitting

795
00:44:43.679 --> 00:44:46.079
down there waiting for that baby. So you're right, it

796
00:44:46.239 --> 00:44:48.559
is traumatic. I didn't really think of it like that. Yeah,

797
00:44:48.559 --> 00:44:51.760
that going down the berthing down. Think how your head

798
00:44:51.840 --> 00:44:54.599
is being squeezed and then sometimes they put four steps

799
00:44:54.599 --> 00:44:57.239
on you and squeeze your head some more. Ah, it's

800
00:44:57.360 --> 00:45:01.480
you're you're You're exactly right. You come in with trauma.

801
00:45:01.480 --> 00:45:04.760
And then there's a lot of mental and you know,

802
00:45:04.840 --> 00:45:07.760
all the emotions that the mother feels to the whole,

803
00:45:08.039 --> 00:45:11.199
you know, pregnancy, that's also what the child feels. That's

804
00:45:11.280 --> 00:45:16.400
why we need to have regulated adults, because the child

805
00:45:16.440 --> 00:45:19.599
doesn't know how to regulate emotions, you know, the moment

806
00:45:19.800 --> 00:45:22.199
something happens, the child always looking at the parents like

807
00:45:23.039 --> 00:45:26.119
is my mom calm? If she's calm, I'll be calm.

808
00:45:26.159 --> 00:45:29.960
But if they're not come, I'm not calm. And when

809
00:45:30.559 --> 00:45:32.679
you know, I remember when I discovered that my child

810
00:45:32.760 --> 00:45:37.920
was alcohod was really very traumatic, and I first I thought,

811
00:45:38.639 --> 00:45:42.000
I became very angry at my parents, and they became

812
00:45:42.079 --> 00:45:45.480
angry at my dad that he was drinking, and I thought, well,

813
00:45:45.639 --> 00:45:48.519
first of all, it was so disappointing because they thought, Okay,

814
00:45:48.559 --> 00:45:51.440
I'm so damaged that there's no way out for me.

815
00:45:52.280 --> 00:45:54.599
And then I was angry that how they are they

816
00:45:54.760 --> 00:45:56.840
not to take care of an only child they had.

817
00:45:57.440 --> 00:45:59.920
But then I think a lot of forgiveness, and then

818
00:46:00.039 --> 00:46:04.559
that it came through because I realized that my parents grew,

819
00:46:04.719 --> 00:46:10.880
you know, very similar environments and that's really going from

820
00:46:10.960 --> 00:46:13.960
generation to generation. And when you look at it now,

821
00:46:14.000 --> 00:46:18.039
who's listening in, think about your family history and let's

822
00:46:18.079 --> 00:46:20.920
just think about you know, the United States of America

823
00:46:20.960 --> 00:46:23.039
will be two hundred and fifty years old as a

824
00:46:23.159 --> 00:46:27.480
very young country, and you know, everyone has a lineage

825
00:46:27.519 --> 00:46:31.239
that you know came from somewhere else, came from immigrant

826
00:46:31.360 --> 00:46:36.840
and this information in your blood and yourselves that life

827
00:46:36.880 --> 00:46:40.880
is hard and life is struggling. We are already very stressed

828
00:46:41.079 --> 00:46:45.440
based we already come with this setting that everything is

829
00:46:46.039 --> 00:46:49.559
we have to become. We cannot be comfortable. And then

830
00:46:49.679 --> 00:46:52.480
with the herd, with the tribe, and so when we

831
00:46:52.519 --> 00:46:55.000
see somebody else offering, we want to help them as well.

832
00:46:55.440 --> 00:46:57.960
And then we like you know, a school of fish,

833
00:46:58.440 --> 00:47:01.760
that we are so depend on each other. So even

834
00:47:01.800 --> 00:47:04.800
if somebody says, you know what, that doesn't really touch me. Well,

835
00:47:04.840 --> 00:47:07.280
it does because when you go to work, or you

836
00:47:07.400 --> 00:47:11.559
go you see a cashier at the grocery store and

837
00:47:11.599 --> 00:47:14.280
then she snaps at you because probably there's a lot

838
00:47:14.360 --> 00:47:17.159
of stress going on, and we need to remember that

839
00:47:17.880 --> 00:47:21.719
we have to have empathy towards each other, but also

840
00:47:21.760 --> 00:47:25.440
we need to have the self care towards ourselves, and

841
00:47:25.519 --> 00:47:28.760
we need to honor our needs when we feel tired.

842
00:47:28.800 --> 00:47:31.000
And this is time for you to sit down. It's

843
00:47:31.079 --> 00:47:34.639
the time to just do our little things that honor

844
00:47:34.719 --> 00:47:37.519
our own needs because when we grew up in the

845
00:47:37.679 --> 00:47:42.360
environment that we felt abandoned, is the worst thing that

846
00:47:42.400 --> 00:47:44.920
you can do is to abandon yourself. And you know,

847
00:47:45.039 --> 00:47:48.199
somebody right now can say I was never abandoned by

848
00:47:48.199 --> 00:47:51.119
my parents. I lived in a happy family. Let's just

849
00:47:51.239 --> 00:47:54.440
look us our and you deal with babies. So the

850
00:47:54.519 --> 00:47:58.840
moment we are born, we separated from the mother and

851
00:47:58.920 --> 00:48:02.480
we put in another room with all other babies. That's

852
00:48:02.519 --> 00:48:05.880
a serious trauma right there. Fear of abandonment number one.

853
00:48:06.360 --> 00:48:10.360
Then look, you know in this country, how how many

854
00:48:10.400 --> 00:48:13.119
months as the mother gets to visit with her baby.

855
00:48:13.400 --> 00:48:16.760
Three months later, you see that woman already hustling and

856
00:48:16.800 --> 00:48:20.760
bustling back at work because she needs to provide for them.

857
00:48:20.880 --> 00:48:23.400
Leada Melita, I would love to keep talking to you,

858
00:48:23.440 --> 00:48:25.480
but I know my producer is gonna cut us off

859
00:48:25.599 --> 00:48:32.519
a little bit, so no, but hey, we rebel, what

860
00:48:32.639 --> 00:48:35.880
can we do? Do we have any questions? Real quickly?

861
00:48:36.079 --> 00:48:38.760
But hey, look, thank you so much. This is so

862
00:48:39.360 --> 00:48:43.440
you are just you are just really putting a different

863
00:48:43.480 --> 00:48:46.320
face on what I do. And like I said, I

864
00:48:46.360 --> 00:48:48.639
look at it more objectively. But I know all of

865
00:48:48.679 --> 00:48:51.239
this is important and I encourage all of this, but

866
00:48:51.400 --> 00:48:54.840
sometimes you have to get that baseline working. So Rebel,

867
00:48:56.559 --> 00:48:59.440
I know where it's time to end. Right.

868
00:49:00.360 --> 00:49:02.559
A lot of people asking how far back can you

869
00:49:02.639 --> 00:49:06.559
actually how can you access in the past, and a

870
00:49:06.559 --> 00:49:10.079
lot of people saying that you need to have Miss

871
00:49:10.119 --> 00:49:12.039
Lily's back because.

872
00:49:12.880 --> 00:49:16.320
Yes, I got you. Okay, Hey, so hey we got

873
00:49:16.320 --> 00:49:20.159
a so you've got another invitation because I could have

874
00:49:20.679 --> 00:49:23.159
continued to listen to you. And I really think, like

875
00:49:23.239 --> 00:49:25.880
I said, this, this is two sides of the same coin.

876
00:49:26.360 --> 00:49:28.480
And that's what I want people to see that there

877
00:49:28.559 --> 00:49:31.960
is a there's a physiologic component, and then there's also

878
00:49:32.119 --> 00:49:34.000
like a like I say, a body component, and there's

879
00:49:34.039 --> 00:49:36.960
a man component, and you have to get those two

880
00:49:37.039 --> 00:49:39.760
I think in order to get to the spiritual component.

881
00:49:39.880 --> 00:49:42.599
So that's what we're moving our way up to. And

882
00:49:42.760 --> 00:49:45.159
we started talking about energies and all that stuff, and

883
00:49:45.800 --> 00:49:49.519
that's that's a ladder you have to climb. So one

884
00:49:49.599 --> 00:49:53.079
last little twenty seconds and we're going to have her

885
00:49:53.159 --> 00:49:57.239
contact information, all that stuff you know in the description.

886
00:49:57.400 --> 00:49:59.480
So you got twenty seconds.

887
00:50:01.239 --> 00:50:04.400
We don't need to discover how I remember the question.

888
00:50:04.719 --> 00:50:07.039
We need to think about where we're coming from. No,

889
00:50:07.400 --> 00:50:09.800
you don't need to go start digging anything in the past.

890
00:50:09.880 --> 00:50:12.760
Pay attention to where your stressor's coming now, pay attention

891
00:50:12.800 --> 00:50:16.079
to what triggers you. Now get help from our doctor

892
00:50:16.079 --> 00:50:21.320
Taylor here, and start regulating yourself and seeking help and

893
00:50:21.440 --> 00:50:24.480
allowing yourself to be the best you and give yourself

894
00:50:24.519 --> 00:50:25.760
so you can give to other people.

895
00:50:26.199 --> 00:50:27.880
I'm gonna say this one thing. Let's talk about the

896
00:50:27.920 --> 00:50:30.599
present moment, because they say, if you're anxious, you're thinking

897
00:50:30.639 --> 00:50:33.199
about the future. If you're depressed, you're thinking about the past.

898
00:50:33.519 --> 00:50:36.159
So think about this one moment and your anxiety and

899
00:50:36.199 --> 00:50:38.719
depression goes away. All right, So we're gonna end with that.

900
00:50:38.920 --> 00:50:41.880
Thank you again, Stay on and we'll talk a little

901
00:50:41.920 --> 00:50:43.960
bit afterwards. Okay, all right, thank.

902
00:50:43.800 --> 00:50:48.960
You everyone, thanks for joining doctor Taylor today. If you

903
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904
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