Aug. 27, 2025

Gray Divorce-Why are people over 5 getting divorced

Gray Divorce-Why are people over 5 getting divorced
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Season 1

Why are so many couples divorcing after 50? This podcast explores the hidden connection between hormonal shifts, emotional fluctuations, and relationship challenges in midlife. Learn how estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone affect intimacy, stress, and connection—and what couples can do to thrive, not drift apart.

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Here's your host, Doctor Eldred Taylor's.

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Hello. Hello, Hello, I am Doctor Taylor, the Harmone Doctor

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and the Spiritual MD. Now I am coming to you

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live from Ghana. It's a four hour time difference, so

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it's actually one o'clock in the afternoon here. But I

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am here to discover history, to understand where we all

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came from, especially where I came from as an African American.

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It is important to me that I try and understand

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my culture and my heritage. Where did my ancestors come from?

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You just need to understand that being an African American.

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Where we're in America, everybody's proud of their heritage. I'm

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an Italian, I'm Irish, I'm whatever. Well, we're African Americans,

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and so at this point in my life, I'm interested

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in where did I come from? What is going on

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in my original homeland. So that's why we went to Egypt.

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That's why we are back here in Ghana, and we'll

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continue to travel like this and in other places because

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I think it's very important to realize where you came from,

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Where did your ancestors come from? That is and when

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you look at what we're talking about with spirituality and

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quantum physics, what you begin to understand is that your

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history is connected to your present and your present life

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and to your future life. So you need to understand

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the whole spectrum of your life and your spirit and

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your soul. Well did all of that come from? So

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that's why we're here now. I thought I was dressing

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some ghani and guard we've been eating ghani and food.

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My wife is actually out shopping right now. There are

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some beautiful fabrics here. They're very well made, very colorful.

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My daughter actually called while we were at the shop

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and then she started picking out things on FaceTime. So

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I hope I'll have enough money to get back into

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the US. So because they're going kind of crazy here,

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but I'm happy that you joined us, and I want

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to give you a little flavor of what Ghana is like.

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I'm actually I'm doing some videos on TikTok. You can

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follow me there at the Harmone Doctor on TikTok. I'm

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going to put some information or some videos on Instagram

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and then i'll have this podcast. I may try and

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show you some videos that we took. We actually climbed

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one of the mountains. It was beautiful scenery there. We

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actually did it with ropes. It really wasn't a mountain,

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it was a heel. I don't want you to think

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I'm out here mount reclimbing, but it's a lot of

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beautiful scenery here, lakes and waterfalls that we plan to

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see as much as we can. So anyway, so today

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I want to talk about kind of a serious subject

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that I have been noticing, and it's called great divorce

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and great divorce is these divorces that are happening in

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people over fifty years old, and I'm just surprised. I'm

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telling you. Two weeks ago, I was in the farmer's

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market and it was a lady who I knew, but

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she was like, how these things going? She said, Oh,

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I just got divorced. And then I went to another

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grocery store and I saw a friend that I went

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to the wedding thirty years ago, and she told me

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that she had just gotten divorced. And I have other

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friends who and even patients who come in and they say,

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you know, they're getting a divorce after twenty five thirty years,

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And at first I didn't understand it, but now I'm

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starting to understand it, and it just happens. It's a

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part of the hormonal shifts and the life shifts that

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happen as we grow older. Now, you know, even myself.

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They say wisdom comes with experience, and I've experienced almost

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all of these issues that I'm going to talk about today,

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and I'll tell you it's a struggle to get through those.

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It really is. Now I've been married for thirty nine years,

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and I am so happy that we got through those struggles,

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because I will tell you this last year has been

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probably the most exciting year of our marriage, and I

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believe it's because we have found a common interest. And

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one of those interests is this ageless footprint, this trying

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to understand history and what they left behind, and it

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has given us a common interest other than raising our kids.

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So I don't want to get too far ahead of myself.

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I want to go through the slats so we can

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really understand this, because this is really, it's really what

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would be called an epidemic. So let's go to the slats.

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Me make this a little bit bigger. So I guess,

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all right, So why are the couple's over fifty divorce?

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It's called greater vorce. Divorce after age fifty has risen sharply.

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In the nineteen nineties, only about eight to nine percent

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of the divorces were couples that were over fifty, but

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by twenty nineteen that number hit thirty six percent, so

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it's three times higher now. So that's been what in

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the last twenty nine years. Over one third of all

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divorces now involved older couples. While many factors can contribute,

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a key overlook driver is harm moment shifts that both

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men and women experience in midlife. These biological changes can

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profoundly impact relationships, often unnoticed by couples. Now I will

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tell you the reason why I'm talking about this, because

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I can tell you there are several women especially who

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have come to me and said, Wow, if I, if

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I had understood this, if I had gotten my hormones

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in check, I may not have gotten divorce. Now, I see,

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it wasn't my husband. It was really these harmones that

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were disrupting my life. And I was actually blaming my

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husband and my kids and my parents because they were

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the closest to me, so I thought that they were

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making me feel like I was feeling. But it's not.

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It's the harmonal shifts that are doing that. So the

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hormonal shifts in women now perimenopause to menopause happens in

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their forties and fifties. What happens there is that you

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begin to not ovulate on a regular basis, or not

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ovulate at all when you go through menopause. Ovulation means

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making an egg. So what happens in the ovary is

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that every month you make actually several cysts those cysts

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make estrogen. They are trying to get the uterus ready

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for ovulation. Now, what happens is is that as you

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get in your forties and fifties, those eggs are forty

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or fifty years old. You don't make new eggs. Men

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make new sperm, but women don't make new eggs. So

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here's what you have. You have several cysts that are

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are producing estrogen, trying to make the tissue and the

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uterus grow so it can be prepared for ovulation. But

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those forty to fifty year old eggs don't ovulate as

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efficiently as they did when you were twenty or thirty.

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So you have a rise in estrogen, not a decrease

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in estrogen. And that's what we don't understand. Most people

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don't understand impairmentopause. Estrogen goes up because you have more

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cysts that are trying to get trying to get to

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the point where they ovulate, but a lot of times

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they don't make it at all. So you have this

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overwhelming amount of estrogen and you have a decreasing amount

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of progesterone. What happens with that your peers become irregular

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because ovulation is the timekeeper for your minstral cycle. Fourteen

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days after ovulation, you should have a you should either

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be pregnant or you should have mistrial cycle. When that

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does not happen, that causes big problems. So you don't

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know your users doesn't know when to bleed, how much

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to bleed, so you miss periods, you have heavy periods. Also,

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that esergen makes your fibroids growth, it makes your breast

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tissue grow, and sometimes it stimulates abnormal breast tissue, so

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it increases your risk of breast cancer during this time.

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So then you also have these hot flashes and it's

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not it's not caused by estrogen or progesterone. It's caused

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by the imbalance of the estrogen and progesterone. So you

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get hot flashes, night swicks, disrupted sleep, increased irritability, and

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that's the problem that irritability and anxiety and boot swings,

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and that causes disruption in relationships. Decreased patience and we

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all know that marriage needs a marriage requires patience. It

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also requires emotional resilience. Then women also have vaginal dryness

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and reduce sexual desire, so sometimes it makes the man

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feel rejected and not loved and these hormone changes can

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make women feel not herself, impacting her partner's perception. And

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so you have to understand that these hormone drops affect

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patience in a dramatic fashion. Let's go to the next one. So,

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and it's not all women. Okay, we don't need to

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blame women and say, oh, it's their hormones. Well, it's

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men too. You get at starting at age thirty five,

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testosterone starts to decline, becoming more noticeable after fifty and

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this gradual andropause often goes unrecognized. And we know that

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the men, as they get older, they're more likely to

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have erectile dysfunction. This causes anxiety and the man it

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causes them to feel disconnected. And you just have to

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understand how important sex is to men. It is it

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is essential for men. Men have sex for recreation. Women

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primarily have sex, and I'm just and this is a

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generalization for procreation. Okay, So sex is more important to

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men than it is to women. It helps to regulate

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their stress and their mood. And then when they don't

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have this testosterone causing that desire, it totally disrupts how

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they feel about themselves and their confidence. And so let's

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just go through this. When testosterone drops, energy decreases, you

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get reduced motivation and increased irritability are common. So you

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know you have she is irritable, the men is irritable.

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She's impatient, he's impatient. So you just I mean, you

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have a you have a recipe for disaster. Many withdraw

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emotionally are become critical as testosterone falls. Declining testosterone can

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cause less confidence, reduce libido, and decreased desire for emotional connection.

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These changes are often blamed on stress or agent, and

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men don't discuss these changes. Okay, suffering in silence are

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the I ain't the impact pact. This creates hidden tension

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as men struggle with unrecognized symptoms, and a lot of

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times it makes men go out and find other things

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that excite them. They're trying to recreate that excitement, that confidence.

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So a lot of times they go and look for

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all the women to make them feel confident because now

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they can wine and dine this woman, and it makes

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them feel better about themselves, and they don't understand that

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they're destroying the relationship that most of their life has been.

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Their foundation. Is this union between the husband and wife

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that's created this family and now they go and destroy it.

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And we just see this all the time where men

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destroy relationships by looking for excitement in someone else. Let's

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go to the next one, carmones and relationship stress. So

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with both of these declining hard, the sexual connection begins

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to fragment or just dissolved. So declining hardmonst directly impact libido, intimacy,

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and couples often misrepresent this as rejection, not biology. And

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the sexual part is really what brings people together. So

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as that starts to fade away if you have not

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built other emotional connections, other interests, and it's just it

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is as biology. As you get older, sex thus become

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less important and intimacy is more important. And I've had

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to learn that in thirty nine years of marriage. You

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know early on, and I'll just tell you men most

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of the time get married because of sex. They see

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this as, yes, I can have a sexual relationship with

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this woman for the rest of my life. That's how

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much I love her. I'm going to say all others.

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And so if you don't build something else other than that,

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the marriage can quickly. It doesn't even have to wait

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till you're fifty. It can quickly start to dissolve. And

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that is so important. You have to move from sex

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to intimacy. Women understand that men not so much. We

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have to be trained. We have to learn that intimacy

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and sex are totally two different things. So emotional regulation.

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Hardmon shifts affect emotional regulation, leading to more arguments, less patience,

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and difficult conflict resolution. And again you have two people

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who are irritable, two people who are less patient, and

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that that can only blow up. That's just so combustible

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that things are going to happen negatively. If you don't

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understand these, if you don't investigate it, if you don't

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try to correct it, then it's inevitable. And I think

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that's what is going on in this rise in great divorce.

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We just don't understand what's happening, and we blame it

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on the other person. So the sleep disruption, hot flashes,

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nights with and anxiety disrupt sleep. This increases irritability and

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emotional distance. And women, if they do not feel good,

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they do not want to have sex, if they're uncomfortable,

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if they don't like the way they look because they've

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gained weight, due to menopause. It doesn't matter how much

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they love their husband, they are not going to want

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to have sex. And that can cause a man to

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feel rejected. And that is and that is key for

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a man. They want to feel accepted. They want their

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women to love them, they want their women to be

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proud of them, and when they don't feel that, it

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causes an emotional disconnection and a lot of times it

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causes a breakup in the marriage. So we need to

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be aware of these situations and what our biology is

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doing to us. So why is great divorce on the rise?

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There not only hormone shifts, but these hormone shifts seem

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to coincide with transitions that stress even the strong relationships.

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And again, I've been married thirty nine years, so I'm

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not telling you something that I think. I'm telling you

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something that I know. I'm telling you something that I've

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been through that we've struggled through. It. It could we

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have decided we want to get a divorce, yes, but

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early on in our marriage, the first year and even

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when we were going through counseling, we both agree that

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divorce is off the table no matter what the divorce

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that the option of divorce is off the table. Now.

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Am I saying that no one should ever divorce. No,

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if you are in an abusive relationship, if you are

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in a violent really, yes, the voice can be something

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that needs to be done. But I think everybody, if

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you're really commit to a marriage, you have to take

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divorce off the table. Because anyone who says they've been

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married for more than five or six years and they

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haven't thought about divorce, they're lying to you, okay, because

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that thought will come. Just like I've always told you, Hey, thoughts,

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they create feelings, and those feelings create your reality. So

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even though you think it, you have to go back

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and you have to say, no, I'm committed to this person.

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We took divorce off the table, so we got to

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struggle through it. And every time we struggled through it,

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it has been it has made our marriage stronger. Okay,

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So here's the first life challenge. When children come is

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the first one because I tell men, when when the children.

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When a child comes, when a woman has a child,

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that child, the nourishment of that child, the development of

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that child is that woman's number one priority. Okay, Sex

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goes way down on the list once that child comes

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and the needs of the child will always come before

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your needs. You just need to accept it. Okay, that

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is how life works. And men who think that after

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the children come that they're going to have the same

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sex life that they had before, you are fooling yourself.

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And if that is what you are looking for, I'm sorry,

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it's not going to happen. It's just not And I've

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heard it from hundreds of men, thousands of men. That's

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what happens. But you have to understand that if you

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want your children to develop as best possible, you have

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to maintain the core of that family, which is the

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husband and wife. And we learned that when our children came.

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We saw that we were drifting apart, and so we

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started taking Friday night date nights. And I don't care

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what was going on. Those children went to a place

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where they could play on Friday nights and we could

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go out to eat, we could do whatever we want.

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And I'm going to tell you that saved our marriage

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during that time is making sure that we put some

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priority on our intimacy and our connectedness even though we

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had children. It was the way we got through that,

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all right. So we had that. Then we had this

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common goal of raising our children, you know, and I'm

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trying to make sure I can provide for them, that

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I can make sure that I have money to educate them.

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So we all had a common goal. I went out

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and started speaking, and my wife stayed home. She stopped working,

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so we all worked together so we could make sure

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we raised our family. Then the children leave, then you

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have to find something else that reunites the two of

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you because now that common goal of raising the kids

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is gone, and so then you have to look at

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each other and say, do we still have a relationship

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without the kids. And thankfully we developed it even while

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the kids were small. We kept our relationship and we

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prioritized it for one day every week. It was all

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about the two of us. So then at the end,

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when both of our children left, we still had the

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core of our relationship. But then what we did We

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found a common interest and we started ballroom dancing and

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we still do it. We don't take as many lessons

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as we used to, but we started ballroom dancing and

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we did that for We did it intensely for ten years.

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So that was the thing that we could do together.

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It was something other than going out to eat and

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watching movies. It was something active. It also keeps your

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brain healthy and alive because you're actually learning something new,

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you're moving your body so that you can stay coordinated.

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So that was our interest. And now we're at this

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in our life where we have a common interest in travel.

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We went to Egypt. We're learning about things that we

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never had time to learn and experience before. And what

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you find out in life is that life is about experiences.

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Is what can you experience together? What can you experience

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in life? What wonders of this wonderful earth and universe?

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What are the things that you can learn and discover?

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So now that's our new focus. Okay, and again you

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have to have something that brings you together. And through

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this our intimacy has grown. And again I have learned

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to separate sex from intimacy. It's just these shared experiences

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are so valuable to me. They're so memorable. And when

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you have an experience and you tied in with intense emotion,

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it becomes an un forgettable it's life change. And so

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that's what we are. That's what we are discovering, and

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and also just starting this ageless blueprint is another thing

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that we are working on together. She allows me time

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to try and develop this. She encourages me. She knows

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this as a passion of mine, and she is supporting

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me through this. And even though sometimes I'm off by

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myself working on this, she understands. She's not feeling like

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I'm neglecting her. She knows that this is something that

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I hope is going to benefit both of us in

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the future and benefit our kids and their kids and

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so on and so forth. So that's why I've gotten

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so passionate about where, how did our ancestors develop me

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to get to this point, and how can I continue

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this for future generations? So anyway, So then you have

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financial pressures because you know a lot of times at

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this point in life, one of the spouses may become sick.

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You're worried about medicare, and you're worried about retirement. Do

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we have enough for retirement? Should we downsize? We've raised

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our kids for thirty years in this home. Now we

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need to downsize. We need to move and go somewhere else.

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How are we going to adjust to that? So you

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have all of these financial pressures and these relationship pressures,

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and these are modal pressures. And they can all be

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overwhelming and people look for relief, and sometimes that relief

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means that I have to break up this relationship because

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it's too much pressure. So harmone driven emotional distance can

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magnify these life transitions, making them feel insurmountable. And so

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that's what happens. There's so much pressure, so much stress,

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and you're always trying to relieve stress. You're trying to

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destress yourself. And so a lot of times people think

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that the divorce is one way of doing it. Sometimes

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that is true, but a lot of times it can

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be saved if we could understand all of these different

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pressures that come upon us as we get older. So

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here are other contributing factors. Loss of intimacy. And again,

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intimacy is different from sex. A woman naturally, you know,

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as she goes through menopolitis, she starts to have vaginal

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dryness and sex becomes not pleasurable anymore. Now there's ways,

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you know, there's lubricants, there's an estriol cream that I

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use to help women with vaginal dryness. But you just

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have to understand these are normal changes. And this is

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what I tell women. Your body naturally is going to

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avoid pain and seek pleasure. And if sex becomes discomforting

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or are painful, your body is automatically going to tell

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you to not do it, no matter how much you

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love your husband. And so that is a factor that

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can be corrected, but you need to correct it before

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it becomes ingrained in your subconscious that sex is painful.

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Because now we got to reprogram your subconscious man to say, hey,

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look there's ways we can avoid this pain and actually

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this reconnection can be pleasurable. So that's one of the

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things that is frustrating for couples. Men can't understand why

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she doesn't want to have sex if she still loves me,

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and women can't understand why their bodies won't respond even

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though they still love their husband. Okay, it's because it's

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a natural it's a natural instinct to avoid pain. Then

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routine replaces passion. You know, do we have this routine

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where we just go to work, we come home, we

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watch TV, we eat, you know, we eat, and then

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we watch TV, we go to bed, and we just

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in such a routine, there's no passion, there's no excitement,

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there's no interesting, unusual, exciting things that are happening. And

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so it just becomes a routine. We talked about the

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legal and financial changes. You know, now we are dealing

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with retirement and social security, even going to be around.

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I don't have enough in my four one K I

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should have done this. Do we need to sell our

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house so we can have enough money? So we have

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all of these financial pressures coming upon you right at

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this time where your productivity seems to be decreasing. Where

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you may be in a job and they're aging you

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out of it because you've been there for twenty thirty

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years and getting rid of the people who are costing

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them the most in payroll. Then you have AI who's

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coming to take all of our jobs, so now people

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are thinking about that. So it's just so many pressures.

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And sometimes people see divorce as a relief file and

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sometimes it can help, but a lot of times it's

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not really the best thing. So hormonal changes can accelerate

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intimacy loss, creating emotional distance over decades, and societal and

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also his other thing to reduce social stigma. It used

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to be a badge of shame if a woman was divorced.

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It was like a scarlet letter. Now there's no real

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stigma to divorce anymore. You know, divorce is becoming much

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more common. When I say we've been married for thirty

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nine years, people are shocked because most people don't stay

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married that long because the stigma has been downgraded. And

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it used to be people stayed together for the children,

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or people stayed together because they didn't want that social

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stigma of being divorced. Especially women didn't want that social

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stigmas like it used to be. All my husband passed

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me off. But after the break, we're going to talk that.

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Now most of their voices are initiated by women. Is

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not the men, it's the women. And that's what I

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saw in my OBGYN practice, is that these women came

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in saying that, hey, if I'd have known this about

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my heartlones, I may not have gotten a divorce. And

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now six well, I don't want to. I'll tell you

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what the I'll tell you what the statistics are when

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we come back from break, because it's time for break

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right now. But yes, this is a woman motivated movement,

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not men. Okay, it's not the man saying hey, I'm

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I want a divorce. I'm going to marry a younger woman.

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It's actually women who are saying I'm not going to

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take this anymore, so we'll come back right after the break.

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Angel's blueprint once again. Let's join doctor Taylor for more

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insights and research on the ancient secret to better health

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and a better life in modern times. Here's your host,

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doctor Aldred Taylor.

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All Right, we're back, and hey, Rebel, do we have

464
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any questions? Do we need to just move on? Okay?

465
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From Kevin, why did Hey, you got to ask God

466
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about that? Okay, don't I don't know. Hey, that's how

467
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you know. Hey, we are here to propagate the species.

468
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So somebody has to make sure that the species continues,

469
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and women seem to because women are the ones who

470
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are the creators of this? Are they? They're the ones

471
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who nurtured this baby from conception? Okay, so the nurturing

472
00:30:24.839 --> 00:30:27.759
didn't start on you once the man saw that baby.

473
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A woman starts nurturing that baby for the whole nine months.

474
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And I understood that when I saw women who had miscarriages,

475
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and the miscarriage may be only two, three, four weeks,

476
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but they felt a significant loss. Even if that baby

477
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never came to fruition where it was visible to other people,

478
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her biology suffered a loss and it is traumatic. And

479
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men need to understand that, and everybody needs to understand

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that that that is a lot because that mother has

481
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been nurturing that baby from conception, So it has a

482
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tie with that baby that can be stronger than the

483
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tie that they have with the man. That's why you

484
00:31:12.519 --> 00:31:17.960
see these women, these single mothers. They survive, They can

485
00:31:18.000 --> 00:31:23.119
have six children. The man leaves and they will stay there. Okay,

486
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so you need to ask God about that. But I'm

487
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telling your men you need to understand it because it's

488
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not going to as far as I know, it's not

489
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going to change. And to think about it, you don't

490
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want it to change. If you have a child, you

491
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want that mother to nurture that baby. Okay, I know

492
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you want to have your needs met too, but you're

493
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going to have to understand that you need to fall

494
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in line. Okay, you just do. Are you going to

495
00:31:51.759 --> 00:31:54.839
be frustrated? So anyway, I hope I explained that.

496
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Yes, you did, all right to say. The next question

497
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is from Charlie. Do you find men get jealous of

498
00:32:02.440 --> 00:32:05.000
not being first in a relationship after kids?

499
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Yes, that's the whole problem. That's what I'm trying to

500
00:32:08.839 --> 00:32:11.640
help you to understand. You can be jealous all you want,

501
00:32:12.079 --> 00:32:15.000
but it's not going to change how that woman is.

502
00:32:15.240 --> 00:32:18.440
And this is what I've learned. The only thing you

503
00:32:18.480 --> 00:32:23.240
can change is yourself. Okay. If you change yourself, then

504
00:32:23.279 --> 00:32:26.160
the people around you will change. And if you become

505
00:32:26.279 --> 00:32:30.880
more understanding of your wife or the mother of your child,

506
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the woman will start to understand you more. Okay, So

507
00:32:37.799 --> 00:32:42.160
you can't change women. You can't, all right. All you

508
00:32:42.200 --> 00:32:45.079
can do is change how you respond to her. And

509
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I will tell you that has been the most important

510
00:32:47.960 --> 00:32:51.720
thing that has happened in my relationship with my wife

511
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is that I learned I have to change how I

512
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respond to her. And if I change how I respond

513
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to her, she will change how she responds to me.

514
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The more I understand her and I accept her as

515
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the way she is, the more she will understand me

516
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and accept me as the way I am. And that

517
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is what I think true intimacy is is that we

518
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understand each other and we accept each other, and we

519
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accept each other through the changes that we go through.

520
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We try to understand the changes, we try to support

521
00:33:26.319 --> 00:33:30.839
each other through those changes. So that is that's how

522
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you get over the jealousy. It's just change your mindset

523
00:33:35.680 --> 00:33:39.279
and things around you will change. Let's do one more

524
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question and then I'll finish up. I think I got

525
00:33:41.160 --> 00:33:44.279
like two or three more slaves. Okay, So any other questions?

526
00:33:44.359 --> 00:33:46.920
Yes, okay. The last one is are you saying it

527
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is okay to give each other space?

528
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Oh?

529
00:33:49.960 --> 00:33:53.440
Yes, hey, I will tell you that's another thing that

530
00:33:53.599 --> 00:33:57.160
saved our marriage is that sometimes you have to go

531
00:33:57.240 --> 00:34:00.680
to your separate corners and cool down and come back.

532
00:34:00.720 --> 00:34:03.440
It's almost like you, I don't want to you know,

533
00:34:03.519 --> 00:34:05.359
like a prize fight or whatever. You know, they say,

534
00:34:05.519 --> 00:34:08.119
you know, you get all tangled up in in a fight,

535
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and then they separate you out and they say, hey,

536
00:34:10.360 --> 00:34:13.360
go to your corners, and then you come back. And

537
00:34:13.840 --> 00:34:17.760
a lot of times when we see that a discussion,

538
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I won't say an argument, that a discussion is starting

539
00:34:20.519 --> 00:34:23.880
to move into an argument, we separate, We say, let's

540
00:34:23.920 --> 00:34:27.519
let's just let's just think about this. And the key

541
00:34:27.639 --> 00:34:32.039
is give your time, give yourself time to respond instead

542
00:34:32.039 --> 00:34:35.039
of react, because a lot of times we just automatically

543
00:34:35.119 --> 00:34:38.320
react to something our spouse does and we don't take

544
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time to respond and think about it, because then what

545
00:34:41.440 --> 00:34:43.880
happens is you get into this big argument, and what

546
00:34:44.000 --> 00:34:46.880
happens after a while you start to think about it

547
00:34:47.119 --> 00:34:48.920
and you're like, why did I do that? Why did

548
00:34:48.960 --> 00:34:50.599
I do that? Why did I say that? I didn't

549
00:34:50.599 --> 00:34:55.000
mean that? So just don't react, just stop, pull shut

550
00:34:55.039 --> 00:34:59.039
your mouth, think about the situation and say how can

551
00:34:59.119 --> 00:35:03.400
I resolve this where it doesn't lead into some long

552
00:35:03.519 --> 00:35:06.360
extended argument that could lead into something that we don't

553
00:35:06.400 --> 00:35:09.920
want so just take your time listen to your wife.

554
00:35:09.920 --> 00:35:11.320
And that's what I had to listen. I had to

555
00:35:11.360 --> 00:35:14.920
learn listen to her and then just shut up. Okay,

556
00:35:15.079 --> 00:35:17.760
think about it and then come back. And sometimes you

557
00:35:17.760 --> 00:35:21.599
don't even need an answer, just listen, and sometimes just

558
00:35:21.679 --> 00:35:24.000
the woman being able to get it out and knowing

559
00:35:24.039 --> 00:35:26.960
that you heard her, you don't even need to respond.

560
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So that's something that is learned. And I'll tell you

561
00:35:31.039 --> 00:35:35.599
if you if you follow that, just be quiet sometimes, okay,

562
00:35:36.320 --> 00:35:39.639
just be quiet and take your time before you respond

563
00:35:40.119 --> 00:35:42.119
to your spouse. And I guess that can go both

564
00:35:42.159 --> 00:35:45.039
ways for the woman and the man. All right. Uh,

565
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And I am so glad that the men are asking

566
00:35:47.639 --> 00:35:52.920
the questions because the men sometimes don't look deep. We

567
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are we are, you know, my wife says. You know,

568
00:35:55.079 --> 00:35:57.440
men are simple. We're all a lot of times men

569
00:35:57.599 --> 00:36:00.719
just look at the surface. And I want you, I

570
00:36:00.760 --> 00:36:04.079
want to encourage you to go deeper into what a

571
00:36:04.199 --> 00:36:09.320
relationship should be. You know, it's more than satisfying your

572
00:36:09.360 --> 00:36:12.960
sexual desires. It's more than that. It can be more

573
00:36:13.000 --> 00:36:16.719
beautiful than that, it really can. So all right, So

574
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the role of women's independence. I told you these women

575
00:36:19.679 --> 00:36:22.280
they're like I'm not going to take this anymore. These

576
00:36:22.320 --> 00:36:26.599
hormonal shifts prompt identity reflection and they begin to say

577
00:36:26.599 --> 00:36:29.800
what do I want in my life? Second half, they've

578
00:36:29.800 --> 00:36:35.159
been you know, for decades, they've been doing household work responsibilities.

579
00:36:35.440 --> 00:36:39.920
It causes humulative stress combined with harmonal fatigue. This can

580
00:36:39.960 --> 00:36:43.559
become an emotional breaking point. And then also these women

581
00:36:43.719 --> 00:36:46.400
as they get into their fifties, see, it used to

582
00:36:46.440 --> 00:36:49.599
be they were bound by the home. The man went

583
00:36:49.639 --> 00:36:51.639
out and worked, women stayed home and took care of

584
00:36:51.639 --> 00:36:54.000
the kids in the house. So they didn't have the

585
00:36:54.079 --> 00:36:58.480
financial autonomy to say, I'm not satisfied, I'm leaving. So

586
00:36:58.679 --> 00:37:02.599
unlike past generations, women over fifty often have careers, and

587
00:37:02.760 --> 00:37:07.039
very successful careers and financial independence, enabling them to leave

588
00:37:07.159 --> 00:37:11.599
unsatisfying marriages. My wife is a physician. She could leave

589
00:37:11.639 --> 00:37:15.440
whenever she wanted to. She doesn't necessarily need me. However,

590
00:37:15.599 --> 00:37:20.760
emotionally we need each other, okay, and she needs me

591
00:37:21.280 --> 00:37:25.719
I need her. We are we are two who have

592
00:37:25.800 --> 00:37:29.599
become one, all right, But if you haven't done that.

593
00:37:30.119 --> 00:37:34.079
The woman who does look deep, she looks deep into

594
00:37:34.119 --> 00:37:39.360
a relationship. She's not functioning on the surface. So if

595
00:37:39.400 --> 00:37:43.679
she feels unsatisfied deep in her soul, she will leave.

596
00:37:44.079 --> 00:37:46.719
She will tell you she doesn't need you. She'll say

597
00:37:46.840 --> 00:37:50.159
I can do bad by myself, all right. So this

598
00:37:50.239 --> 00:37:53.440
is a new age for women, is that they are

599
00:37:53.480 --> 00:37:57.119
not totally dependent upon a man for that financial security.

600
00:37:57.559 --> 00:38:01.039
So men, you need to offer more than just financial

601
00:38:01.079 --> 00:38:04.360
security if you want to maintain your marriage. It's not

602
00:38:04.480 --> 00:38:08.920
about sex and finances. It's about having a deep relationship

603
00:38:09.320 --> 00:38:13.960
with your spouse. So women initiate sixty six percent of

604
00:38:14.119 --> 00:38:17.559
all divorces. Right, That's what I'm telling you. You know me,

605
00:38:17.599 --> 00:38:20.159
and you think, oh yeah, I'll go find me another woman.

606
00:38:20.280 --> 00:38:23.440
I know these women are saying I'm not going to

607
00:38:23.480 --> 00:38:26.840
stay in an unsatisfying marriage, and I will tell you,

608
00:38:26.920 --> 00:38:29.400
I'm going to be very honest with you. Is what

609
00:38:29.599 --> 00:38:33.800
prompted this transformation in me is that my wife, I

610
00:38:33.960 --> 00:38:37.360
was frustrated at where I was in life. I felt

611
00:38:37.360 --> 00:38:40.360
like I could do more. I had this career where

612
00:38:40.719 --> 00:38:42.880
you know, I was going out speaking and teaching and

613
00:38:42.920 --> 00:38:46.519
communicating and trying to, you know, help people, and I

614
00:38:46.679 --> 00:38:48.440
felt like I was stuck in my office. And then

615
00:38:48.480 --> 00:38:51.159
I had some other things going on with my extended

616
00:38:51.199 --> 00:38:54.920
family that I was frustrated. And my wife said, it's

617
00:38:55.000 --> 00:38:57.599
difficult for me to be with you when you're like this,

618
00:38:58.199 --> 00:39:01.079
and that struck a chord with me, and I said,

619
00:39:01.480 --> 00:39:05.920
I have to change, and I've changed, and it has

620
00:39:06.039 --> 00:39:09.360
been a wonderful change. And this is why I started

621
00:39:09.360 --> 00:39:11.960
the Age Blueprint Blueprint, This is why I went to Egypt,

622
00:39:11.960 --> 00:39:16.480
this is why here is because my wife said, you

623
00:39:16.719 --> 00:39:20.920
are not living up to your potential. That's why you're frustrated.

624
00:39:21.400 --> 00:39:25.159
And hey, if I hadn't listened, I'm she may have

625
00:39:25.199 --> 00:39:28.199
been a part of that sixty six percent, Okay, And

626
00:39:28.199 --> 00:39:31.599
that's why I'm saying, that thought comes into your mind

627
00:39:32.079 --> 00:39:35.440
and you just have to you have to move beyond it.

628
00:39:35.559 --> 00:39:37.320
And that's kind of what we did. So let me

629
00:39:37.360 --> 00:39:40.000
go to this next one and why a baby boom

630
00:39:40.119 --> 00:39:42.199
is affected now. When I used to go out and speak,

631
00:39:42.239 --> 00:39:44.599
you know, ten to fifty years ago, I talked about

632
00:39:44.599 --> 00:39:48.519
how baby boomers changed how we delivered babies where it

633
00:39:48.599 --> 00:39:51.719
used to be, you know, in the old h I

634
00:39:51.760 --> 00:39:54.960
love Lucy is that you know, the husband's in the

635
00:39:55.000 --> 00:39:58.159
waiting room and the woman is off and she's having

636
00:39:58.159 --> 00:40:00.559
a baby, and the man smoking a cigar, all that stuff.

637
00:40:00.719 --> 00:40:03.159
Baby boomers said, we're not doing it like that. We're

638
00:40:03.280 --> 00:40:06.320
not going to act like having a baby is an

639
00:40:06.320 --> 00:40:08.960
illness where we go off to the hospital. So they

640
00:40:09.000 --> 00:40:11.639
started to make these labor and delivery rooms look like

641
00:40:12.119 --> 00:40:14.960
a rich Carlton. By the time I finished doing OB,

642
00:40:15.599 --> 00:40:18.480
these rooms were spacious. All the family could be in

643
00:40:18.519 --> 00:40:23.559
there and watch the delivery. They changed how we deliver babies.

644
00:40:23.599 --> 00:40:28.079
They changed OB and then they've changed menopause. Is that

645
00:40:28.199 --> 00:40:31.519
they're saying, I'm not taking this perman and bavarian. Some

646
00:40:31.559 --> 00:40:33.079
of you are not old enough to know that's what

647
00:40:33.119 --> 00:40:36.159
we used to do. If everybody the same thing, And

648
00:40:36.199 --> 00:40:39.079
they're like, no, we're not going to do it that way.

649
00:40:39.480 --> 00:40:43.599
And then so they're also changing the way divorces looked

650
00:40:43.639 --> 00:40:46.920
at all. Right, They're saying, no, I'm not going to

651
00:40:47.000 --> 00:40:50.199
be in this marriage. I don't need the financial security,

652
00:40:50.519 --> 00:40:53.840
I don't need the disconnect, I don't need someone who

653
00:40:53.920 --> 00:40:58.119
is emotionally distant from me. I'll leave. And so the

654
00:40:58.159 --> 00:41:02.599
baby boomers have always changed society. And I'm at the

655
00:41:02.719 --> 00:41:07.159
end of this baby boom general baby boomer generation, and

656
00:41:07.280 --> 00:41:11.400
I have lived through the changes that the baby boomers

657
00:41:11.000 --> 00:41:16.199
have created. So anyway, baby boomers consistently had higher divorce rates.

658
00:41:16.440 --> 00:41:20.559
Great Voice continues this trend again, this women's independence and

659
00:41:20.760 --> 00:41:24.519
women's movement. They feel like they don't have to have

660
00:41:24.599 --> 00:41:29.320
a man. I believe that the man woman relationship is sacred,

661
00:41:29.760 --> 00:41:32.039
but women are finding out that they don't have to

662
00:41:32.039 --> 00:41:37.599
stay in an unsatisfying relationship. Life expectancy extends into the eighties.

663
00:41:37.880 --> 00:41:41.440
Staying in unfulfilling marriages for decades is now unacceptable. Yeah,

664
00:41:41.719 --> 00:41:44.480
you're fifty and you're like, hey, I got thirty more

665
00:41:44.519 --> 00:41:47.119
good years. How do I want to spend those thirty

666
00:41:47.159 --> 00:41:50.480
years again? That's why I started ages this bootprint. I'm like,

667
00:41:50.519 --> 00:41:53.599
I'm sixty five, but I still have energy. I want

668
00:41:53.639 --> 00:41:56.880
to do more. So I decided, Hey, I'm going to

669
00:41:56.960 --> 00:42:00.079
start a podcast. I'm going to start this school community.

670
00:42:00.159 --> 00:42:01.840
I'm going to do all this because I have a

671
00:42:01.880 --> 00:42:05.440
lot more living to do. Harmonal health gap gap mid

672
00:42:05.480 --> 00:42:08.599
life harmonal changes are rarely addressed as a relationship issue.

673
00:42:08.599 --> 00:42:12.800
Many marriages drift apart. Be in biological support could help.

674
00:42:13.199 --> 00:42:17.320
And that's why I'm doing this topic is I want

675
00:42:17.360 --> 00:42:20.559
you to understand that those life changes are hard enough

676
00:42:20.920 --> 00:42:25.760
and if you don't correct the biology changes, it's almost

677
00:42:26.039 --> 00:42:30.199
it's almost inevitable that your marriage could end in a divorce.

678
00:42:30.679 --> 00:42:33.800
Are you're going to just stay in an unsatisfying marriage

679
00:42:34.039 --> 00:42:37.159
because you haven't fixed these biology issues? All right? So

680
00:42:37.320 --> 00:42:40.639
I think this is, yeah, what makes great divorce different.

681
00:42:40.840 --> 00:42:44.000
This is just like a summary. We have complex finances

682
00:42:44.079 --> 00:42:48.840
like say downgrading, move into a different home, or move

683
00:42:48.840 --> 00:42:52.199
into a different country because you can't afford to live

684
00:42:52.199 --> 00:42:54.800
in America anymore. So you have these expaths that are

685
00:42:54.840 --> 00:42:58.679
moving to Africa and move into Portugal and move into

686
00:42:58.719 --> 00:43:02.400
all of these places. And that's very disrupting, and it

687
00:43:02.440 --> 00:43:05.000
can be even though you're going there to relieve stress,

688
00:43:05.320 --> 00:43:09.199
it can be stressful that transition. The emotional impact later life.

689
00:43:09.280 --> 00:43:13.840
Divorce often triggers identity crisis, loneliness, and depression as partners

690
00:43:13.960 --> 00:43:17.760
lose social networks and future plans. That's another issue with divorce,

691
00:43:17.960 --> 00:43:20.559
and you've probably had this happen when you have a

692
00:43:20.599 --> 00:43:23.679
couple that's friends of yours that divorce. Now, all of

693
00:43:23.719 --> 00:43:26.320
a sudden, you have to pick sides. You've met these

694
00:43:26.360 --> 00:43:29.400
people as couples, now they've divorced, and now it disrupts

695
00:43:29.400 --> 00:43:32.519
your whole social network. So now the friends used to

696
00:43:32.519 --> 00:43:35.239
hang out with, they're no more, They're not together anymore,

697
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and usually it just dissolves that whole relationship. So we

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talked about housing challenges and then unrecognized root calls hormone imbalances.

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So you want to make sure that you are trying

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to handle all of these issues. And the first thing

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is just to be aware of these issues so that

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you can you can tackle them together and work through

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them together and not blame each other for your situation.

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Here we go, great voice, key takeaways, emotional shifts. We've

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really just talked about that. So we have about three

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or four more managed. So what I really would like

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for you to do is that in our school group,

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I am going to create a relationship reset. Course, my

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school group is going to go to a subscription service

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and I'll be announcing more about that. But I started

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this Age's Blueprint School about four or five months ago,

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and all I had was a community where I would

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give an agelest tip of the day and we would

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have people go back and forth and we talk about it. Well,

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over the last four months, I've created a lot of content.

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You know, I've tried to relate thirty years of my

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medical experience and my life experience, my relationship experience, and

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how I've gone from being a conventional doctor to a

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functional medicine doctor to now I'm becoming a healer and

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all spects of all aspects of a person's life where

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we're talking about my body, mind and spirit. So I've

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done a lot of travel, I've taken a lot of courses.

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I've hired mentors to help me to develop myself and

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develop a program. So I've spent a lot of time

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and a lot of money, and I want to be

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able to share it with you, But I have to

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place a value on that, and I appreciate everybody who

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joined when all I had was a community. But now

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we need to move into this next phase where I

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can share more and I can help you to implement

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some of these some of these changes. So that is

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to come, I hope to. I hope to release that

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on September the first are as close as I can

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to that. Even while I'm here in God if I'm

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not out experiencing this culture, I am actually here, and

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you can get rid of the slades. I am actually

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here in my hotel room developing content, is trying to

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develop more information that I can share with you, because

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I want my experiences to benefit more than just the

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people who come into my office. I want it to

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benefit the people who are listening on the podcast, who

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follow me on different social medias, because now I understand

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is that's how you get a message across. My patient

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told me I had to get into social media if

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I really wanted people to understand and if I wanted

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to combat some of the misinformation that's out there, you

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have to fight fire with fire. And so that's what

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I'm doing. And I hope that this podcast is helping you.

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And if you want to work with me closer, please

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join my school group, follow me on my YouTube channel,

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follow me on this podcast, Age's Blueprint podcast dot com.

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So please connect with me. I want to connect with

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you and rebel any more questions. I think we got

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a minute or two or not even listen maybe lessen

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at any more questions.

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No, doctor, you covered everything.

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Okay, all right, good? So I will see you next week.

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I hope. I have to look at my flight information

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on Wednesday. I may be traveling next Wednesday. If not,

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I may mean if I am, I may pre record something.

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It won't be live. But I'll let you know, but

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until then, I'm saying goodbye from Akroagana.

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Thanks for joining Doctor Tamler today. If you missed any

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part of this show, just check out the podcast wherever

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you listen to podcasts. Angel's Blueprint is every Wednesday at

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nine am Eastern Time on W FOURHC Radio at W

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FOURC dot com. Together, we discovered the ancient secrets to

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better health through science and spirituality need for modern times.

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Until then, feel free to check out angel'speeprint podcast dot

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com and tailor Mvformulations dot com for more information