Emotional safety doesn’t come from a ledger.
You can’t bank affection.
You can’t collect brownie points.
And you can’t cash in something you did two weeks ago.
For many women, safety is current.
Not historical.
It’s not:
“I brought you flowers last week.”
It’s:
“Are you listening to me right now?”
The nervous system doesn’t respond to memories.
It responds to presence.
Listening.
Attunement.
Responsiveness in the moment.
This isn’t manipulation.
It’s biology.
Connection is built in real time —
through attention, consistency, and care today.
When emotional safety is present,
physical intimacy has room to return.
Not because of pressure.
But because the body feels seen.
