The Relationship Growth Framework™

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0:43 As Together we discover the secrets to better health through science and spirituality. A better life with Ageless Blueprint starts now. Here's your host, Doctor Eldrid Taylor. Hello. Hello, this is Wednesday morning, and that means it's time for the Asians Blueprint and I am doctor Taylor and I am the hormone Doctor and the Spiritual MD. And I did a podcast last week and we talked about relationships and really it was talking about how do you change the future, And it's really about changing the relationships between parents, our mothers and fathers, are you know, spouses because you know, really, when you really think about it, even that picture about the guy who we met in Egypt.

1:34 You know, we talk about what is the blueprint, and the ace's blueprint is really that two people get together, they have children, they raise those children. And what we've talked about in the past we're going to talk about today is that you have a blueprint that's imprinted upon you in the first seven years of your life, and it's really a reflection of the relationship of your caretakers. Are your parents, you know, sometimes caretakers can be an aunt or you know, a grandparent if there is a bad situation at home. So you have to think that that blueprint has been started from you know, beginning generations. You know, so one generation they raise children and they imprint that blueprint. And if you don't, if you're not aware of that, you begin to follow the blueprint of your parents and you say, well, what blueprint did they follow?

2:25 They follow the blueprint of their parents, Well what blueprint? So if you don't consciously change that blueprint, you're going to keep living a life and your children are going to live a life that has been passed down through the ages. So what we're going to talk about today is once you're aware of that, then you can change it. It's hard for you to change things that you are unaware of, and that blueprint is putting in your subconscious mind. In your subconscious mind runs ninety five percent of what you do. So if that blueprint is running ninety five percent of your life, you need to be comfortable with the blueprint and you need to know what that blueprint is. And so a lot of times when two people are running a blueprint that has been passed down through generations, those blueprints somehow have to mesh and they have to come together and they have to resolve the differences of those blueprints and come up with their own blueprint. So that's what we're going to talk going to talk about, how do you become aware of that, how do you make your own blueprint? And so that's what we're going to talk about. And here's the crazy thing is that a lot of times you're attracted to people who really just bring up those issues that have caused you problems in the childhood. You end up being attracted to that because it's familiar to you. You don't know why it's familiar, but it is okay, so let's go to the slats, rebel.

3:50 Can you let me make that bigger so I can say, okay, there we go. All right, So here's the big question. So we all know that, Hey, everybody who's over twelve years old, they felt that romantic love, okay, and that romantic love usually lasts about eighteen months, and that's when you think that that other person is the best thing that ever happened to you. And a lot of times you're attracted to them because they have some of the same wounds that you have. So if you talk about the energetic level, are just a chemistry level. You see something that's familiar, she reminds you of something, and you actually will say, hey, look, it feels like I've been knowing you all my life. All this stuff, you are really being attracted to that blueprint. That's what you're really being attracted to. And there's all kinds of theories about this, you know, why we attract each other and all this, But here's what always happens. After that eighteen months, that old blueprint starts to show up. Okay, those things that were heard and wounded in your childhood, they begin to show up. And what happens is when they show up and remember the other person's familiar to you, you start to think that that other person is are your partner is making you feel like that those uncomfortable feelings that you had, and so there's always this point. So over time, the spark turns into friction because I tell you, you get those two blueprints that are that are trying to heal and that's what that's what a relationship is supposed

5:21 to do, heal those childhood wounds. That's a lot of theories say that so many couples get stuck in that power struggle instead of trying to come up and trying to heal those wounds and get their own blueprint, they get stuck just fighting and all of these you know, they just get stuck. They don't realize what's happening to them, and then that causes stress. And what my theory is is that that stress just amplifies everything. So it's very hard to get through that conflict when you're dealing with that stress and you're dealing with hormones that are just regulated and so that it almost becomes impossible. You're not aware of what's happening. Your hormones are crazy. So that's what we're going to talk about. So why do we start in chemistry and end in conflict? Because initially, when you see something familiar, you get that bonding hormone called oxytocin, it's serotonin dopamine. You get this dopamine hit every time you see or you feel so alive and so satisfied and whatever. But that's all chemistry, okay. And so that chemistry changes with time, and the relationship changes with time because when that all of that wears off, you start to see who that person really is and some of those old wounds start to come up and show up, and then that's what causes the conflict, all right. And see it's also men and women are just different. Believe me, I've read all the relationship books because being an over Joanna, being a man, I read a lot of these books

6:52 about the relationships and how men and women communicate to each other. And I will tell you that this helped me a lot in my relationship. This is really from Men Are from Mars and Women Are from Venus. The authors is John Gray, and he talks about how men and women have different emotional needs and have different communication, ways to communicate. So men they want to be respected, they want to be admired. They want their women to be proud of them, so they do things. They play football, they do all these things, so they want their women to be proud of them. But what a woman really wants is to be understood. And always say, no man really understands a woman. It's just because we have just two different brains. But women want you to feel their emotions.

7:44 They want to be understood, they want to feel love. We want to feel respected, and we don't really feel. We just want them to look and think and react to us like we're respected because we really don't understand emotions. And we have to open up and be more emotional in order to understand our wives. And believe me, I've been married for forty years. I'm going to I will tell you that I only opened up emotionally in these last two or three years, and that has really changed our relationship. And I just feel bad that it took me, took me thirty eight years of marriage. Actually understand this right, So, but the missing piece is that when stress is involved, problems become huge fights. So this is the power struggle we're talking about we pick partners who match old childhood pattern and we don't know it, but that's what happens, all right, So it explains. So then two conflict shows up so we can grow. And I will tell you that that is the key, is that they that the other person in your life is really there to help you to grow. And I've finally realized in that realized that in my relationship because what happened is is that after I finished medical school and did residency, I felt like, oh, I finally made it, you know, I had my practice and all these things, and then my wife came to me and said, I wasn't passionate about anything. Now, initially she was attracted to me because I wasn't passionate. That I was calm and stable, and she felt like she

9:18 had a life that was not at stable, so she wanted something. I said, So then I'm stable. That's what she was attracted to. But then when I was too stable, I was boring. So anyway, she challenged me. But you know what I grew. I grew. That's when we wrote our books, all your hormones making you sick and the stress connection. Because she challenged me to say I needed to be passionate about something, and I became passionate about biodemical harmones and that is what led me here, and that's what we're talking about. Conflicts should help you to grow. But a lot of times because when they say something like that, I will tell you I felt disrespected. I was like, how can you say that? I've done all these things? You know? But she wanted to feel my passion and so that now that's something. Now that took me a while to understand, but that's something I had to understand. So let's think about that, you guys. So a lot of times, is the reason why we have these problems is that because we may have had attachment problems when we were growing up. If you don't, if you didn't feel attached to your caretaker, then you're going to be someone who feels insecure and you're going to want to cling to that person and the person will say, ah, you're do clinging all right if you felt some If people feel secure when they fear losing love or pull away.

10:39 But what's missing is why do we react differently in hard times? Okay, that's easy to do when you're in love, but when you're in hard times it becomes very difficult. Okay, So why the missing piece why heavy stress makes things reaction, make these reactions worse because stress comes in, it disrupts your heartmones, disrupts how you reactive. Results that it disrupts how you respond because you're in this survival mode, all right. And then there's something about the biology or relief of belief. This is Bruce Lipton, and he says hidden beliefs got most of your behavior. He's the one that talks about how you're hypnotized the first seven years of your life.

11:22 Whatever you see becomes imprinted in your subconscious man. Because you can't filter it and say, oh that's good, I don't want to do that. You just absorb it all and then it becomes a blueprint. It becomes a pattern for your life. So that explains why we repeat the same patterns. You know, some people in the religious world they call it a generational curse, but it's not. It may not be a generational curse. It may be this weird unconsciously repeating patterns that we've seen. And that's why I'm talking about. You may be repeating a pattern from a generation. You know, for generations back and that just repeated over and over again. And see your thoughts change how your body works, so how stress hormones change how you treat your partner. You need to understand that even though all of this, this belief and all of this is that when stress comes in, it just makes everything harder to deal with. So a lot of these theories, they're really psychological. They talk about how to communicate better, how to understand each other better. You talk about the Harveyl Hendrix, he talks about he gives guided meditation. How you want you want to imagine how your relationship should be.

12:36 And I will tell you that that's part of what I did when I did this Reality Creator is I imagine how my how I wanted to improve my relationship. But the missing piece is that we talk about the mand and you know, I'm all about body, mind and spirit, but a lot of these theories about mind and spirit and they don't put the body piece in there. And that's what I'm talking about measuring stress. You cannot manage what you cannot measure. So if stress is an issue, you need to be aware of that. You've got to correct that or your relationship is going to not be complete. And you're going to stay in that power struggle because neglecting the hormones and the stress is just going to keep you stuck right there. Now you have two issues there, all right. When you're stuck, you can either split apart.

13:27 But if you don't go through that power struggle, it's what you're going to do. You're not going to grow. So what are you going to do. You're going to attract someone who's just like that. You're going to have eighteen months of bliss, then you're going to go through a power struggle. And that's why people get divorced over and over again because they're not aware of what is actually going on. And you always got to say, the common denominator in any relationship is you, Oh, some of my slash didn't come over, A lot of my slash didn't all right, all right, here we go. So but almost no one talks about a few experts talk about the stress hormones. And that's the difference with me. I'm trying to Usually, you know, I'm a I'm a doctor, so you're like, hey, you need to talk about the body, and so that's what we are going to talk about.

14:15 I was trying to expand and talk about man and spirit. Where there's a lot of people doing that. But what I want to do is put it all together, all right. So a few experts talk about stress hormones, almost no one measures the body's physical state, all right. So that's what I'm talking about, this life of cortosol testing. To measure stress and to look at hormones by measuring it and not just guessing. That's what can bring us all together and can get you through the power struggle because you're not amplifying any everything because you're you're stressed. So stress makes every relationship problem feel louder. A stressed body easily ruins connection. So what could be a simple sit down, let's talk. Let's see where we can come together on this and figure out a new blueprint. See when stress is involved, anything a woman says to a man, he can take it as disrespect, and anything that a man says to a woman, she can take it as you don't understand me, And it just makes it where that's the baseline, but the stress just amplifies it. So the real world example, let's let's just look at the real world.

15:25 So I actually have a patient who's a marriage counselor. And this is what really got me into this. And she came to me because somebody had put her on too much estrogen. Okay, she was gaining weight. She was irritable. She you know, she's a marriage counselor and it's causing problems with her and her marriage, and she feels like it's causing a problem with her with her with her practice. So anyway, she took too much. Aswer I looked. I did a saliva test on her, her estrogen which shouldn't be more than four rusd six. Her estrogen ratio was out of balance, cortisol was out of balance, and we corrected her and all of her issues became fanned. Okay, so she started to lose weight. And then but here's what she realized. She said, you know what, I have been in the marriage counciling business for twenty thirty years, and she said, I knew that these couples coming in at forty fifty who had been married for twenty years.

16:20 I knew it was a hormone problem because I could tell their personalities had changed, they were more aggressive, all these and I would send them to a doctor. They would get the blood work and they it would all come back normal. And then so I'm trying to fix this psychological problem, this relationship problem. And now she realizes she was right. Her intuition told her they had hormone problems. They were just getting the hormone problems were getting measured the wrong way, and so nobody was aware of that. So this is a real life example. Fixing her hormones cleared her mand and it allowed her to look back at the other patients or clients that she had seen and said that was probably an issue with them because she was in their age group. I think she's the late fifties, early sixties, so she could relate to all of them. And then so that's how important this is.

17:12 And remember, this is how you change that blueprint. This is how you change the next generation is by understanding this, getting your heart wone straight, getting all this together so that you can have a relationship that can be passed on that you can be proud of. All right, so the hidden amplifier stress makes your every action is much bigger. If you've ever seen me talk about a quarters all curve. If you have the normal amount of quarters all, you can handle stress. You can handle mouse stress, you can even handle moderate stress, but when you have been in a high stress situation for a long time. And that's what that power struggle is, because you just have to think.

17:52 Once you get married, now you got to have this power struggle on who's going to take out the garbage? Are we going to have kids, what church are we going to go through, what's school are we're going to send ours? How are we going to get our kids into college? Who's going to help with the homework? Yeah, all of these power struggles. But as this goes on and as you get more and more stressors, it wears you down, and as you get older, your hormones change. So how stress makes you feel less safe. So now a neutral face suddenly looks critical. So now when she says, why didn't you take out the garbage, now that's a fight because you don't respect me. You expect me to do all this. I'm doing all of that. So that's what happens in that power struggle. And the key is can you manage your hormones? Can you measure and balance your harmones so that you don't amplify this normal power struggle in the relationship, It will happen romantic love does not last forever. We know that. We see all of these Hollywood couples. They usually last for about two years because they are really attracted to an image and they don't I won't say, I won't generalize, but it's difficult, difficult for them to go through a power struggle because they have all of the stress of the world is watching and they have to go off and be with you know, be away from that partner from a for a long time. So let me, let me keep going.

19:17 So is the real problem? Most of the time you have two holley stressed people because they've been stressed from their childhood of blueprint and now they've gotten together, they've had this romantic experience, and what happens after the eighteen months that all dies down. So now the real person. Now you see all of the negative traits and you see everything and so and then you go through the power struggle and that just increases everything. So you got too holly stressed people trying to talk will almost always cause a bigger fight. So you can't go into this in this state of mind because at this state of man, you are just in a survival mode. The front, your executive a part of your brain that filters what you say and what you think. It is turned off. All you can do is react. You don't respond in a logical, non emotional way. You are just all about fight or flight, and when you get into that, nothing good is going to happen. Okay, So somehow you have to regulate yourself in the moment, and it's a lot easier to do it when your baseline hormone pattern is normal. Okay, So even when your baseline hormone panel is normal, these situations can still arise. But you have to be able to say, wait a minute, let me turn off this reptilian brain that's only trying to survive and only trying to win

20:48 this particular fight and not thinking about winning in this overall relationship. And that's what happens when you're under stress. You just think about the right here and now, I just got to survive this moment, the heck with the relationationship. I'm going to win this fight. That's the problem, all right. So how do you? How do you quiet your man? How do you how do you how do you get out of that fight or flight? And what is going to make you more susceptible to it? Well, this is what I will tell you, and this is the problem as you get older. Sleep is the absolute foundation of a healthy relationship, okay. Is that if you don't sleep, you are going to not recover.

21:28 That's what causes that, uh that wired and tired, Uh, tired and wired. Part of the cortisol curve is that when you don't get added with sleep, your morning cortisol goes down. That morning cortisol is your stress hormony. It mobilizes glucos so you have the energy to get through the stressors. So but if you don't sleep, that morning cortisol goes down. So now you're tired all day. When you're tired, you're not going to be able to be reasonable and logically non emotional because you're tired, you can't handle the stress. So now, like you said, a small little uh, you know, upshoot of the eyebrow. You think that you're being disrespected or you don't listen to her because you're so tired you can't even comprehend what she's saying, and so you say something that shows her you weren't listening, and then she says you never listen, So this is you know, this is kind of the vicious cycle we go through. So patients poor sleeps lowers your patients. Also, negativity is increased when you're tired. Being tired makes you focus on the negative. You know, we always say, well, I'll tell you, men always say when women get into an argument, they bring up things from twenty thirty years ago. Well, that's probably because she's tired. And so then the negative, the reason why I want to fight and our flight comes to the forefront. Right, so you think about all of the things that he has done or she is done,

23:00 and you start to focus on that instead of just thinking about the present moment. What is going on right now? What are we fighting about right now? What is the issue right now? Is not about what happened twenty years ago when you said something or you forgot her birthday or whatever. And I'm not trying to minimize that, but I'm just saying it becomes a bigger issue when you are tired, or when you are when your cortisol is out of balance and your estrogen progesterone is out of balance, all right, and then so now you've had all of those stressors. And I'll tell you, these mid life changes are either early life change I will tell you is that you can go through this romantic love for the first eighteen months, and then if you have a child, or you have children, that is a big stress change and a big hormonal change. The maternal instinct is real.

23:57 I would say when I was lecturing, is that once a woman has a child, then her focus is totally on the well being of those children. And a lot of times men fee old, neglected and disrespected, and so now we have this communication issues. The man doesn't understand that, Hey, for those eighteen months, it was all about me. Now we have this child, and you seem to have forgotten about me. And that's something that men and women need to understand, is that that is a big inflection point, is when you have children and then once you you know, go through that power struggle, and then once the children leave, that's another big mid life change. So hormone changes makes relationships feel unstable. All right, now we all know that, Hey, I'm the hormone doctor, and I'm telling you at these points, eternal instinct harmones change when period menopause and menopause harmones change.

24:54 And what happens is and this is what I keep trying to get across. Just like the lady who was on too much. What decreases in perimenopaus and menopause is not estrogen, it's progesterone. You stop ovulating. Progesterone is an anti anxiety, antidepression harmone. So if you are anxious and depressed during perimenopause, here's what happens. You think that your partner is making you anxious and depressed, but it's really your hormones. And you have stacked on twenty years of this power struggle, so that twenty years of power struggle has caused your cortisol to get disregulated. So that's why a lot of times in this midlife after twenty years, you know, forty fifty sixty year olds, they think that this is incompatibility, but it's really a mid life change.

25:44 It's going through the power struggle. And then at the end of the power struggle, everybody's hormones change. The man's hormones change, the woman's hormones change. And this sometimes is just the point of no return. Is just said, this is not getting better, it's getting and so people take the divorce route. That's where divorce has gone up I thirty five percent now what do you think that does to your kids? Okay, So even though they're they're you know, they have gone through that hypnotic stage, they still are part of that relationship, so they see that relationship change and so that gets imprinted. Okay, is that how my relationship is going to be a lot of people don't get married and don't have children because they've seen that blueprint and they're like, the only way I can not repeat that is just not to have children. Okay, And that's what a lot of people are thinking. I think that's why the birth rate has gone down. It says like, no, I don't want to repeat that. So either you can become conscious and change it, or you just say I'm just not going to get involved at all. All right, So dropping hormones strip away your emotional buffer. Normal differences suddenly feel impopered to handle, and that's I really believe that's what is going on. But what we want to talk about is the growth foundation. How can we use that power struggle, because you're going to go through it, how can you use that power struggle to actually grow

27:15 your relationship instead of destroy your relationship? And even if even if the relationship doesn't grow if you make a decision about leaving the relationship, making sure it's the relationship and not your hormones. The reason why I say that is that I'm telling you I've had several patients, not just a few, several patients say if I had a known this before I got a divorce, I probably wouldn't have gotten a divorce. So I'm saying this from experience, okay, is that this is important if before you make a big decision. That's going to be my last slide here after the break, because before you make a clear, a big decision, make sure that you are thinking clearly, making make sure that your hormones and your stress harmon hasn't turned off your executive part of the brain and allows you to make reactive decisions instead of responsible decisions. So I know it's time for a break, and then we're going to talk more about how can we get through that power struggle and grow our relationships and create a good blueprint to pass along to future generations. All right, let's go to break.

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29:36 All right, I'm back. You know, I hope you saw that picture of that's when we were in Egypt, and that was a guy named Ronnie and he had lived in the mountains of Petra for five hundred years. His grandmother lived to be like one hundred and six. And let me tell you, talking to this guy made me feel so at ease. He was the epitome of no stress, and just for five hundred years his family has been there, and that's a blueprint. He doesn't know anything else. That's his blueprint, and he's passed that on. They've passed that on for five hundred generations. And that's what I'm talking about, these blueprints, and that's a five hundred year old blueprint. But they have followed that and he's peaceful. They work with nature. He said that the animals take care of us.

30:23 We take care of the animals, and you know, so that's just I always want you to see that there's different people live different ways and there are ways to live stress free. He has kids he talks about because they live in the mountains that they that the kids live with the grandmother for the first two or three years until he can climb up here. She can climb up into the mountains. And that's all I would say. You know, there are different blueprints, and you can change your blueprint. You don't have to go live in the mountains of Petra, but your blueprint can change if you don't like what your blueprint is. He likes his blueprint, so he's going to carry it, you know, to carry it on. But if you don't like your blueprint. If you can become aware and you can get your harmones right, so you can make good decisions, and you guys can get together and you can can help each other grow.

31:12 And that's what's happened in our relationship. I believe, I hope I've helped her grow, but I know she's helped me grow because, let me tell you, the only reason why I'm doing this age was this blueprint is because my wife challenged me again to grow. She said, hey, you usould go out and speak. And she said, I know that wore you out, and I really was burnt out from traveling and speaking. But she says, there's a new way to do this. I see other guys on here talking about this type of information, and you know it better than they do. And so she challenged me, and I grew, and our relationship grew because we were balanced and we could understand each other. But that doesn't come easy. I tell you, we've been married forty years, and I feel like we've just really developed a really mature love in the last two years because we both became aware of ourselves and we began to accept each other as actually different people and not trying to make the other person be just like us. That's a lot of times what happens. So here's that mad life perlision.

32:15 I got a little bit ahead of myself. Older couples often think that they just fell out of love, but usually it's a crash of high stress and shifting hormones. Old pain surfaces when the body is too tired to cope. So all of those past hurts and things they end up coming up again, and then you start to think, hey, why am I feeling like that? It's really from a past hurt, past something that happened when you were unaware and your subconscious and somehow, when these hormones get disregulated, all of that stuff comes up and you can't you can't filter it out to say no, it's not my spouse, it's it's this. And if you can, if the partnership grows, you will be able to hear healed each other's hurts.

33:02 And according to Hendrix, that's what real relationships are for, to help heal each other, heal each other, provide the other person what they did not get when they were a developing child. All right, but again, I think all of those theories are great, but man, it really is a challenge when this is going on. So couple's mistake the tired physical reaction for the truth. So you're tired, your hormones OTO and you just say it's the relationship because the relationship was good. And when you say what you've changed, well, yes you guys, both of you guys have changed, but you have to use that change to help advance the relationship. So one of the guys I think is Hindris. He talks about you don't ask what the relationship can do for you. You ask what you can do for the relationship. The relationship is more important than the individual. When we were raising our kids, like we have to go on date nights, we have to do some of this stuff because if our relationship breaks down, the whole family unit breaks down. So somehow my wife understood that early and now I'm just giving you the science behind it. All right, So the way forward, the way for it is that relationships do not mature with tan.

34:20 They mature with regulation under stress. And this is an issue is that early on, when my wife ain't got married, we said we were going to take divorce off the table. I said that last week you got to take divorce off the table. But that's not the only thing that means you're committed. That means that I'm not going to lead. I'm going to stay here through thick and Dan committed, we have taken divorce off the table. Well, that's great, but just being committed doesn't mean that you have a mature love commit It says, even though we argued, even though we fight, even though I don't feel like you really respect me, even though I feel like you don't really understand me, I'm not a quitter. So I'm just going to stay here. So you end up having this kind of loveless we're both roommates kind of relationship, which really is a love. Okay, it's commitment, you know. It's just like I've committed to show up to work. You can commit to work, but you might not love work.

35:14 All right, So commitment is great, that's why you say the vows and everything. But love matures over tan. It takes ten. It takes going through the rough tand you know we've had times that you know, we've been married forty years. You're going through your parents getting sick, your parents dying, maybe a sibling passed away, lost a job, got a job, all of these things. But if you can go through those together, take the highs, take the lows, don't automatically go for the off ramp when a conflict happens. I'm telling you, if you go through that and you mature together, it really can be a beautiful thing. And I'm telling you is that if I tell people, if you can hang in there, it can be beautiful. And I'm telling you this is from me talking about we've I've always been We've always been committed to each other.

36:03 We've always loved each other, Okay, and that's the reason why we stayed. Okay, we loved each other. But mature love is really really when you are when you grow and you able to heal and you're able to understand each other. It's almost hard to explain because it's almost it's really kind of new to me, is the difference between commitment and true mature love. All Right, So here's the growth framework. Here's how you can grow your marriage, how you can both grow together and the relationship makes both of you guys better. It's not about someone being superior to the other. It's that you're both involved in this relationship that is enhancing you. And everyone around you.

36:53 It enhances your kids, it enhances who you work with because you're not bringing stress from work home and you're not bringing stress from home to work. Okay, you've got a stable life. You go home and there's peace. And I'll tell you all, men they just want peace, okay, and women want understanding, right, So stay in calm under stress builds mature lung. And I really, I really do believe that, okay. Is that stress is what makes you grow. You gotta think nothing grows. Everything gets stressed in order to grow, okay. Is that you have to put a seed in the ground, take it away from the sunlight, stress it. Then it wants to grow and go into the sunlight. Okay, And then you'll have flowers. If they want to grow, they have to turn toward the sunlight. Okay.

37:47 So it's all about you have to and even if you know we sell a dream of Cari Glandro, it's about these adaptogens that can grow in stressful situations. Seeing Rodeola cordzuf I just thought about this, These adaptogens that help you to better adapt to stress. Everybody's heard of astra ganda and gensening, all of those. The reason why those are adaptagens is because they grow in stressful situations. They can grow in mountaintops in cold weather. So it's all about stress makes things grow and makes things resilient. So your relationship will grow when it can work its way through stress. If you cannot say calm, conflicts repeat forever.

38:31 That's why I'm talking about that azeless blueprint, is that these conflicts just keep repeating and they can go from generation to generation. Because your children see the conflict, it gets into the subconscious mind. They repeat the same conflict. Right. Real growth happens after surviving the power struggle. And again everyone is going to have the power struggle if you stay in a relationship. It is just how mother nature wants you to grow. It is a part of the plan. And Hindrick says that mother nature is and I believe this the universe, the quantum field, God, how do you want to call it? There is order to this and the order of relationships is I'm going to put people who unconsciously need each other. I'm going to make them for eighteen months just be so attracted to each other.

39:23 They have to come together because they need to go through the power struggle to heal their childhood because in this quantum field physics, I told you that was That's kind of what opened my eyes to all this is that in the quantum field, they is saying that everything, every memory is in this quantum field. So if that's the case, your subconscious remembers your childhood and nature wants everything to heal and grow. Is that when you cut your finger, your body automatically heals it. When you break a leg, body will heal it. And so some of the thought is is that you're attracted because you're trying to heal the wounds that cuts the scars from your childhood.

40:10 Nature wants you to heal. So it puts you in a relationship that through conflict, through the power struggle, will help you to heal and to grow because nature wants everything to grow. That's kind of when I first heard it. It was like, man, that's wild, but yeah, everything wants to grow, okay. So and so for the human species to grow, what has to happen. You have to be attractive, you have to go through and for the human species to grow, you have to get through those power struggles and change the blueprint so that the next generation can grow from what you learned and how you grew your relationship.

40:51 So working through hard times together deepens love. You know, the song says what doesn't kill you will make you stronger. That's right, because I'll tell you there's a lot of things that can happen and try and kill a relationship, but if you can get through it, it will make you stronger, all right. So let's redefine compatibility. It's not about always being comfortable. It means stay calm while growing together. So you think compatibility means, oh, we like the same things, we do the same that's what happens with romantic love. Oh they he likes peanut butter and I like peanut butter is and that's so great. That's not it, Okay, It means stay calm or growing together. You must feel safe to be yourself. Couples must learn to recover quickly after a fight. And again I told you that love grows when you finally accept the person for who they are and not for who they pretended to be when they recording, or who they're trying to be to keep the conflict down. When you feel safe, you are free to just h relax and be yourself and know that your partner's not going to criticize you or be negative to what you In the relationship of information I was reading, they say you have to take away all negativity, all the little weird little faces that you make, sounds, the rolling of your eyes. You have to remove all of that.

42:15 And once you accept the person as they are, it becomes easy because whatever they do, you're like, Okay, that is them, and this is me. He talks about you. You have to understand if you are married or in a relationship with a person who is different from you, and stop trying to make them just like you. So we need to stop the damage. Never make permanent choices. When Holly stressed, that's why I'm saying, those women come and say, oh, i'd've known this, I wouldn't have divorced my husband or my wife. You have to take a plan pause. When a fight gets too hot, you gotta be able to step away. My wife and I have figured out how to fight. If we started raising our voices, we would say, let's just stop, let's go away, let's go to our neutral corners and then let me think without having this constant feedback, and let me come back and let's try and be reasonable. Stop trying to fix things when you feel threatened. You're not going to solve a problem while you guys are both at this heightened stress state, and wait till your body is calm and rested, even if you have to sleep on They talk about don't go to sleep angry, Well, sometimes you need to let your subconscious figure things out. Not going to sleep angry, but just say, hey, we're going to pick this up tomorrow when we're not tired, when we both made not hungry, and then let's talk about it all right, all right, Clarity first decision. Second, First, repair your sleep and lower stress, lower the feeling of threatning your body. Then look at your relationship with a clear man. Decisions should always come

43:47 from a calm truth, and I will. And you know, my whole idea is cannot manage what cannot measure, So you need to measure your heartmones. That's what we talk about. So please you know, as always, I would love for you to join my school group. All of my links are right there. You can follow me on TikTok. I'll be doing TikTok Live. I'm at the Harmone Doctor. I do TikTok live every Wednesday after this at eleven o'clock. This is where I see that I see the problems. There's so many people on TikTok and Facebook trying to figure all of this stuff out. And the reason why I know it because a lot of these people have harmone problems and they talk about how it's causing the problems with their relationships. So join me on TikTok, join my school group. Please subscribe to my YouTube channel is ass Blueprint one comment, ask me questions. I tried to answer the questions from last week. I hope I did that, Rebel, you have any questions? Do anybody have any questions today?

44:48 They had some questions answered them as okay. I tried to. So I tried to look at the questions last week, and I said, let me try and put it all together. But this is you know, I'm trying to just impress upon you that when we wrote that book the Stress Connection, I really didn't understand completely how much it was connected. But stress does cause problems. And the reason why we wrote that book is because we understood that harmones alone are just looking at estrage of progesterone and women are testosterone and men didn't give us a clear picture, and now almost every quarter's all curved or quarters all tests I do. It's abnormal because I was just looking at something last night and it was just showing some situations at food banks and whatever because a lot of the subsidies have gone away. And this guy was saying, Hey, everybody feels like they're in survival mode. That's not a good thing, okay, because no one can be reasonable when they're in survival. No one's really thinking clearly when they're in survival. So we need to identify that in each person, and that is how we're going to calm down some of this tension that we all feel. And whether you're admit it or not, we all feel it, and so it's affecting us and you need to be able to figure out how to combat it. And that's why I'm putting this information out, and that's why I'm talking about adaptogens and all of these things to help you to correct that quarter's all flow and correct your hormones so

46:20 that you can live life to the fullest and not run this blueprint that is going to disrupt your life and maybe disrupt the lives of future generations. So that's the age of blueprint. Tip of today is if you want to change the future, change yourself. Okay, look at yourself, look at the stress, look at how you're thinking, how you're reacting, and that can change your relationship and it can change change your blueprint. All right, So that's the clothes we got what the twenty seconds left? Anything else, rebel I need to talk about. I tried to tell everybody how they can continue this information and join my school group. I'm really going to try and make it where you can go there and really, uh get more and more information about all of these all right, anything else, rebel, tell people where they can get this. Oh, going to school, the school group, you can do it. I have the it's everywhere. If you go to my TikTok, I have it there. DM me leave a comment. I'll show you exactly.

47:24 But if you join my school group, it's a step wise fashion. Start here, do this order the test. Here's how you get your results. Join my school group. It's all right there and just start at the start here and move and move forward. And you if you join school, I look at that. I always see the messages. I always respond. So that's how you can kind of stay a little bit closer is join the school group, and I have different courses and things in there, and I'm building it all the time. So uh, but I'll see you next Wednesday. Uh, and hopefully I'll see you on one of the other platforms. Thanks for joining Doctor Taylor today. If you missed any part of this show, just check out the podcast wherever you listen to podcasts. Angeless Blueprint is every Wednesday at nine am Eastern Time on W FOURC Radio at w FOURC dot com. Together, we discovered ancient secrets to better health through science and spirituality made for modern times. Until then, feel free to check out Angeless Blueprint podcast dot com and tailor Mvformulations dot com for more information.