Men often use intimacy to downshift.
Connection helps their nervous system relax after stress.
For many women, it works in the opposite direction.
Stress keeps the nervous system on high alert.
And a body in survival mode doesn’t seek intimacy —
it seeks safety.
Desire isn’t a switch you flip.
It’s a response to regulation.
When a woman feels calm, supported, and unpressured,
the body has space to open — emotionally and hormonally.
This isn’t about who wants sex more.
It’s about how stress and safety shape the nervous system differently.
Connection doesn’t start in the bedroom.
It starts by helping the body feel safe enough to be there.
