Feb. 18, 2026

Restoring the Family: The Four Needs That Hold a Marriage Together”

Restoring the Family: The Four Needs That Hold a Marriage Together”
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Season 2

Dr. Eldred Taylor steps out of the white coat for a raw, personal conversation about what actually sustains a 40-year marriage. He connects relationship safety and emotional regulation to nervous system biology—cortisol, oxytocin, dopamine—and explains why “never decide in dysregulation” may be the most practical marriage advice you’ll ever hear. A blueprint for stronger families, healthier kids, and a better society.

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and spirituality. A better life with Ageless Blueprint starts now.

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Here's your host, Doctor Eldrid Taylor.

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Hello, Hello, good morning. I am doctor Tay and as

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you see there, I the hertmone doctor and the Spiritual MD.

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But you know if you've been on my podcast by

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white Coat on with all the ass blueprint stuff and

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in the background, But today I want to just have

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kind of a personaltation and let people know who I

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am and the core values. You know, my patients I've

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been being a doctor for forty years. I have some

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since that I've known for twenty five thirty years, and

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they kind of know me. Me, Me and my wife

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and I. We practice together. We have a what we

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feel like we have an We don't we see patients

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one at a We don't rush through patients. We try

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to get to know our patients, and then our patients

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also get to know us, and so we enjoy medicine.

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We enjoy working together. And there's not a whole lot

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of couples can say that. And we enjoyed. But it

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didn't come easy. I've been we'll be married at forty

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year June, and uh, you know, marriage is marriage is

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It's not easy, you know. But what we've discovered that

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if you can survive, if you can filter your way through,

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if you can negotiate and navigate through a committed relationship,

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when you finally get to that endpoint. And I feel

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like we're at that at forty years, I feel like

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we're at that mountain. It is a beautiful, beautiful thing. Okay.

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And there was a lot of times where we could

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have manended all believeing. It's a lot of decisions. There's

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a lot of opportunities to say I can't take this anymore,

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but we didn't, and we're so glad we did. And

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I just want to talk about a little bit of

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this journey. And then I also want to connect it

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to what I talk about cortisol and hormones, because that's

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a part of it too, because when you are disregulated,

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when your hormones are out of balance, it's very hard

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for you to make logical decisions. You make emotional this.

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You make these primitive decisions. You're not making decisions that's

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using your executive function. And it ends up when you

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allow when you don't allow your conscious man and a

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lot of times when you're in love and you make

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unconscious decisions and you end up marrying a person that

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you probably shouldn't have married. And that's one of the

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things that people find out. Sometimes you have married in person.

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And if you understand what marriage is about and what

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connection is about you, you'll make better decisions even getting

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into the decision of being married. So anyway, so let's

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let's let's start with some slides and we'll see where

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this goes. But uh, if you have questions, I'd love to,

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you know, answer the questions. You know, I think this

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is important because at the end I'm going to show

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you is that the future of society depends on the

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future of the marriage. And I'm not talking about you know,

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these fake family values. I'm talking about scientific The children

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that we are producing are going to be affected what

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happened in home in the first four to seven years

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of their life. And it's subconscious, so they don't know

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that it has affected them. But when they go out

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into the real world, unconscious emotions and thoughts and feelings

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they get manifest in their reality. And so if there's

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if there was disruption in the family, they end up

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creating a ruptive life. So parenting is so important in

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marriage is so important because that's that's who's who's going

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to run the major institutions and run for political office

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and all that. So we have to look back and say, Okay,

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where we are now, is that something that was actually

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started because it was a problem in parenting in the forties,

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fifties and sixties and seventies or whatever, because that's when

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I grew up. I'm a baby boomer, So what was

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going on then? What was the parenting Like? Now, what

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is the parenting like now, and what kind of children

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have we produced? So just think about that, you guys.

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All right, all right, So this is my wife and

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I now that I'll be honest with you, going to say, well,

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doctor tell you you look a lot younger there. Well, yeah,

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because I will, I was younger there. That's actually in

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twenty fourteen and we were actually in Bordeaux or whatever

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that was. It was some anniversary I've forgot. But we've

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been married for forty years, and I believe that the

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most important decision we made in the first year of

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our marriage. And this is what I learned from my

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parents because they did the death do you part count

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is that you have to take divorce of have to

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burn the boats. Now I'm not saying if you're an

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abusive relationship or whatever, but if you are deciding that

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you're going to get married and your committee to have

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to burn them, have to take force. I still believe

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that that is the most important decision that two people

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have to make. Don't give yourself that option, okay, And

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then it makes you have to evolve, It makes you

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have to grow, It makes you have to become something

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that is greater than what you would be alone. So

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this union should enhance both of you, all right, So

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a relationshipship should make the man better and the woman better.

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And then I'll tell you when you have those two features,

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it magnifies. Okay. So the more you put in the

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relations the more both of you will grow, and the

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relationship multiply ten times that. And I'm telling you that

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that's something I learned two or three years ago. And

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I'll tell you why and how I learned. All right,

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So why this matters now? The reason why I brought

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this up is that I was talking to one patient

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and somehow we got on that I've been married for

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forty years. She's been a patient of ten or fifty years,

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and she was like, man, it's so rare that you

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guys worked together or all this, and you've been married

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for forty years. And so she sent me this tape. Well,

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she sent me this link to Harville Hendrix. Harvell Hendrix,

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and he's a marriage counselor and he's talking about the

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four core things that need to be a part of

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a marriage. But anyway, so she was talking about that,

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and then we had a couple who we've known for

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twenty years and they were on the brink of divorce

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they were thinking about. And so my wife had been

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talking to a woman and I had been to the mean.

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So we sat down and said, let's just resolve this.

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Sat there for two hours and we talked and we

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gave them our words, and at the end of the

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two hours, we had really resolved, and they had promised

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the divorce all they were going to work it out.

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They weren't going to have that as an option. And

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I also said, which is something that I remember. I

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don't even remember whose song I told him. I said, look, man,

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as the words of this old song says, it's a keeper. Okay,

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So they were. That's what they were worrying about, is

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how they were. It's like it's cheaper the keeper, cheaper

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to stay in them to separate. I'm not talking about

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money cheaper. I'm just telling you about the effects on

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your life and the children's life. It's cheaper to keep

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the relationship, all right. So now this is this is

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what I'm saying about childhood. You know, I see uh,

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I see patients that I talk about stress. And I

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asked you, you know, how long have you felt like

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And not everybody says this, but but a lot of

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people say, I don't even feeling and then the next

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question I always tell me about you, you feel like

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it was stable And almost all the time they're going

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like father or mother, they had an absent far, they

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were distant, whatever, something. There was some instability in the home. Okay.

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So that's why I'm saying that home environment. I've talked

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about this before, is that a child is in the

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data brainwave state. That means that whatever they see or hear,

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they take it into subconscious because at that point they

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don't have language, so all they feel and all they

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react to are all they remember are emotions. So for

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the first four years of your life, for the first

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four years of his life, they only receive emotions, they

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feel energy, and they get subconscious and they say, oh,

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the world is not safe, so I have to protect

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my I have to close my They don't they can't

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verbalize them, but that is what subconscious. So now as

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children grow up, they feel that same discan, instability, and

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all of those. So the family is a nervous system. Munich.

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Children love learn, Is love predictable? You know? Is conflict explosive?

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You know? So are they seeing love? And they see

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it all the consistency, and everybody safe, so they feel safe,

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So they don't feel the world, they feel anything. They

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feel safe. Are are they looking at that? Wow? Everything

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is an argument, Everything is eruptive. Wow, that's how the

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world is. Wow. I'm going to have to deal with that.

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And that is safety consistent because they want everybody wants

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to feel safe. That's the difference between the sympathetic and

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the parasitic nervous is when you feel unsafe. The sympathetic

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nervous is fight or flight. So you're always in that

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fight or flight. So whenever somebody says something to the

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fight or I gotta retreat. So it's set your nervousness.

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And we only have two switches. Either it is fight

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or flight or rest and digest. And what emotion is

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in your subconscious that is consistent? Is it rest and

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digest or is it constantly fight and fight a flight?

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All right? So and then we say, well, gosh, we

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you know, do I just for the kids? No? Not

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if it's two disregulated people. And so then you have

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this chronic hostility. They see this emotional cold war. So

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even they see you fighting all the time, they see

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you just saying we're just gonna suffer through this. We'll

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just be roommates. We're not gonna show any passion toward

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each other, We're not gonna tell the love. We're just

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gonna live in the same household. We're gonna try and

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raise these two three four kids, and we're just gonna suffer.

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Let me tell you that the children feel that. They

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may not verbalize it, they feel it all right. So

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this is not an ideal situation either. Just because you're present,

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it doesn't mean that the child feels safe. Sometimes it's

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it's almost worse to stay together for the kids because

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they're constantly seeing this emotional cold war. So either it's

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an explosive situation or it's two parents who are distant

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from each other, and really that makes child feel distant

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also because they don't feel like a safe family. So

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that's what that's, you know. And and again I'm gonna

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talk and talk about this. It's hard to feel regulated

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when your nervously or harmones are all right. So it's

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very hard to have that projection or family if you're

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inside is not uh is not feeling that way, right.

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So I told you I was listening to Harvlle Hendrix

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and this is the thing, he says. He says, you

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have to realize that you are married to a different person. Okay,

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that person is not like you. He talks about how

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there's nothing nature saying, so just think about it. You know,

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they say the snowflake all have geometric shapes. Every leaf

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is different, every tree is different everything. There's nothing exactly

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in nature. So for you to think that your partner

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is just like you, oh we have so much in common,

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He's just like me. No, that is your that is

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your your your love brain okay, is disconnected. You are

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in fantasy. And so you think that this person is

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just like No, that person is different. And we always

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say I want somebody to understand me, and was listening

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to I listen to all. So this is a Buddhist saying,

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no one understands. Okay, no one can understand. No one

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has lived your life. So you have to understand that

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each person has a totally different story and there's no

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way you can understand it or knew how I feel

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felt when we're eight years old and see bullied them

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or whatever. So understanding is what you want is somebody

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to hear you and to understand how you feel and

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that that's what they is not that, oh, I understand you,

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and now this is due to make yourself better. That

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is that is relation. That is relationship suicide. For a

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man to say, I know how you feel and this

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is what you should do. They don't want you to

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tell them what to do. They just want you to

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listen to how they feel, and they want you to

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mirror their emotion. And when I say mirror, it doesn't

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mean if they are upset you have to get upset.

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to a man, we don't understand it because we have

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a y chromosome. But if you are committed to the relationship,

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you want to do things that enhance the relationship. And

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if that means listening, mirroring, and understanding and making a

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wife feel safe, that's what I have to do. So anyway,

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nature that thrives on difference and marriage is different. Romantic

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love has the reality reveals it. So I'm saying, when

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you're in love, you don't make rational You just don't.

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You are living in a fantasy. Everybody who's in and

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people who are in love what they do is they

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change themselves in the ways that are not compatible, and

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then they try and cover it up because they say, hey,

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that it's like that eighty twenty rule. I guess, you know,

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well he's got eighty percent, and then I'll try and

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change the twenty percent and see that that's the that's

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the mistake. All right. So there's four coord needs, all right.

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Every marriage must protect the safety. The number one thing

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that both parties want is safety. Okay, they want to

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feel safe, cure. They want to feel like the other

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person not understands them, but relates to them, can feel

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how they feel, can kind of mirror, can understand, can

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move how they move. So they want safety. They want

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to make sure that this relationship is safe, that you're

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not going to go out, you know, and harm the

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relationship and break the trust of the relationship. That's how

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they want to feel. So then if you feel like that,

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you cannot really connect until you have this emotional safety

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that both people feel safe, and when they feel safe,

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they feel like they're not going to be attacked, then

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they connect. And here's here's the quantum field theory about that,

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is that when you if you believe that everything is connected,

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because we're all energy. And what he talks about is

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when you make that one connection with your spouse, you

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really make a deep connection. It helps you to feel

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connected to everything. So that one connection, it really connects

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you to everything. It's called nonlocality. You can do something

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in one place and it can be felt in another place.

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that's why it feels so good when you're connected to someone,

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you go out in nature, and nature, you know, feels better.

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I talk about you know, when a man has had sex,

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he forgets all of his problems and he goes out

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and he hears birds and whatever. Because now men think

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connection is sex, but that's not how women's. Women see compassion.

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women see it as passion and that that's how they connect.

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And so then after connection, they you want to feel value.

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and bringing something to the relationship that's enhancing him and

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now is better. And then when you do that, when

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that relationship expands, then that's the aliveness, that's the passion

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that everybody wants. And and and here's here's here's the thing,

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and this is what I've is that when you have passion,

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sex becomes less important. And that's that's revolutionary for a man,

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and I'm a man now that we have really gone

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through all of this and we're at this stage. Man,

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passion it's better than sex, I'm going to tell you,

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because I can look at her and I can feel

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the passion and we look at each other and smile,

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and sometimes that is better than this temporary you know,

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five ten, however long you can have sex is because

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passion is that when I when I see her in

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the morning, I feel the passion and it has nothing

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to do with so so that's it. But you gotta

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have safety. You got and this is all I'm gona

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tell you. I'll tell you I did not do this

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full circle really to about two or three. Okay, my

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wife I done felt she didn't feel fully safe. He

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felt Look, she felt eighty percent safe, but not that

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twenty percent. We had eighty percent connection, but I'm telling

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you we didn't have the other. She felt some value,

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but I don't think she felt complete value. And we

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had some passion, but we didn't have that tenuous Okay,

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So you can you can get through marriage, and marriage

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can be good. But I'm going to tell you if

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you can make that one shift, it can be great.

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And I'm telling you we've been married for forty years,

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we've had two two and a half three years great

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marriage and all of those pictures you see of us

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in Egypt and all that, that's because we hanced our

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relationship and now we have we are. We feel so alive,

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we go, we've been Africa two or three times.

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We done.

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And that's what I'm talking about. That's the passion that

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you just enjoy, enjoy experiencing life together. And that's it.

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And I don't want you to feel too you know,

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woo woo stuff, But I'm just this is what we've experienced. Okay.

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So what's the biology behind this. Well, when you feel safe,

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you can rest and digest, okay, and that's where your

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sexual energy can. You have to be really in order

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for the reproductive system to work. That's why men have

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performance anxiety. That's why women when they go through infertility

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work up is so stressful that a lot of times

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they can't get pregnant. Then once they relax, now they

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get pregnant because now the rest and digest system is

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allowed to reproductive system to work. So then the reason

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of our connection is because we value, Are we crave

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binding are oxytocin. Oxytocin is when you hug somebody that

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you love and you just feel it. That's that binding

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or bonding hormone. And so and then the value is

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that everybody wants they have a certain identity that they

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want to protect, okay, and they want you to respect

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that identity. And then the aliveness is the dopamine, the vitality,

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and the sexuality. That's what I'm talking about. I'm telling

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you that passion is a wonderful thing. And when you're

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passionate about something or someone, it's a it's a great feeling.

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All right. So let's see we're still doing it. Kind

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of good all time, all right. So Stage one, See

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there's romantic love, and believe it or not, you are

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attracted to a person who subconsciously is different from you.

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And that difference is actually good, okay, because I'll tell

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you my wife and I were we are very different,

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but it actually fulfills some of my weaknesses. And so anyway,

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let's start it. So you get you get chemistry, and

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you fall in love. You see this person, it's just

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oh God. And what you're really doing, you're projecting your

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ideal person onto this person. Okay, So you have an

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idealized idea of what this person is because when you

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you are in love, it covers up a multitude of faults. Okay.

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Now this is romantic love. So you don't see that

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the you know, his feet or nasty or you don't.

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You don't see a lot of the stuff. You just

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see what you want to see, okay, And so it

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is wonderful. You don't see the differences. And I told

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you Nature does not make anything exactly the same. So

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you may think you have so many things in common,

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but you are different. You two are different, he says,

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you wake up from the honeymoon and you find out

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that that person is different. Now, sometimes the honeymoon is

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a day, and sometimes the honeymoon is two, three, four years.

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But sooner or later you're going to find out that

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that person is different. So the difference is surface, okay.

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And then they really come from the childhood wounds. You

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really want your spouse to provide you what you didn't

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get as a child, and that's this Harvey injuries that's

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what he said. That's that's his theory is that that's

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what you are, that's what you are are longing for,

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and that's what you are attracted to. You don't know that, okay,

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but you are attracted to the things that you didn't

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get as a child. And remember all of those are emotions.

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You can't verbalize it or whatever, but it comes up.

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So now when they when you find out that that's

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what's that, there's differences, all right, you say, that's not

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what I signed up for. I wanted you to be

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what I am, not what I am lacking. Okay. So

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but then you find out that that person is exhibiting

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all those and at first you see it as a problem,

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and then when you are under stress, it just intensifies

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those differences. Those differences aggravate you even more, all right,

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And so most couples will exit right there. They're like,

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you're not the person I'm married. And I'll tell you

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that that life situations. When children come, mother change, women change,

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fathers change. Okay, So when children come, when you're dealing

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with all of the issues of parenting, those are stressful events.

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So it intensifies those differences, right, So you have to

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understand that as life changes, the person is going to change.

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And people say, we grew apart. Yeah, you're right, you

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did grow apart. You went your own ways, you didn't connect,

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and you had these joint joint projects that you wanted

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to do, a joint ideas, right, So let's move on.

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So and then what Harvard Hendrix doesn't understand is that, yes,

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it's hard to feel connected, it's hard to feel safe,

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it's hard to feel alive, and it's hard to feel

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valued when all of this stuff is going on. You

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got chronic cortisol, we don't sleep, we have sleep deprivation,

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has tos, throne shifts, period malopolse ships, identity crisis. You know,

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people get to their fifties and life is that all

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their is. I've worked, worked, worked, and now I'm here

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and I'm tired. My family's falling apart. I have all

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these things. What is this all about? So you've got

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to you've got to navigate it. You've got to be

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able to identify all of these issues and and and

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that's that's why I think you know these two go together.

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Is that the couple that we talked to last night,

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they are two days ago. They had the patient for

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a long time, so they understand all this. We got

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the hormones right, they come in and get ivs, the

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quarters are right, so they were. They were in the

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perfect situation that we could sit down and talk to

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them and they could actually full And really the whole

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issue was neither one of them felt sicke. The man

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was having some financial challenges in his business, so he

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was not feeling safe, and then it was making her

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feel unsafe. Okay, So it was really all about that

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first one. And when you don't have safety, you can't connect,

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you can't value each other, and you definitely can't feel alive.

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So it was all about trying to understand that they

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both were feeling insecure. They both were feeling unsafe, so

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they had to verbalize that. And so now she understood

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while he was reacting like that, he was keeping all

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of that in. He didn't want to tell her all

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of that stuff. So we got it all out in

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the open. They both understood each other. And here's the

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other thing. My wife brought me into the session because

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she said, I need some man ears in here because

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things get misinterpreted because a woman speaks from a woman's

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brain and a man hears from a man's brain, and

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a lot of times that communication gets disrupted in the process.

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All right, So let's go ahead. The early decision divorce

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was not an option. So what it did is forced

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us to grow. And that's what we have done. We

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have grown. We have grown emotionally, we've grown physically. You know,

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we go to the gym, trying to take care of

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our bodies. We know we're getting older. Were trying to

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take care of our brain. We try to always be learning.

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We try to do things to challenge ourselves. We you know,

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we went and climbed this mountain to see the mountain guerrillas.

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It was a challenge and so we experienced life together.

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You see. We've been to each of all these kinds

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of things, all right, So what that is created? So

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it's time for a break. So then we're going to

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get like, so what do you do from here? So

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we've been on for thirty minutes, so let's take a

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little break and then we'll go from there.

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We are going to a quick break, So stay with

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doctor Eldred Taylor.

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All right, hello, we're back and if you just join us,

472
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welcome to Asless Blueprint. And I am the hartmone doctor

473
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and Spiritual MD. But now today I'm just the married

474
00:26:49.920 --> 00:26:54.960
guy's about to celebrate his fortieth wedding anniversary and trying

475
00:26:55.000 --> 00:26:58.160
to you know, I see these YouTube videos they have

476
00:26:58.319 --> 00:27:02.640
these older get older bulls and gus talking about what

477
00:27:02.680 --> 00:27:06.079
they wish they knew, you know, they may be sixty seventy.

478
00:27:06.279 --> 00:27:08.640
Hey what I wish I knew, you know, a long

479
00:27:08.680 --> 00:27:11.039
time ago, my life would have been easier. So this

480
00:27:11.079 --> 00:27:14.079
is what I'm kind of getting across. Hey, look, this

481
00:27:14.160 --> 00:27:18.759
is how we survived forty years of marriage. I'm listening

482
00:27:18.799 --> 00:27:21.519
to people who are supposed to be marriage coun you

483
00:27:21.559 --> 00:27:24.079
know who. Our marriage counsel is good, and I'm just

484
00:27:24.119 --> 00:27:27.039
trying to see how can I add what I know

485
00:27:27.519 --> 00:27:32.119
to what are those core values of love and marriage

486
00:27:32.200 --> 00:27:35.920
or whatever that we talked about, which was safety, connection, value,

487
00:27:36.160 --> 00:27:40.200
and then vitality or Latin. So what that created when

488
00:27:40.240 --> 00:27:42.960
we decided that we were not going to get divorces,

489
00:27:43.039 --> 00:27:45.240
divorce was off the table. So what we would do

490
00:27:45.440 --> 00:27:48.759
is that, Hey, when we saw that a discussion was

491
00:27:48.799 --> 00:27:51.960
getting a little bit out of hand, we'd say, hey,

492
00:27:53.160 --> 00:27:56.480
we're raising our voice. Let's take a little time. Let's

493
00:27:56.519 --> 00:27:59.480
go to our corners. You know. Luckily we have a

494
00:27:59.519 --> 00:28:02.559
big enough house where you can go one place and

495
00:28:02.599 --> 00:28:04.799
we just kind of calmed down for a minute and

496
00:28:04.920 --> 00:28:07.319
really under try and figure out, all right, now, what

497
00:28:07.400 --> 00:28:09.960
is this all about? All right? Now? Sometimes I will

498
00:28:10.039 --> 00:28:12.480
go and take a walk. The exercise kind of clear

499
00:28:12.519 --> 00:28:15.200
your mind. You know and try and stay in the present.

500
00:28:15.240 --> 00:28:17.480
Don't talk about things that have happened and all that.

501
00:28:17.640 --> 00:28:21.200
Just stay in the present. What is this particular situation about.

502
00:28:21.400 --> 00:28:25.240
We gave ourselves some space before we made any real

503
00:28:25.279 --> 00:28:29.079
decisions about whatever we were arguing about. Let's let's calm down,

504
00:28:29.519 --> 00:28:33.799
Let's let our executive brain come back online. Let's get

505
00:28:33.839 --> 00:28:36.400
out of the fight or flight. Let's let's think about this,

506
00:28:36.759 --> 00:28:40.200
and let's think about how important our relationship is. Now,

507
00:28:40.279 --> 00:28:43.799
let's go back and talk. Okay, So never decide in

508
00:28:43.920 --> 00:28:47.920
this regulation. Never decide when your frontal cortex, when your

509
00:28:48.000 --> 00:28:51.400
executive brain is offline, whenever you're in fight to flight.

510
00:28:51.559 --> 00:28:55.880
That's what is That's what's happening right now. Here's what

511
00:28:56.039 --> 00:29:00.279
actually happened in our marriage. Now. You see, now I've

512
00:29:00.279 --> 00:29:02.000
told you that the only reason why I started age

513
00:29:02.079 --> 00:29:05.240
was the print. And you know I'm doing what I'm

514
00:29:05.240 --> 00:29:09.960
doing today is because I changed. Okay. I was turning

515
00:29:10.160 --> 00:29:14.319
sixty four, about to turn sixty five, and I said,

516
00:29:14.880 --> 00:29:17.839
you know, I don't I'm not sure which way my

517
00:29:17.960 --> 00:29:21.119
life is going. And we're just gonna just decline and

518
00:29:21.240 --> 00:29:23.720
just fade off into the sunset? Are we going to

519
00:29:23.799 --> 00:29:28.599
try and live life to the fullest. So I and actually,

520
00:29:29.039 --> 00:29:32.960
you know, I will tell you that I changed. People

521
00:29:33.119 --> 00:29:38.279
change when there's conflict or when there's chaos. So what

522
00:29:38.319 --> 00:29:41.279
was actually happening is I was there was a lot

523
00:29:41.279 --> 00:29:44.880
of things going on. We had some issues with some

524
00:29:45.000 --> 00:29:48.480
neighbors and family and whatever, and I was really feeling frustrated.

525
00:29:48.920 --> 00:29:51.119
And my wife was like, what is wrong with you?

526
00:29:51.160 --> 00:29:52.559
Why are you like this? She said, I don't know

527
00:29:52.559 --> 00:29:54.599
if I can stay with you if you remain like this,

528
00:29:54.920 --> 00:29:58.000
And this is after we were married thirty eight years,

529
00:29:58.279 --> 00:30:01.640
and I'm like, wow, you know what is wrong with me?

530
00:30:01.720 --> 00:30:04.880
So anyway, I took that reality creator course and I

531
00:30:04.960 --> 00:30:07.920
decided I was going to create my future. Is that

532
00:30:08.039 --> 00:30:11.960
you can. You can think your way into a better

533
00:30:12.039 --> 00:30:16.519
future because what you feel internally will be manifested externally.

534
00:30:16.839 --> 00:30:19.119
And one of the things I wanted was I wanted

535
00:30:19.160 --> 00:30:22.400
my wife. I wanted us to have a true, loving relationship.

536
00:30:22.720 --> 00:30:25.440
And what I understood is that I had to change.

537
00:30:25.519 --> 00:30:29.400
I had to understand her better. And she always thought

538
00:30:29.440 --> 00:30:33.480
that I listened to her, but I didn't really hear her.

539
00:30:33.880 --> 00:30:37.000
And women wanted to be heard, and the only way

540
00:30:37.039 --> 00:30:39.480
I could do that is I had to open up

541
00:30:39.880 --> 00:30:44.319
and allow my emotions to be exposed, and then I

542
00:30:44.359 --> 00:30:48.039
could understand her emotions. And men are taught to suppress

543
00:30:48.119 --> 00:30:51.799
their emotions, and the only time men can release their

544
00:30:51.839 --> 00:30:54.519
emotions is when they have sex. So they have all

545
00:30:54.559 --> 00:30:57.799
these pent up emotions. And the reason why men gravitate

546
00:30:57.839 --> 00:31:00.200
towards sex because that is the one time they can

547
00:31:00.240 --> 00:31:04.839
feel free to express themselves. So, oh, you know, so

548
00:31:04.920 --> 00:31:08.079
then that's it. So when you open yourself up and

549
00:31:08.160 --> 00:31:11.680
you allow your emotions to come out more regularly and

550
00:31:11.680 --> 00:31:15.839
more consistently match the emotions of your wife, that's when

551
00:31:15.960 --> 00:31:21.039
the marriage, I'm telling you it exploded. Okay, this these

552
00:31:21.240 --> 00:31:24.000
last two years, have no doubt about it. In the

553
00:31:24.039 --> 00:31:27.720
best two years of our marriage. Why because I changed

554
00:31:27.839 --> 00:31:30.960
and then when I changed, she responded to me differently,

555
00:31:31.279 --> 00:31:33.799
and then she started to change because she had to.

556
00:31:34.240 --> 00:31:37.319
She had to reflect back my change. And so that's

557
00:31:37.359 --> 00:31:40.640
how it happens. Okay, when one person changed, so you're

558
00:31:40.640 --> 00:31:43.720
trying to change the other person. And you we've all

559
00:31:43.799 --> 00:31:46.680
heard this. We said, the other person will change in

560
00:31:46.720 --> 00:31:49.920
response to you changing. So I had to take It's

561
00:31:49.960 --> 00:31:53.319
not that my wife didn't love me like how I wanted.

562
00:31:53.799 --> 00:31:57.079
I needed to love her like I wanted her to

563
00:31:57.160 --> 00:32:02.920
love me. Okay, Now it sounds crazy and paradoxical, but

564
00:32:03.079 --> 00:32:06.160
that is when our marriage changed, is when I changed.

565
00:32:06.400 --> 00:32:10.000
So stop trying to change your spouse. If you change,

566
00:32:10.400 --> 00:32:14.799
the person will well if you change, the person will

567
00:32:14.839 --> 00:32:19.079
respond to you differently if they if they love you, Okay,

568
00:32:19.440 --> 00:32:24.400
be loved because love can't out all fear. Love covers

569
00:32:24.480 --> 00:32:27.920
up a multitude of faults, faith, hope, and love. But

570
00:32:28.000 --> 00:32:31.200
the greatest of these is love. And I'll tell you

571
00:32:31.240 --> 00:32:34.599
what I told the couple. I said, sometimes my wife

572
00:32:34.640 --> 00:32:38.720
gets on my very last nerve, but I love her, Okay,

573
00:32:39.240 --> 00:32:43.160
is that I can't. I love her, so I can't.

574
00:32:43.400 --> 00:32:45.839
It doesn't matter. She gets on my nerves, but at

575
00:32:45.839 --> 00:32:48.079
the end, I just love her and I'll get over

576
00:32:48.119 --> 00:32:50.880
it and then we'll go back and we'll continue to

577
00:32:50.920 --> 00:32:54.400
have this relationship. All right. So that's what I'm talking about.

578
00:32:54.440 --> 00:32:56.880
If you can just push through. And it took me

579
00:32:56.960 --> 00:32:59.799
thirty eight years, hopefully it won't take you that long. Okay,

580
00:33:00.200 --> 00:33:03.799
hopefully it'll take you less time. But now we had

581
00:33:03.839 --> 00:33:06.240
a good marriage, but now it's great. So I just

582
00:33:06.279 --> 00:33:07.880
want to put that I'm not saying that we just

583
00:33:07.960 --> 00:33:10.039
stayed together for the kids and all that stuff. No,

584
00:33:10.119 --> 00:33:13.160
we didn't. We nurtured our relationship from the beginning. We

585
00:33:13.519 --> 00:33:17.359
took date nights because we understood that if we loved

586
00:33:17.359 --> 00:33:20.279
our family, we had to stay together. We learned that

587
00:33:20.319 --> 00:33:24.039
the hard way. Okay, we did it, so that's important,

588
00:33:24.039 --> 00:33:27.319
all right. So anyway, so yesterday's session, how we were

589
00:33:27.319 --> 00:33:31.559
able to do. We slowed them down, We normalized their stress.

590
00:33:31.599 --> 00:33:34.000
We let it like, this is how these two people feel.

591
00:33:34.440 --> 00:33:37.559
You have to you have to communicate that. We removed

592
00:33:37.559 --> 00:33:41.640
the catastrophic think. Catastrophic thinking. We told them at the beginning,

593
00:33:41.880 --> 00:33:44.680
let's take divorce off the table, and now let's talk.

594
00:33:44.960 --> 00:33:48.839
Because when you threatened somebody with divorce, that disturbs their safety.

595
00:33:49.240 --> 00:33:52.759
So once you mentioned that, now they feel unsafe. Now

596
00:33:52.799 --> 00:33:55.759
they're in fight or flight. Now their executive function has

597
00:33:55.799 --> 00:33:59.200
turned off. Okay, so you have to stay with that.

598
00:33:59.359 --> 00:34:02.400
Divorce is is not an option. Now let's talk. Let's

599
00:34:02.400 --> 00:34:04.599
figure out how we're going to grow from this. And

600
00:34:04.640 --> 00:34:08.039
we're not going to destroy this and destroy our family,

601
00:34:08.159 --> 00:34:10.760
destroy our kids. We are not going to do that.

602
00:34:11.199 --> 00:34:16.480
So so their nervous system softened, and that's when clarity returned.

603
00:34:16.599 --> 00:34:20.159
Their executive function came back on and they were able

604
00:34:20.239 --> 00:34:24.119
to work this out. Now I'm not I'm not naive.

605
00:34:25.239 --> 00:34:29.239
They still need marital counseling, but hopefully they're going to

606
00:34:29.280 --> 00:34:31.760
come at it in a different way. All right, So

607
00:34:32.280 --> 00:34:34.920
let's let's talk about greater voice, because they were in

608
00:34:34.960 --> 00:34:38.679
that greater voice section. Okay, and his wife had actually

609
00:34:38.960 --> 00:34:42.800
passed away, so he was a widower and this was

610
00:34:42.800 --> 00:34:46.400
the second marriage and so that you know, that was

611
00:34:46.679 --> 00:34:48.840
you know, a whole kind of thing too. But anyway,

612
00:34:49.239 --> 00:34:51.960
so great a voice question. Are people divorced it because

613
00:34:51.960 --> 00:34:55.440
they are incompatible? Are because they are disregulated? Now I

614
00:34:55.480 --> 00:34:58.199
will tell you I have had I have had Patience

615
00:34:58.239 --> 00:35:00.960
come back to me after we got into harmon strait

616
00:35:01.039 --> 00:35:03.400
and they said, Wow, if I had have done this,

617
00:35:03.519 --> 00:35:06.000
I probably wouldn't have gotten a divorce. I've heard that

618
00:35:06.119 --> 00:35:08.880
more than one time. So that's why I believe that

619
00:35:08.880 --> 00:35:12.079
that some divorces are just incompatible. But I believe that

620
00:35:12.239 --> 00:35:14.960
a lot of them is just you have two disregulated

621
00:35:15.000 --> 00:35:19.000
people trying to you know, trying to have those core

622
00:35:20.000 --> 00:35:24.840
values of relationship, trying to connect, trying to feel safe,

623
00:35:25.239 --> 00:35:28.960
trying to respect each other, and it's hard to respect

624
00:35:28.960 --> 00:35:32.119
another person when you don't love and respect yourself. Okay,

625
00:35:32.199 --> 00:35:37.639
So if you detegrate yourself, you you know, abuse yourself

626
00:35:37.679 --> 00:35:39.800
with the thoughts that you're having. It's very hard to

627
00:35:39.840 --> 00:35:43.079
love someone else if you don't love yourself. Okay, And

628
00:35:43.119 --> 00:35:46.679
those are all you know, all all of these religious

629
00:35:46.719 --> 00:35:50.400
teachings and all your you have to love yourself first.

630
00:35:50.800 --> 00:35:53.719
That's why they say on the airplane, put the mask

631
00:35:53.800 --> 00:35:56.159
on yourself first before you try and help somebody else.

632
00:35:56.480 --> 00:35:59.039
That is a key of life, I believe. All right.

633
00:35:59.400 --> 00:36:03.000
So the family, it's not nostalgia, it's not religion, it's

634
00:36:03.039 --> 00:36:08.159
not repression, but it's commitment. It's about identity evolution, and

635
00:36:08.599 --> 00:36:11.599
you have to realize that, yes, you are not married

636
00:36:11.639 --> 00:36:15.159
to the same person that you initially got married to.

637
00:36:15.760 --> 00:36:20.280
Everybody changes, their identity changes. People learn that, go through

638
00:36:20.320 --> 00:36:24.119
different experiences, so then they change. So and even your

639
00:36:24.239 --> 00:36:28.039
whole body we've all heard this. Every seven years, every

640
00:36:28.400 --> 00:36:30.719
cell in your body is different than what it was

641
00:36:30.800 --> 00:36:33.679
seven years ago. All right, So you are there, so

642
00:36:33.719 --> 00:36:36.639
you have to understand that you are going to change.

643
00:36:36.800 --> 00:36:38.360
Both of you are going to change. And you got

644
00:36:38.360 --> 00:36:41.280
to understand are you going to grow apart? Are you

645
00:36:41.400 --> 00:36:43.880
going to grow together. That is the decision that you

646
00:36:43.920 --> 00:36:46.239
have to make. But it's a lot easier to make

647
00:36:46.280 --> 00:36:49.159
it if you are all regulated and that you have

648
00:36:49.239 --> 00:36:52.199
a shared mission. You know, some people think it's crazy

649
00:36:52.239 --> 00:36:54.360
that me and my wife work together, but we have

650
00:36:54.440 --> 00:36:59.440
a shared mission, and that shared mission we enjoy working together.

651
00:36:59.800 --> 00:37:03.199
We are together the twenty four to seven unless I'm

652
00:37:03.599 --> 00:37:06.039
going to the store or whatever. We are together twenty

653
00:37:06.079 --> 00:37:08.440
four to seven, unless she's asleep and I'm down here.

654
00:37:08.880 --> 00:37:12.360
But we live our lives together, you know, And so

655
00:37:13.679 --> 00:37:17.400
that the fact that we have gone through all of

656
00:37:17.440 --> 00:37:20.320
this makes that a whole lot easier, because we could

657
00:37:20.320 --> 00:37:24.280
not have worked together early in our relationship because we

658
00:37:24.280 --> 00:37:28.280
were still disregulated. Now that we're more regulated, we can

659
00:37:28.440 --> 00:37:31.320
work together and enjoy each other and have a lot

660
00:37:31.360 --> 00:37:34.880
of fun. So anyway, so I'm telling you, so this

661
00:37:35.119 --> 00:37:41.199
is Harvel Hendrick's thesis. He says, the way you change

662
00:37:41.239 --> 00:37:45.719
society is you create stable families. If you can create

663
00:37:45.760 --> 00:37:50.800
a stable family, you are going to have well regulated children.

664
00:37:50.880 --> 00:37:54.800
You're not going to have two disregulated people coming together.

665
00:37:55.280 --> 00:37:59.360
All right. Then that makes secure adults, and now these

666
00:37:59.400 --> 00:38:03.440
secure else can make strong communities. And then these strong

667
00:38:03.519 --> 00:38:08.199
communities can actually change society, all right. So that's his

668
00:38:08.360 --> 00:38:11.320
thought process, and he thinks that the reason that if

669
00:38:11.360 --> 00:38:14.119
you look at society now, what you do is you

670
00:38:14.159 --> 00:38:18.239
go backwards and say, what was the family life like

671
00:38:18.840 --> 00:38:22.440
with these children or whoever you're talking about, what was

672
00:38:22.480 --> 00:38:26.280
the family life like? It has family life changed in

673
00:38:26.320 --> 00:38:29.400
the last forty fifty years? Will of course it? Okay,

674
00:38:30.000 --> 00:38:36.360
So I am. I am a product of parents who

675
00:38:36.400 --> 00:38:39.039
grew up in the depression. They grew up in Ninten

676
00:38:39.079 --> 00:38:42.960
twenty three in nineteen twenty seven. Okay, So that so

677
00:38:43.320 --> 00:38:47.159
we had a stable family of six children. There was

678
00:38:47.199 --> 00:38:50.159
no drama in our house. There was no mention of divorce.

679
00:38:50.239 --> 00:38:53.039
I never saw my pay my parents fight. I never

680
00:38:53.079 --> 00:38:56.760
saw them raise divorce at each other. And so that's

681
00:38:57.000 --> 00:39:03.000
how I am. Okay, now my wife totally different, parents divorced.

682
00:39:03.440 --> 00:39:06.239
She was looking for someone that she could have a

683
00:39:06.239 --> 00:39:09.400
stable family with. I guess I was looking for someone

684
00:39:09.840 --> 00:39:15.559
who was exciting, who was different than me, because she

685
00:39:15.760 --> 00:39:19.679
is the one who is planning these trips and these

686
00:39:19.719 --> 00:39:24.360
adventures and all of these things. Because she is different

687
00:39:24.360 --> 00:39:28.239
from me, and she sleeps late. I wake up early,

688
00:39:28.679 --> 00:39:30.840
I go to bed early. She stays up late. We

689
00:39:30.920 --> 00:39:33.760
used to fight about that. Then we said, wow, that

690
00:39:33.840 --> 00:39:37.320
makes us productive, like twenty hours out of the day

691
00:39:37.760 --> 00:39:40.920
because somebody is up doing something for the family or

692
00:39:40.920 --> 00:39:43.840
for the business or whatever, taking care of the house.

693
00:39:44.239 --> 00:39:48.920
So we ended up and we ended up cherishing, cherishing

694
00:39:49.480 --> 00:39:54.360
our differences. And that's what Carville Hendrix is saying. He says, Look,

695
00:39:54.760 --> 00:39:57.719
you are looking for somebody to complete you. You are

696
00:39:57.760 --> 00:40:00.239
looking for somebody to give you what you do didn't

697
00:40:00.280 --> 00:40:03.039
get when you were growing up. You're looking for someone

698
00:40:03.079 --> 00:40:07.199
who has a different perspective on life so you can grow.

699
00:40:07.639 --> 00:40:10.880
And I will tell you that my wife has stimulated

700
00:40:10.920 --> 00:40:15.079
my growth every time when we wrote the books. All

701
00:40:15.119 --> 00:40:18.039
your heartmones making you sick, it's because my wife said,

702
00:40:18.519 --> 00:40:22.440
you're not passionate about anything. You finish your residency, you're

703
00:40:22.519 --> 00:40:25.679
doing your obijun, and you just think you've made it.

704
00:40:25.960 --> 00:40:28.719
You're only thirty something years old. You need to have

705
00:40:28.800 --> 00:40:31.280
some passion. And she wasn't talking about having more sex.

706
00:40:31.320 --> 00:40:34.000
She was talking about being passionate about something. So I

707
00:40:34.039 --> 00:40:37.239
got passionate about biodeonnical hormones and wrote. We wrote this

708
00:40:37.320 --> 00:40:40.880
book together, then we changed our practice together, all of

709
00:40:40.920 --> 00:40:43.920
these things because she challenged me. The reason why I'm

710
00:40:43.920 --> 00:40:48.039
doing ass footprint is because she's challenged me. She said,

711
00:40:48.239 --> 00:40:50.880
you can't be like this all the time. I can't.

712
00:40:50.960 --> 00:40:54.639
I don't like you being like this, and so I changed. Now,

713
00:40:54.719 --> 00:40:56.440
I'll tell you when I went to Egypt and we

714
00:40:56.519 --> 00:41:02.280
saw all of these statues of the pharaohs, and several

715
00:41:02.280 --> 00:41:05.519
of the statues would have the pharaoh in front, and

716
00:41:05.559 --> 00:41:07.320
then if you went to the side, you would see

717
00:41:07.320 --> 00:41:10.639
that there was a woman doing this, pushing him forward.

718
00:41:11.000 --> 00:41:13.519
And when you talk about behind every good man, there's

719
00:41:13.559 --> 00:41:18.719
a good woman, that is one hundred true. Because women

720
00:41:18.800 --> 00:41:21.920
see things in men that they don't see my and

721
00:41:22.000 --> 00:41:25.559
my wife saw things in me that I never even

722
00:41:25.679 --> 00:41:31.679
thought I was capable of. So women push men forward. Okay. Now, women,

723
00:41:31.960 --> 00:41:35.760
they don't need anybody to push them, Okay, they don't.

724
00:41:35.920 --> 00:41:40.000
But men need somebody to see what their potential is.

725
00:41:40.519 --> 00:41:44.639
Women know their power, they know their inner strength. Women

726
00:41:44.760 --> 00:41:48.000
they know that they have intuition, they're connected with themselves.

727
00:41:48.280 --> 00:41:52.280
Men have been told to disconnect from their inner emotions.

728
00:41:52.400 --> 00:41:54.920
All right, So now, but a woman can see it,

729
00:41:55.360 --> 00:41:59.199
and they can, and if you'll listen, then they can

730
00:41:59.440 --> 00:42:04.400
really hands your life. Okay, But men, I'll tell you

731
00:42:04.599 --> 00:42:09.039
need to listen to your wife. Your wife will allow

732
00:42:09.119 --> 00:42:13.360
you to become who you were destined to be. And

733
00:42:13.519 --> 00:42:16.960
I really one to believe that, because there's no way

734
00:42:17.440 --> 00:42:19.400
I would be doing what I'm doing now if my

735
00:42:19.519 --> 00:42:22.480
wife had not challenged me, been a partner with me.

736
00:42:22.800 --> 00:42:25.840
That we grew together and we're at the stage of

737
00:42:25.880 --> 00:42:29.559
our life and we're not looking at each other crossing

738
00:42:29.960 --> 00:42:33.159
and we're not wishing that the other person would go somewhere.

739
00:42:34.480 --> 00:42:39.840
It really is. I didn't know that after forty years

740
00:42:40.199 --> 00:42:43.400
you could feel better about a marriage then you felt

741
00:42:43.679 --> 00:42:47.400
when you first saw each other, and you're like, oh,

742
00:42:47.559 --> 00:42:50.119
you know this, this is a match made in heaven

743
00:42:50.119 --> 00:42:52.639
and all that stuff. You think that's the greatest thing

744
00:42:52.679 --> 00:42:54.559
that ever was, and you try to want to get

745
00:42:54.559 --> 00:42:56.719
back to that, but no, I'm telling you that there

746
00:42:56.800 --> 00:42:59.400
was much more at the end of that rainbow, and

747
00:42:59.519 --> 00:43:02.079
at the fat at the beginning of the rainbow. The

748
00:43:02.199 --> 00:43:05.199
light is brighter at the end than it even is

749
00:43:05.280 --> 00:43:09.159
at the beginning. So I don't know, Hey, rebel, I

750
00:43:09.199 --> 00:43:11.519
know we got a couple of minutes left, but I

751
00:43:11.519 --> 00:43:13.400
think I got one most like, so this is it.

752
00:43:13.719 --> 00:43:16.719
So if you want to change society. You don't start

753
00:43:16.719 --> 00:43:20.800
in Washington. It's not about the mid term elections, it's

754
00:43:20.840 --> 00:43:22.800
not about any of that stuff. If you want to

755
00:43:22.880 --> 00:43:25.559
change society in the future, you ought to start it

756
00:43:25.599 --> 00:43:29.239
in your living room first, with you and your spouse,

757
00:43:29.760 --> 00:43:32.920
before you even think about having children. But then when

758
00:43:32.920 --> 00:43:35.760
you have children, you got to think about how is

759
00:43:35.880 --> 00:43:40.119
my relationship with my spouse going to affect my children?

760
00:43:40.519 --> 00:43:43.639
And that's what's important. You got So if you want

761
00:43:43.639 --> 00:43:47.000
to if you're not happy with what society is, now

762
00:43:47.519 --> 00:43:51.519
change your living room. Okay, change your living room, Change

763
00:43:51.519 --> 00:43:54.559
how you relate to each other. Try to instill those

764
00:43:54.719 --> 00:43:58.039
core values, but try to get your body regulated so

765
00:43:58.079 --> 00:44:00.719
that you can provide safety for each other, so you

766
00:44:00.760 --> 00:44:04.440
can connect to each other, so you can respect each other,

767
00:44:04.920 --> 00:44:08.639
and then you can feel alive with each other and

768
00:44:08.679 --> 00:44:11.519
you can have passion in your life. And I'm telling you,

769
00:44:11.679 --> 00:44:15.280
passion is a wonderful feeling. All right, all right, Rebel,

770
00:44:15.840 --> 00:44:19.320
that's me next week. I'll be back as the hormone

771
00:44:19.320 --> 00:44:24.639
doctor and the spiritual MD. But I saw this, and

772
00:44:25.000 --> 00:44:28.559
you know, I'm thinking about bringing my wife on and

773
00:44:28.599 --> 00:44:32.920
we talk about this, and you know, so we just

774
00:44:32.960 --> 00:44:35.000
got to do it. At another time, like I told you, Rebel,

775
00:44:35.000 --> 00:44:38.119
because she she sleeps late. Nine o'clock is earlier for her.

776
00:44:38.199 --> 00:44:41.239
I've been up since five before thirty five o'clock. This

777
00:44:41.280 --> 00:44:44.400
is my time to shine. And that's why I do

778
00:44:44.519 --> 00:44:47.400
my podcast early like this, And I wanted to show

779
00:44:47.400 --> 00:44:49.639
you I'm in my spare bedroom. See, I sneak down

780
00:44:49.679 --> 00:44:51.320
here so I can do what I want to do

781
00:44:51.360 --> 00:44:54.840
and I don't disturb my wife. And so that's why

782
00:44:54.840 --> 00:44:57.400
I said, let me, let me let you see me

783
00:44:57.480 --> 00:45:00.119
in my natural habitat here. So all right, Rebel, Well,

784
00:45:00.480 --> 00:45:02.400
I know we gotta go. We got any questions or anything.

785
00:45:03.039 --> 00:45:06.119
We have a lot of questions. The first that song

786
00:45:06.480 --> 00:45:10.679
Cheaper to Keeper, isn't it? Possibly by Johnny Taylor from

787
00:45:10.760 --> 00:45:14.000
nineteen seventy exactly, Yes it is. Yes, it's Cheaper to Keeper.

788
00:45:14.480 --> 00:45:16.159
I was gonna say, like Ray Charles, I'm like, no,

789
00:45:16.239 --> 00:45:19.159
that's not it. Yeah, that was that was? So what

790
00:45:19.239 --> 00:45:21.599
else do we have? Do we have? Some? We have

791
00:45:21.920 --> 00:45:26.039
lots of questions here. I'm probably gonna have to eail Okay, Okay,

792
00:45:26.039 --> 00:45:28.599
We'll emailed me, yeah, and I will answer. I'll say

793
00:45:28.639 --> 00:45:30.599
here today and try to answer them. Okay, I know,

794
00:45:30.679 --> 00:45:32.840
I got on a roll and I couldn't stop. You

795
00:45:32.840 --> 00:45:35.679
can help all these their questions. You do a part two, okay,

796
00:45:35.719 --> 00:45:37.639
all right, So I'll look the questions and try to

797
00:45:37.639 --> 00:45:39.719
do a part two and maybe the part two is

798
00:45:40.039 --> 00:45:42.800
I'll bring my wife on. We can answer those questions. Okay,

799
00:45:43.039 --> 00:45:45.519
all right, all right, thank you guys, thanks for listening.

800
00:45:46.239 --> 00:45:50.000
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801
00:45:50.079 --> 00:45:53.559
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802
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803
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805
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806
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